Being ignored after giving notice in?

[Bakwell]

Is this normal? I still have to essentially do my job in my notice period but my manager has started ignoring requests/not saying hello etc. Not experienced this before. Makes me want to just say f it but I can't!

I find the corporate world very superficial. Had a lot of laughs and conversations when I worked with a certain team in London. Then when I left and returned on business it was like I gatecrashed someone's wake. Personally speaking for all my faults, if someone is cool with me at work and they leave, I would still act nice with them irrespective of the politics involved.

How strange! I’m in a public sector job and thankfully this isn’t normal. I’m mid way through a 12 week notice period which is painful, but just the way it is in teaching, got my new job before Christmas and don’t start until after Easter!

I've known people walk in on a Monday, do a day's work while clearing their desk, wait for the manager to go home & leave their resignation letter & a sick note for their notice period on the managers desk, block all work numbers on their phone & walk out never to be seen or heard from again. Civil Service toxic work environment. When I was being finished due to ill health, I had to go in for a final meeting before my employment was terminated, the meeting was supposed to be confidential but was held in the enquiry centre in a private room. Everyone in the enquiry centre staff knew why I was there, it was public knowledge, I was asked when I wanted my termination to be actioned from, I could have asked for up to 3 months, it was the end of the month the day after so I just said tomorrow, the whole tone changed after that, I had to hand in my keys, fob & ID, was handed 2 carrier bags with my personal belongings in & escorted off the premises, I wasn't able to say goodbye to my friends & colleagues. I didn't get a leaving card or present despite putting in for collections over the 27 years I had worked there, it really hurt.

Sorry to hear of your experience. After I left toxic company; emailed one woman who was lovely when I worked with her (never heard back from her again). Another coworker said he would meet with me and my husband for dinner and took me out for lunch when I left (never heard from him after a couple of emails). Then when i reached out to a client about a reference (after a humiliating u-turn from my former manager) the management team had the nerve to moan to my agency saying i should have checked with them first about reaching out to a client as I couldn't get a character reference otherwise (subsquently someone else helped me out with a reference).

Not normal for me. I've usually been asked to hand everything over to others, make sure documentation is updated and so on. I didn't have a leaving do at my last role, but I'd only been there 5 months. I got handshakes on the way out, though, and weirdly, a discussion of forthcoming network changes from my manager, with diagrams and all, through which I was sitting thinking, you do know I'm leaving? Why are you telling me any of this?

My previous role, I was made redundant just short of 19 years, and made sure I had leaving dos here and in two other countries where I knew colleagues well. I'm going to someone else's leaving do there later this week, 2 years after I left. I also made sure stuff was handed over, and took great pleasure in deleting most of my system accounts. I'm still in regular contact with a number of them,including my ex-manager.

HNRTFT but I think it’s rude and unprofessional.Absolutely no excuses for any reason.

Hi I know this is from a while back. But I’m currently experiencing this just now handed my notice in start of September and the people who I worked with met for lunch etc outside of work are not speaking to me even to reach out or get a coffee together. I’ve been told to sit tight do nothing basically till I leave in November but it’s isolating and I’m struggling a bit with it no leaving night organised nothing. Is it just me but I find it very difficult. I don’t start my new job for a bit yet but the radio silence is just weird. I’ve been here for 3 years too. Any tips or how are you now in new role x

I organised my own leaving do. Or more accurately, leaving dos...

A colleague of mine found this. She'd actually given longer notice than her required notice period , but cut it back to the minimum when her line manager showed her true colours.
Her attitude was Fxxx them.

I’ve experienced this in the last three roles - hand in notice, people start acting funny. It’s difficult to deal with I know.

if you can’t shorten your notice period (I did that at my last job) then try the excellent advice I was given in my job before last by the only person who didn’t go all funny on me - use the time to prep for your new role. Contact your new manager and have a couple of 1-1s impossible, get some more info so you can start thinking about the future and not be too pulled down by the crappy behaviour of your current colleagues. Go for a walk, do something else if they don’t want you to do any work or won’t help you do the work you have.

My new job is ace by the way!

Very unprofessional and immature behaviour from your manager.

I guess it is confirmation that you made the right choice when you decide to leave that company/team...

Thanks for that it’s good advice. I will reach out to my new manager and see if I can get some time in with him and anything I can look into before starting. I’m happy to hear this and about your new role ♥️have a good weekend 🥂

It could be anything - is there a retention problem in your department? Sometimes they like to isolate people leaving as managers get spooked that the feeling will catch and others will leave especially if there are unaddressed issues.

My best advice is keep your head up, act the same but don’t bend over backwards for anyone (obviously depends on role) don’t internalise anything. I had things to reflect on but I’m not taking on anyone’s poor attitude to me leaving.

im okay now thank you, am in a new role and happy. Good luck, soon it will be a distant memory x

How has your own behaviour been ? Have you been an exemplary employee ?
if so it would be unusual to treat you so disrespectfully. I make a tremendous effort fur my valued employees even if they leave.
However,
I’ve had toxic staff members leave and I just can’t wait for them to go. If they’ve given the manager/team issues then this will happen I guess.