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Need some help…seem to have somebody that hates me

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Bubbles9 · 26/06/2025 21:08

Hello all,

thank you for reading this post. I started a new job a few months ago. I love it, it helps so many people. Anyway today I was told someone wrote to the ceo using a fake email address telling them to sack me as I am terrible. All my references were excellent, I have flown through probation and signed up for additional learning costing me -a lot of money to support my job. Now scared my reputation is being damaged and my career, and I don’t know who by. I’m a single mum with two disabled children so really need this opportunity. I feel worried. My boss was great and very supportive but no idea what ceo thinks. Help please xx

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healthybychristmas · 26/06/2025 22:11

That's very worrying isn't it? Is there anyone who was openly jealous or resentful at you getting that job?

CatchHimDerry · 26/06/2025 22:13

Are you client / customer facing; is this some sort of disgruntled member of the public possibly?

MaryTheTurtle · 26/06/2025 22:14

Seems like an extremely unhinged thing to do. As if anyone would take notice of
that email and call you in on Monday and tell you they’ve received an anon email to sack you and YOU ARE FIRED. Who told you, was it the CEO? If not then it’s just someone gossiping batshit

FrothyCothy · 26/06/2025 22:15

Could it be an ex stirring up trouble?

MrsPerfect12 · 26/06/2025 22:16

Don't worry about the CEO. It sounds like someone outwith the company as they’ve didn’t know who your boss was and got the CEO’s details online. You need to keep alter for other stalkerish behaviour. Take note of when that email was sent and get a copy incase more things happen that need to be reported to the police.

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Bubbles9 · 27/06/2025 06:27

Thank you for your thoughts. I can’t face going into day, so will work from home today. There is no detail of my role yet in the public. So this is someone who must hate me to do something like this. I have a thought on an ex- very close friend, but wondered if she was actually capable of doing something so mean and untrue. She stop being my friend when I randomly was offered the job, and never truly understood why, but I think she felt that I had all the luck and her life was hard, when in face deep down she knew it wasn’t true. She also made a new friend who is unkind by nature, so I could see them together doing this. My boss told me because he wanted to warn me that there was some out out there doing this and to be aware and careful of security. He was supportive, but no idea what the ceo thinks. He doesn’t know me and May believe it. My boss said keep working as you are and you are fine. So I guess I have to try and forget about it. I just feel I could never do something like that, what would inspire you to behave like that? You are right, they didn’t know my boss, but hitting the ceo is more powerful. I feel very stupid and afraid, like I felt at school when bullied but this time the bully has hid their identity. If I get a second letter then I will hand them over to the police to look at. For now I will try and love my children and get through each day of work…I can’t imagine this leaving me in a while. Just want to cry. Thank you all

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90yomakeuproom · 27/06/2025 06:29

Please don't stay at home because of this. You should go in. Your boss may think you can't cope if you don't go in.

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Bubbles9 · 27/06/2025 06:31

its a good point, but sadly the ceo told my boss, my boss is straight down the line. So I believe him. We are only 70 people in the company. Bx

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Bubbles9 · 27/06/2025 06:35

friday is my day I can work from home to catch up, my team won’t be in and my boss on annual leave, otherwise I would have felt I had to go in. Thankfully I can just stop and work from home today. I will go back on Monday. With a smile and carry on - just need a day of peace really. I’m a bit afraid and it’s on replay in my mind. So time for me -will wfh and walk the dog at lunch.

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Bubbles9 · 27/06/2025 06:36

Thank you I will do x

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TheBig50 · 27/06/2025 06:36

The CEO will go to your manager for their opinion. If your manager knows that it's untrue and malicious then I'm sure the CEO will accept their word over some random.

Don't stay home because of it, that's only going to reflect negatively.

Thingyfanding · 27/06/2025 06:40

I think your gut feeling about the ex friend is probably correct. Keep showing up, bring good energy, keep working hard and this person will hopefully lose interest once they see that you’re not affected.

