Hate new job. Don't want to go back.

[Moonbearlove]

I started a new job this week and I absolutely hate it. I haven't got a proper work station, there was no preparation done prior to my arrival, it all feels so unprofessional and that noone gives a shit. I couldn't sleep a wink last night as I was so anxious at the thought of going in oday. I've made a big mistake and don't want to go back. I feel sick with dread. I'm a single mum though and don't have a partners income to rely on. I know I have to go back as it'll just be really hard to get a job when I don't have one and I won't be able to claim job seekers allowance for weeks. How am I going to get through this. Does anyone have any advice please? Thank you.

From experience I know how horrible a new job is, that feeling of not knowing what's coming mixed with losing what you know. Maybe give it a try?

Also to add, I've felt like this on the first day of most of my jobs. If you still feel like this after a month then look for another job x

You need to give it a bit longer. Imo it takes at least 3 months to settle into a new job (it takes me personally 6!)

Can you ask for some guidance when you go in tomorrow? If you try and take back a bit of agency in the situation you'll probably feel better.

First week is always wobbly.
give it a month

What's wrong exactly?

Can you ask to chat with your manager and go through your worries?

Definitely give it more time, I've felt this before and did take a while but ended up absolutely loving the job!

I could have written your post! Started new job on Monday and didn't sleep.a wink last night due to anxiety and thinking I've made a very bad mistake....thrown in deep and and just overwhelmed...it's awful.

I hope it gets better and once you get established, you'll enjoy it.

They obviously need you, if its such a mess.

Starting a new job is horrible. Try to relax in the evenings, grab some chocolate and watch tv or read if you can, whatever helps you switch off. Make sure you have nice coffee and lunches and keep going, hopefully it will all get better.

It sounds like you are feeling the new job blues , and it's very common, especially if it's at a new company. You don't know anyone, feel abit useless, not being given much work so boredom creeps in. You need to give it more time, 1 day is not enough to judge.

Thank you and hope you are right!!!

Thank you all for your replies. I've had the new job blues before and I know it's very common but this just feels like nowhere I've worked before. Noone, including my line manager, gives a shit. Its horrible. My mental health is poor at the moment due to a lot of trauma this past year including cancer and major surgery and bullying in my last job along with a huge amount of stress. I was desperate to leave and took the first job I was offered. Why is it so hard to get a decent job in a nice environment where you are treated well? I honestly don't think I can take much more stress and anxiety and just want a break from it all.

@Moonbearlove you sound like you've had a hell of a time- could you get time off sick before you leave if you decide to leave? I mean if you are going anyway? I just think that amount of stress would affect anyone and it may be that it is all of that piling on you and affecting your ability to do new things as much as anything wrong with this job. Sometimes you can power through, sometimes you can't. Sorry I can't offer better advice, but I do see why you are having a hard time.

Oh bless you x

I would talk yourself into this being an exciting new chapter - it’s not anxiety or nerves you’re feeling, it’s excitement!
All the new lovely people you’re going to meet and make good friends of.
The new systems you’re going to become a wizz on.
The amazing experiences you’re going to have.
The fabulous doors this opportunity will open for you.
Most importantly- the fact you are away from them rotten bullies at your old place.

Take one day at a time, journal everything, think positive positive.
Worse case scenario- start looking for a new job in 3 months time, with the intention of being somewhere else in under 6 months max.

6 months is not long in the grand scheme of things xx

Just stick it out for a few months it will get better.
If not then stay until you find a new job.

After the first week it will all feel a lot better. Any change is hard, especially when it’s all over the place

Break it down into three month chunks & set goals for yourself to achieve whilst you're in the job. Read through your job description & contract to get a clear idea of what's expected of you.

Ensure that you fulfill your job obligations while you look for another job so you can pass probation with a decent reference. In the meantime, look for a job that is specifically advertised as hybrid or remote.

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@Moonbearlove depending on what you're looking for/the type of job you do, have you looked at remote working? I've had these exact feelings every time I've started a new job, however back in April I left a job I actually loved to work remotely (left due to concerns for the companies future and needed security) and not once have I felt these horrible anxieties.

I go into the office once a month, it's a fab office an hour away on the train, we get a fully stocked fridge, snack cupboards, everything paid for on expenses, and then we go back and work remotely until the next office day. The culture is incredible and being remote has taken away all of my 'work' anxieties. Even when I've got a day full of customer meetings, I don't worry like I used to, I just crack on!

I hope things get better for you.

Have you got a list of things you are supposed to be doing? Are they just ignoring you and not telling you what to do? What is the main problem? How does others not giving a shit impact on you?

if you have some things you can do, just do them and go home. Or go to someone and tell them you need something to do, or ask the man to explain properly what you’re supposed to be doing.

it’s difficult to quite work out what the problem is tbh.

Ask them, not ask the man.

If you can afford to, walk away now. The point of a probationary period is so you and they can see if the job is right for you. I had a job like this. Knew it was wrong from the start but decided to try and make it work. Eventually was signed off with anxiety and depression. I would have been so much happier if I'd just not gone back after the first day.

Can you keep going to this job but look for another one. I usually find it seems easier to get a job when you're already in one than when you're unemployed

I would continue with this job but start looking for a better fit. It's easier to get a job when you have a job.

I think you need to turn this bsck on them.

No work station? Ask should I work from home until next week?

Ask for their new starter schedule.

Ask to shadow other people in the team.

Spend time reading about the industry / linked in.

Overall - try to relax. Have an easy week. They're paying you to be there. If they don't make the most of your time that's their problem not yours. Stand up for yourself and make it clear you can't add value without someone setting up the basics.

It sounds like you've had a rough time but you need to remember none of this is the new workplaces fault. They need a chance to make it work for you both.