Being fired

[OrangesPeaches]

I think I'm going to be sacked for misconduct. I don't want to go into details but all I can think if that happens is ending my life. I couldn't possibly tell anyone.

Do you need any support ? Sending thoughts

Please speak to someone in real life, or call the Samaritans 116 123.

Please speak to someone, 116 123 is the number for the Samaritans.

It is possible to really mess up your life by doing something criminal, or injuring someone else by being negligent. It is possible to have a really crappy time if you do something extremely embarrassing or you cause your employer to lose a lot of business or lose a lot of money. It can feel absolutely desperate and the guilt can feel unbearable. But there are ways of getting through most things. Don’t keep it secret, that will make it worse. does your employer have an employee support hotline? You can call them

If you are genuinely thinking of harming yourself you need urgent help, do you have anyone you can contact urgently?
I was going to be fired for gross misconduct around 25 years ago and I resigned BUT it has never held me back at all.
I appreciate that the urgent thing here is to deal with your immediate feelings/thoughts but later you will probably realise that it may feel like the end of the world but its not

Absolutely call the Samaritans. Also speak with your GP about these feelings.

As for being fired, it sounds like you ‘may’ be which doesn’t mean you ‘will’ be. And even if you do get fired, it’s a temporary glitch, it feels like the end of the world but it really is not. People get fired every day, they move onwards. It’s absolutely nothing to end your life over.

I agree, speak to someone in RL.
And remember, nothing has happened yet. If it is at all possible, suggest a performance review plan- mainly to buy yourself some time to find another job.

You'd be surprised how many people have been sacked, it's not the end of the world!
I once worked a full day, had everything set up for the following day, which I had booked off, only to be told 30 minutes before home time that I was made redundant with immediate effect.... I was 20 months in the job.
So please don't beat yourself up over this.

You are more than your job.

Hey OP, I’ve been there, it’s absolutely gut wrenching. I felt the same way. I called The Samaritans. I’ve never told anyone in real life. I made it through and have a new job and am happy. None of this felt possible at the time.

Do you want to talk to us about it if there isn’t anyone in real life?

I’m sure we will all listen to you, if it would help to write it down and share 💐

Is there a reason you wouldn't be able to get another job?

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It's not illegal or harmed anyone and I haven't stolen anything. I don't want to write about it on a forum.

I'm struggling a lot with intrusive thoughts.

Maybe looking at it more objectively like oh it's just business is the right approach. I just don't know anymore.

Do you have any real life support at all? You might need an emergency GP appointment.

Why have you to meet about the issue. Is there union or HR support.

HR is complicated as they are like Switzerland. I'll try and speak to a legal team. I guess whatever is happening will happen soon.

I don't think I can tell anyone irl.

Do you have any real life support?

please please speak to someone

What has happened that leads you to believe you'll be fired:

Have you messed up?
Have you been spoken to about it?
Have you been called to a meeting?
Do you have a contract / policy the misconduct?

One step at a time. Are you in the office now?

I spoke to a legal team and they said it's not sackable.

Please don't end your life

Being sacked, should you be sacked, or disciplined, should that happen, are not the end of the world

Please trust me

You might have made a mistake

We all make mistakes every day

Thats very good news
However, please speak to someone anyway about your feelings. Suicide is quite an extreme reaction to something that doesn't even sound very serious

You will get past this. Feelings of suicide in moments like these are reactions to the stressful situation - take a breath, take a step back and give yourself time to assess. This is in no way insurmountable, you just need the right head space to deal with it. If you can, call Samaritans hotline until you are ready to tell someone irl. You are not alone, there are people that love you and there is so much beauty ahead.

Im glad you have spoken to HR @OrangesPeaches . Also try to get some support from your GP as it sounds like your anxiety is sky high. I say this as someone who has experienced anxiety and depression in the past. 💐

You are so much more than your job.

If it happens, dust yourself down, be kind to yourself, and find a different job.

We are not defined by the job we do.

Work can be so much more than a job, for some it is part of our identity, how we measure ourselves and our worth. This isn’t necessarily right, but it is how I have felt before. When my job wasn’t going well I felt as if I had failed and lost who I was.

I can understand why this might feel overwhelming. Well done on seeking some guidance and support.

It has taken me some time to realise that work is only a small part of who I am, that I am worth more than my job title or results.

Could you take a day or two off to regroup and reset yourself after what sounds like a difficult time?

I'm so sorry. I'm glad you've been told it's not a sackable offence. Are you able to take some time off sick so that you can cope better?