Rude colleague

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At work my colleague and I were talking about the vacant roles in our team and there are interviews next week. I made a passing comment about it would be good to have new people externally as they may bring a different viewpoint and experience. My colleague said no it should be internal candidates as they know the organisation.

There are some internal candidates who don’t have the experience which means there would be a lot of training involved. Later on my colleague randomly said again internal candidates would be better, we were not even talking about it. She has no respect, that conversation ended ages ago and she has to have the last say.

Last time we had a mass exodus of the team leaving I had to train up new people and ended up burnt out because I was training and not relieved of duties. I don’t want to go through that again. She should train them then, not me. I don’t know why she did not drop it. Most colleagues don’t like her as she has no tact.

Again, completely normal to return to previous conversations later on in the day.

OP if the roles are the same as your colleagues then I assume age will train them.

I'm struggling to understand why you are so worked up about someone bringing up a topic that was being discussed earlier in the day. That seems like a very normal and benign thing. Not at all strange. Certainly not enough of an event that I would start a thread about it

I'm now invested in whether they recruit internally or externally .

Exactly and I've experienced this as well. A job was unofficially kept open for a favoured colleague while he went travelling for a year and they were basically told this. I had a good friend who would've been fantastic for it but she was told it had been filled the same day it was offered. Totally unfair and nepotism in a sort of business way.

Not seeing any rudeness or lack of respect - just someone looking for a reason to complain.

You have different opinions, and neither of you are right or wrong.

If recruitment goes as it should the best candidate will get the job - whether they are internal or external. That's how I recruit.

Are you anything to do with the recruitment process?

You're over reacting x

Some people just always need to have the last say. Unfortunately most people's work colleagues are just that - colleagues and not friends. Just avoid if you don't like her. It doesn't sound rude but there's maybe a backstory we're not hearing.

Fuck me you sound exhausting
Do you usually get so offended over nothing?

She is as entitled to her opinion as you are to yours, and why should it be you who decides which one of you is right?

I think that would explain the mass exodus

You are massively overreacting...

She is allowed to have a different opinion from yours and to voice that opinion.

She has not done or said anything rude and frankly your reaction is odd.

Just say, "As long as I don't have to train everyone."

Doesn't sound like she was being rude to me just re affirming her opinion.
Where i work due to Equal.opps all roles are advertised both internally and externally. This ensures recruitment policies are fair.
All applicants whether external or internal are given equal weighting dependent on experience/skills. What we look fjr are transferable skills as well so having experience of an organisation doesn't necessarily mean they aren't right for the job.
The odd role may be ring fenced for secondments but that's not unusual.
We can't get offended by the opinion of others as people are bound to have different viewpoints. Doesnt mean you have to agree with them but equally i wouldn't be offended by her views. Id just think well thats her opinion and ive got mine and move on. That's life in general so no different in the workplace.

I’m a bit confused at the point of the thread, is it an AIBU, asking if you’re over reacting, looking for others views, how to handle it or just a rant?

let them know that you don’t have capacity to train new people with no experience

Some people feel threatened by change and don’t know how to adjust to other ways of working or thinking. I run into it alot in the type of work I do and I’ve had people have full blown door slamming melt downs in the middle of meetings where they stomp off, when going through simple things like “ tell me how you do this now, can you explain why you have to do this, can you explain how xyz benefits xyz…

Some people do things for no reason at all just hold power over something no matter how insignificant.

That could be your colleague. No matter what you say they aren’t going to come around. I wouldn’t bang your head on it.