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i am probably going to get called in to see line manager tonight ??? OTT or what

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stonedout · 14/04/2008 16:53

I have been out socially with 5 other staff at work but don't invite most of employees. We are talking about another 20 staff. Now the other four employees have been pulled for discussing time out at work.

Is this unreasonable or am i overreacting???

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Wisteria · 14/04/2008 16:54

What on earth does it have to do with them, who you socialise with outside of work??

NomDePlume · 14/04/2008 16:55

it sounds pathetic. So you are not allowed to talk about RL when you are at work ? Does that include families ? Kids ? What you had for tea ? How bizarre.

bran · 14/04/2008 16:55

It depends where you were discussing it I guess. If you were standing behind a till at the time and ignoring customers then flogging would be too good for you (can you tell I find that really annoying?). If you were waiting for the kettle to boil/photocopier to finish/standing by the water cooler then it's none of your manager's business IMO.

Wisteria · 14/04/2008 16:57

oh I see, they've been called in because they've been discussing their social life within working hours - who do you work for FGS?

Unless they were taking an inordinately long time to make plans within working hours or it has a 'bullying' overtone then it's none of their business..

(they'll be timing you on the toilet next!)

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stonedout · 14/04/2008 16:57

it is mad. I would understand if there was just the minority that we did not invite. Why does everything have to turn into a work's do.

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grouphug · 14/04/2008 16:58

If they believe it is affecting your work performance and that of the team yes they can ask you not to spend so much time talking at work. How much are you all talking?

grouphug · 14/04/2008 16:58

If they believe it is affecting your work performance and that of the team yes they can ask you not to spend so much time talking at work. How much are you all talking?

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stonedout · 14/04/2008 16:59

we text each other outside of work to arrange and may make passing comments about it. But we try not to mention it in front of other ppl. It is turning into a real prison camp. We are not allowed to drink at desk now incase relatives see us.

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stonedout · 14/04/2008 17:00

we all rarely work together on same shift to be honest.

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grouphug · 14/04/2008 17:01

What line of work are you in?

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stonedout · 14/04/2008 17:01

nursing!!!

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stonedout · 14/04/2008 17:03

don't know whether just to accept warning (not official one of course) or fight my corner.

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Wisteria · 14/04/2008 17:22

Fight....as long as you are not using work time to organise and are only talking about things as passing convos (not interfering with your work) then it's none of their business.

I can't see what you have done - ask them which part of your contract you have breached.

grouphug · 14/04/2008 18:58

Take notes during the meeting so you can then let us know what your manager said we can then advise you further.

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stonedout · 15/04/2008 08:53

did get hauled this morning. Not allowed to bring social life discussions into work anymore .

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stonedout · 15/04/2008 08:54

god work is going to be very quiet,

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SueW · 15/04/2008 08:57

Depends whether you are discussing them as you are dealing with a patient, as if patient is not there!

Here's something ironic - I was in a shop the other day where the only person working there was having a personal phone conversation loud enough for those of us in the shop to hear, saying how wonderful the customer service was in shops in Australia compared to here in the UK.....

HereComeTheGirls · 15/04/2008 09:01

It all depends...when I was having my DD I had a terrible terrible labour..and the midwife and student were talking about where they were going at the weekend.....I assume you don't do stuff like that though...

grouphug · 15/04/2008 10:37

I would ask your manager to put that in writing to you. I have never heard of that before. You can be asked to limit your conversations at work if it is impacting on your performance i.e standing around and not doing work or not paying customers attention, but you can not be asked to not bring social life discussions into work unless they are inappropriate and damage the reputation of your organisaion.

LOL at herecomethe girls I bet you were thinking hello...IM GIVING BIRTH HERE.

Blu · 15/04/2008 10:42

Goodness!

Does your social life involve dogging or taxidermy or seal-culling or....getting stoned? Something that would be inappropriate to discuss in a professional setting?

It sounds very bizarre and draconian!

HereComeTheGirls · 15/04/2008 10:44

grouphug- yes, that is the clean version of what I was thinking

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stonedout · 15/04/2008 12:14

i always make a point of not discussing over patients. in fact they are my number one priority when i am with them obviosly. Odd discussions take place at the desk or in passing.

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stonedout · 15/04/2008 12:22

talked to one of other staff involved and we are just going to not talk about our personal lives at all even if others are juts making conversation and ask me about it. May sound petty but they cannot have it both ways. Either you can talk about social life or you can't

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TheFallenMadonna · 15/04/2008 12:32

Has someone else complained that they feel left out of things do you think?

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stonedout · 15/04/2008 12:44

Generally a certain group of people have complained that they should be invited. But baring in mind they go out without us and we tend to go to country pubs in middle of nowhere and they don't drive

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