Guy in the office asking my coworker why I finished an hour early

[user1471867483]

The same guy (who isn't my boss or isn't part of our division - he only has to use our office btw) who asked my coworker a month ago where I lived has now asked her why I left an hour early. Well, I had an appt which I ran past my boss which was all fine by my boss and I am only answerable to her, but this guy keeps asking my coworker why I left early, which clearly isn't any of his business. She tells him if he has any questions to ask me himself, but he never does.
Shall I challenge him or leave it?

You could guess if it could be interest in you as for relationship surely. I’m 50 something and looking at the mirror if a guy asks where I live it would never ever be because of romantic/ sexual interest, at max it would be for a lift but more likely out of boredom.

My point is that it might be nothing ( office chat) as other are saying or might be because he is interested in you romantically. It’s difficult for us to decide without context and details but they are the most reasonable scenarios to choose from so you can take it from there.

Are you the same person who has a man in the office who asked why you wear boots, a man who asked for your address, and a man who turned down the radio which annoyed you? And these are all different men?

It might be worth just tuning everyone out and getting on with work OP. Not everything requires you to mull it over and discuss it online.

So, OP, you have started several threads about different male coworkers who wanted to know your address, asked about why you left early, turned the radio down or asked a colleague why you’re wearing boots.

Might I gently suggest you seem a little fixated on these (two?) colleagues? The real oddity for me is why you don’t say ‘Why on earth are you telling me this?’ to the colleague passing on the fact that they’ve been asked questions about you?

Just ask him straight out why he is so interested in your movements

Are all the colleagues that irritate you so much that you start multiple threads about them the same person?

Maybe this guy fancies your colleague and you are just a conversational prop when he chats with her - like "Oh my God, are you the only one still working? Where's user1471867483? Gone home already, wow, why?"
OR
"You are holding the fort alone again? You are so committed! I take it user1471867483 has buggered off again?"

"Yes, she's got a long commute"

"Oh really, where does she live?"

Unless you have reason to believe this guy and the radio guy and the boots guy all have a crush on you, it's likely there's something else going on - they are going about their day and you may be over-interpreting.

Have you actually had a conversation with this guy (unreasonable to ask you to speak to him. I no but hey you never no) or are you just going on what one person has told you is your Co worker stirring the pot for some reason or trying to wind you up u also seem to have a lot of issues with other co workers maybe the person who told you this has read your other posts and is waiting for you to run straight to mumsnet.com with the latest work scandal

I agree. I think the OP is the issue and sounds like is a very difficult person to work with. Complaining and making a big deal over things that are actually very insignificant.

You either work in a very strange office or someone enjoys winding you up. Don't rise to it.

Sounds creepy would challenge him. Tell him if you have snu questions ask me and I'll tell you to MYB.

This OP site has a lot of issues with a lot of guys in her office.

Agreed.

All this is very strange.

Really.

I think it's really nosy.

If you want a different arrangement, ask your manager. If you need to leave early, ask your manager.

I have had various reasons, health and other, some deeply personal, to need flexibility at points in my career and that was between me and my manager , noone else.

If it is a one-off, then not a great deal to worry about. If it something repeated often, then the nosiness is a concern. Apart from your feeling uncomfortable and lacking respect for your feelings, I'd be concerned about a nosy employee and confidentiality more widely.

100% agree
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Think your coworker is stirring the pot . I wouldn't even bother telling you .
Seems like your coworker want you to have a reaction or he wants you to now like him.
Be careful of your co-worker.

Literally seen this too many times.

The guy could have said to your co-worker
"Is Rachel from London" because he himself is from London so maybe something around that topic was being asked.
Or even
"Cup of tea anyone"
Your co-worker "not for me thanks"
"Does Rachel want one"
"No"
"Are you sure. Where is she. If shes in the building I can just leave it on her desk"
Co-worker:"No. She isn't here. She has finished for the day"
"Ah so she finishes at 3 on Tuesdays"
Co-worker " no. She has an appointment"
New guy thinking in his head"ok just one cup of tea for me then"

Next day
Co-worker to you
" I can't believe the new guy. He was all up in your business. Asking where you live. Then kept asking about why you weren't here and you finished early. I can't believe he was all up in your business. Shall I say something for you"

On a serious note, be careful of your coworker for trying to cause issues instead of diffusing it.

I’d agree with this if OP hadn’t said the guy had asked for her full address, not just some casual “is user from X?”.

Asking somebody else for your actual street address is more worrying and could be bordering on stalker type behaviour - something that is often difficult to deal with and can have devastating consequences for victims if allowed to build.

Yes, the coworker could be stirring, but they might simply be relaying interactions they find worrying. And there may be good reason to worry.

Challenge. That’s creepy

According to the other two threads, it’s the same person.