Being fired

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I think I'm going to be sacked for misconduct. I don't want to go into details but all I can think if that happens is ending my life. I couldn't possibly tell anyone.

Do you have access to a union? They can be really helpful depending on who you're with.

It's not illegal and hasn't harmed anyone.

Whatever has happened certainly isn't something that should ruin the rest of your life.

You've had legal advice that it's not a sackable offence.

It sounds as though you may be spiralling and seeing everything as far "worse" than it is. If this is the case then GP for advice and potential medication and maybe signed off from work until you are in a better place mentally to put everything into perspective.

Once you are able to see things rationally, then ACAS or your Union (if you're in one) to help you understand your options and what you want to happen next.

If it is all too overwhelming then please do reach out to eg Samaritans.

I understand you don't want anyone to know - but honestly your friends, family and acquaintances would rather you talked to them about what's going on than finding out too late how low this has made you feel.

Also - HR are definitely on the Company's side, but the company does have a legal duty of care to you - and should not be putting you through a process that is causing such emotional distress. You can tell them the levels of anxiety this is causing you and they should take steps to reduce this - if they have an employee helpline to refer you to, or to slow down whatever process you are in.

I thought my world and life were ending when I was forced out of my career for whistleblowing after quarter of a century. My husband to this day thinks I walked out. Its been almost 2 years. I had no idea what to do but have worked various lower paid jobs to put me on.
Finally I am doing a job I love, fully flexible being my own boss and earning the same part time as I did full time.
Believe me that some things happen for a reason we don't yet know.
I hope things are getting better for you. I am so much happier now!

I spoke to samaritnas, just like many times before. Not the cheeriest update.

Intrusive thoughts out in full force today. Don't have any choice but to get on with it.

Is there anyone IRL that knows or can support you OP?

Have you seen your GP? If not, I'd urge you to do so. Would also recommend speaking to ACAS to get advice on your work situation. If you need to go on sick leave, do it. Protect your health.

Intrusive thoughts are your brain telling you lies when you're not well. They're not the real you.

I need to see my GP to change my medication. Will do that.

Op, Knowing it isn't a sackable issue must help. You have not done anything so terrible, whatever it is.

You are clearly still very upset and worried. Have you thought about looking for another job? A fresh start, new colleagues, a different location. Taking control of the situation usually helps people feel better.

I think you need some support in RL. Talk to a trusted friend, not a colleague.

I was sacked once. I joined a company just as they hired a new director for my department. She loathed me on sight. Nothing I did, just her issues. She fired me after nine months. I was still the same person with the same skills and experience. I soon found another job. It wasn't the end of the world.

Good luck x

Honestly, if it’s not illegal, theft and if you’ve not harmed anyone, you will probably be given the option to resign. This is a massive thing in your life right now, but in a year’s time it won’t be. Take care

Been invited to a meeting. Feel very isolated.

What kind of meeting?

are you in a union? Can you take someone for support?
what support do you have IRL?

Hi Op
I am going through something slightly similar in my work place and felt the same I am so sorry your going through this - dont hurt yourself - your worth more than any job. When is your meeting?

Thanks. It's hard as I can't say more but we are where we are. I just wanted to say the posts here mean more than anyone of you can know.

I'm sorry you felt that way too.

Is it normal to feel this way? It's coming to a conclusion but I keep having huge feelings of guilt. Does it go when you stop working somewhere?

I’m so sorry no one replied to your last couple of messages. I hope everything worked out ok