Today I was told to stop repeating myself

[ElTortilla]

I've been under a lot of stress at work. Today I was talking about yet another stressful issue to my boss and he told me rather sternly and in so many words to stop repeating myself. I was quite upset about it but I understand that the stress I'm under might be making me extra sensitive. Aibu to feel put out and offended?

No one here can say wether you should be upset or not.

You feel your weren’t acknowledged. He may feel you kept repeating yourself because he wasn’t acknowledging you in the way you wanted. Because he either disagreed or couldn’t give you the answer you wanted.

He might think you have a habit of repeating yourself, or doing it until you get the response you want. Or you may genuinely never do it.

He might have been strapped for time or trying to work on something else and think you were just ‘going round the houses’. Or he might be an arse.

In these situations I usually try and take an honest look at myself and wonder if I could have improved the way I communicated. If I genuinely think I couldn’t, then I think that maybe that person was in form that day. If they aren’t usually like that I would let it go. If they are I would think about my next steps.

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Agree, I'm finding that a lot of people now do the 'I feel you're not acknowledging/listening to me' means - you're not agreeing with me/saying what I want you to say'.

Do you go to your boss with problems or solutions?

But did he acknowledge you? It's a binary yes or no

I agree with RawBloomers

"If you normally have a good relationship with your manager and he isn’t normally snippy with you then it sounds like you were both a bit stressed and over reacted to each other. Not ideal but not worth holding on to."

If he is often rude then it would explain it and I think the way it was said is quite rude. Much better to use a phrase such as 'Thank you, I've got your point.'

"I don't feel he really acknowledged me which is why I repeated myself." i think it would be helpful to say something like, "I'm not sure you have acknowledged what I am saying. So, can I take it you are aware and will...." ... (whatever).

I am assuming this is a work issue and one which he could assist with.

Plus, I think that it is often a case that people have other stuff in the background at work, so maybe he has some issues etc, which might mean he wasn't focusing on you.

If he is normally a good boss, I'd try to just move on and forget it.