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Bubbles9 · 27/06/2025 06:41

Not yet, nobody knows im there yet, apart from a few people, my new team (some went for the job), an ex friend who was jealous I was offered the job and the people who gave me good references. Im not on LinkedIn or social media. X

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Bubbles9 · 27/06/2025 06:42

This helped a lot, and I need to not be nuts and change to much because of it. Thank you x

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Bubbles9 · 27/06/2025 06:45

you are right, ok I will go in and get the first day back done. You are right, I’m just being silly and stressed. I will go in with a smile and carry on. Thank you x

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Lafufufu · 27/06/2025 06:48

TheBig50 · 27/06/2025 06:36

The CEO will go to your manager for their opinion. If your manager knows that it's untrue and malicious then I'm sure the CEO will accept their word over some random.

Don't stay home because of it, that's only going to reflect negatively.

Agreed

i also think Your gut feeling is likely right.
Act normal at work

The crazy normally comes out in the writing so try not to think too much about it. The ceo can likely see through this and they want to give you a heads up there's a crazy in your life.

Do you have any mutual friends with your ex friend?
If so you need to tread carefully re information

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Bubbles9 · 27/06/2025 06:48

Good advice, I think she probably has the most reason - the last thing I did was leave her flowers, strange really, but I knew our friendship had passed. We see the world differently. Thank you for your advice x

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Bubbles9 · 27/06/2025 08:41

Yes he was arrested for harrassment at Christmas could be him?

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Bubbles9 · 27/06/2025 08:43

Thankfully he is pleased with all my work x

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Bubbles9 · 27/06/2025 08:44

Thank you. No they are not … but thank you wise advice x

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Calliopespa · 27/06/2025 08:47

Bubbles9 · 27/06/2025 06:27

Thank you for your thoughts. I can’t face going into day, so will work from home today. There is no detail of my role yet in the public. So this is someone who must hate me to do something like this. I have a thought on an ex- very close friend, but wondered if she was actually capable of doing something so mean and untrue. She stop being my friend when I randomly was offered the job, and never truly understood why, but I think she felt that I had all the luck and her life was hard, when in face deep down she knew it wasn’t true. She also made a new friend who is unkind by nature, so I could see them together doing this. My boss told me because he wanted to warn me that there was some out out there doing this and to be aware and careful of security. He was supportive, but no idea what the ceo thinks. He doesn’t know me and May believe it. My boss said keep working as you are and you are fine. So I guess I have to try and forget about it. I just feel I could never do something like that, what would inspire you to behave like that? You are right, they didn’t know my boss, but hitting the ceo is more powerful. I feel very stupid and afraid, like I felt at school when bullied but this time the bully has hid their identity. If I get a second letter then I will hand them over to the police to look at. For now I will try and love my children and get through each day of work…I can’t imagine this leaving me in a while. Just want to cry. Thank you all

Don’t do too much “ can’t face going in” or you will help this anonymous emailer in their bid to demonstrate you’re not up to much.

I’d be doing everything to foil their attempts at sabotage.

keepingonrunning · 27/06/2025 08:53

Could be a current partner or ex or someone who knows you have been bullied in the past to give you a complex and chip away at your confidence.
Sorry to say these fuckwits exist.

keepingonrunning · 27/06/2025 08:57

Be mindful what information about yourself you share and with whom.

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Bubbles9 · 27/06/2025 18:49

Thank you all, really good advice. I went in and had a great day. And I will keep doing that. All the advice was so good and it really helped me change direction. I do feel like I will have to really prove myself now, but I normally give 100 percentage at work. Thank you all. Meant the world to me, have a lovely weekend x

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cheeseomelette · 27/06/2025 19:02

Op I’m sorry, I’ve been there too.

fortunately I was shown the letter at an early stage and although it was anonymous, I worked closely with the person (!) and recognised the particular wording and style, even though the person had tried to disguise things, it’s very hard to change your innate way of communicating.

it was awful but I knew who I needed to be wary of. They also knew I knew. I had to style it out and be professional and breezy and pretend it wasnt bothering me for about 3 months before they finally escalated, imploded and ended up leaving.

I'm told it was motivated by jealousy but I don’t really know why. I think they had just totally lost the plot. It still makes me sad as we were previously close and it was such an awful time.

it’s good that you have support. Hold your head high and carry on.