Rude colleague

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At work my colleague and I were talking about the vacant roles in our team and there are interviews next week. I made a passing comment about it would be good to have new people externally as they may bring a different viewpoint and experience. My colleague said no it should be internal candidates as they know the organisation.

There are some internal candidates who don’t have the experience which means there would be a lot of training involved. Later on my colleague randomly said again internal candidates would be better, we were not even talking about it. She has no respect, that conversation ended ages ago and she has to have the last say.

Last time we had a mass exodus of the team leaving I had to train up new people and ended up burnt out because I was training and not relieved of duties. I don’t want to go through that again. She should train them then, not me. I don’t know why she did not drop it. Most colleagues don’t like her as she has no tact.

She wasn't rude or tactless. Sounds like a totally normal conversation.

You seem to be over reacting. It sounds like you already didn't like her and that is clouding your view.

I think I missed the rude bit.

As I said, later on we had a completely different conversation about something else not related. She decides to again randomly say we need internal candidates. It is as though she needs to make it clear her viewpoint is the only one that counts.

Ii think you already have beef with her...yes?

I have not but others have.

It is ok. She is entitled to her viewpoint as much as I am entitled to mine. If she wants to keep repeating herself for no reason then that is her way of expressing herself.

kimchiketch

well you join them now 😆

Soo true!

It's only fair all candidates are given an equal chance. How else can anyone outside the company get a job? I dislike this sort of process.

one of those things, does it really matter
find another job and be merry

😂 Yeah, she was abrupt when she first started. Others have no time for her but I was always inclusive and she did start being a bit more softer.

I think what it is, of course she can express herself and have a different view which I understand. It is just she said it again and I know what she is like she can’t accept others have a different viewpoint so had to reiterate it. The best option for me is to rise above it and be respectful.

I agree, really it should be the best person for the job. In the past my employer has a bad habit of recruiting internally even when the advert has gone externally. That is great if the internal candidate has the experience and the company wants people to progress. Though it makes you wonder how many external candidates get overlooked as people perceive it as easier to train someone who already knows the system.

A) She was either mulling it over or it came to her randomly.

B) If this was the first time she said it then she’s not repeating herself; she’s saying her thought the same amount you said yours.

The best option for me is to rise above it and be respectful.
Good job you did the exact opposite then.

So she said something twice that you disagree with 🤷‍♂️

I agree with @kimchiketch , what a very odd thread.

I'm not sure I understand the comments about the training? Surely the new person to the role will need training whether they are internally or externally hired?
I'd have thought there would be more training for a new external person as they also need to understand the culture and internal processes.

Why would the training fall on you and not your colleague?

The external person will probably have more knowledge if they have done a similar role whereas the internal candidates won’t. Then the internal candidates will know the culture but still won’t know the processes same external candidates won’t. I know, my colleague should be training as her role is the same as the vacant ones.

Are you involved in the recruitment process? If not I think you are massively overthinkibg this.

You cannot control whether they recruit externally or internally I assume.

You are spending quite a bit of time trying to justify to strangers why you are right about recruiting externally.