Being ignored after giving notice in?

[Bakwell]

Is this normal? I still have to essentially do my job in my notice period but my manager has started ignoring requests/not saying hello etc. Not experienced this before. Makes me want to just say f it but I can't!

Yes it's normal. Your colleagues will detach from you now and it can be very lonley working notice. You won;t be copied in, invited to meetings etc. Just keep your head down, remain polite and try not to take it to heart.

I had an ex manager who did this. Basically your notice went in and you were dead to him, he wouldn't even speak to him if you approached him just walked off. It is the most bizarre thing. I couldn't imagine treating someone like that, it's like they took it as a personal slight that you found something better.

I've experienced both, but it's pretty normal for colleagues to start pulling away. Someone I work with currently has just resigned, and there's elemenets of our role that I can no longer really discuss with her, as they'd be commercially sensitive. She won't be invited to meetings any longer for the same reason. She's choosing to WFH quite a lot and has taken some holiday.

Yeah some of it is understandable, find it a bit petty ignoring the bits to enable me to finish tasks. Just wanted to handover properly. I will take it on the chin!

Good points, fair enough.

I've only experience this at 1, small company. It was awful. If I walked into the kitchen- my boss would walk out, no hello, avoided eye contact and made it miserable.
I went to a meeting and she told me to leave!
One particular day, I was on my feet all day with no break. The second I sat at my desk- she came over and asked me what I was doing being lazy in the chair!
The day I left, none of the management said goodbye and the goodbye card wasn't signed by any of them. Toxic!

Sounds awful!! Don't see the need to kick people on the way out. Some places are toxic.

I meant to say, try to stay polite and calm- especially if you will need a reference from them. Count the days down and mark them off a calendar. It can be very cathartic, especially when done with a giant, black marker and crossed out. Wishing you all the best.

I would go off sick for the remainder of my notice period.

I had it once - was set a task to compete during my notice period and ignored for the whole time. It wasn't a task I was able to complete, all I could do with chase people with actions. So I sent a chase e-mail daily and watched films in the middle of the office the rest of the time.
The toxic manager (reason for leaving in the first place) refused to engage with me at all or let me explain why I was unable to complete the task.
Did get a settlement for constructive dismissal afterwards, though not related to the notice period.

If I had gone sick, they would have found a way not to pay me. Keeping me there with nothing to do was punitive.

That's awful. Some of these places are just toxic. Glad you left.

I was made redundant and director - who I had worked with before she got that position never spoke to me during the month before I left. This included one evening when it was only the two of us in the office.

On the final day I left at lunchtime and invited people to drinks in the pub via email. HR manager asked where I was on the afternoon of my final day. Told her I would book sick with stress if they tried to make me come back.

Worked there for 10 years. Late nights, early mornings, working through lunch and even working while on holiday. And they tried to take me laptop off me that I had paid the difference between something crap and a Mac.

Sure, if your workplace is terrible.

This isn’t actually normal in my experience, but some people are awful.

Agree it is awful.
If you work your notice then it's a them problem.

No not necessarily awful, sometimes it's down to confidentiality and or how much hand over you are going to have to do. It's not always uncomfortable but you can't expect them to continue a full working relationship when you are leaving.

Yes some management take someone leaving as a personal rejection but it's quite normal if you leave any group for people who are staying to distance themselves, you are leaving, they are staying, that's all it is.

I would go off sick too.

The behaviour from some of these managers and colleagues is dreadful.

I was made redundant a few years ago along with 20 others and from the moment it was announced no one at all spoke to any of the "tainted" again. It was awful and after 2 days of it all 20 went off sick (fully paid sick leave) citing stress. It was horrific.

If you can’t do your job because of it then oh well that will be their problem.

truly vile.

It was awful and has affected a good many out of the group mentally ever since. I would never, ever put up with that behaviour again. I would call it out instantly if it ever happened again. Redundancies are bad enough anyway, but to then basically shun a whole group of people because of it shows exactly who people really are.

I refuse to get close to anyone at work in my current job because of it. They know nothing of my home life, I don't go to any work social events, I speak only of work and that's it.

I'm in the middle of a 3 month notice period. My boss and my direct colleagues have been great, but my boss's boss has been completely ignoring me. And given that my boss is currently off sick so I'm having to deal directly with his boss it is causing problems.
I was in the office with her the other day, she didn't speak to me once but was emailing my colleague who was WFH to ask questions about some of MY team members! Just walk 5 desks over and come and ask me!

I am also being excluded from meetings and conversations on a wider scale but I guess that's to be expected as I am not going to be involved long term.

It's a sign to me to stand down and do the bare minimum between now and when I leave (although that's not in my nature)

I was forced out of a job last year and they wanted me to work until my agreed leaving date in April, I refused as they clearly didn’t trust my judgement and that tied my hands. They also wanted me to attend a handover and return all my equipment and company car after my official leaving date. I pointed out that unless they were paying me, they didn’t get to dictate my whereabouts.

last night I went out with a former colleague from a sister company doing the same role I used to, I’m so glad I am out of it.

Just leave with immediate effect. I’ve done it in the past and I’ve always been paid. Don’t put up with petty behaviour, it’s not worth it.

I had a bad experience last year. I worked at a company for a year in a management role (it was a fixed term contract so I knew it was only temporary). There were some good experiences in the job. But the attitude when I left (and after I left) stung. My story: a woman who job shared picked on me in private when our boss was away and when I came back off holiday the manager suddenly called me for a one to one saying that she couldn't extend my contract as they had to go with another agency. Prior to that my agency reps visited my workplace and the bosses including her said nice things about me (that was relayed back to me). I also had one previous extension in the contract. Then i found the staff diary which showed me that my manager had planned to take two weeks leave, whilst the bully was allowed to conduct 'interviews' for a replacement (so would been given the power to 'fire' me - so I resigned a month early and left when the bully was on holiday). They ended up not using another agency but getting the nice man back who I originally covered in the role. Then my manager changed her mind about giving me a reference after saying 'yes' in the office and me waiting for a response by email after 3 weeks only for her boss to say that they checked with HR and couldn't give references to temps they knew under 2 years. I subsequently let them know that I had seven referees. They put shady references to my departure on the company fb when I left in August during a bank holiday weekend and then put a group picture (which included the bully in the middle) to present a united front. My husband had visited the workplace before I left as it was open to the public and noticed the team's general behaviour with their off body language. The manager ran upstairs and avoided us (we behaved impeccably). The bully conveniently took the day off as to avoid us as a couple. I never confided in any colleagues about anything. However my husband is a perceptive man and said they've been told not to approach you. It was thanks to good clients who gave me references - my agency also supported me, but I still feel bitter about the experience.

I got a card - and a crappy mug which didn't cost anything out of anyone's pocket. I got more respect and gifts from clients and my colleagues from another department.