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How long to potentially loose her job?

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lilacsky89 · 23/04/2024 08:59

A nursery teacher at my son's nursery had an affair with my husband. A report was sent out by a member of staff and myself a month ago due to breach of conduct, parent/staff relationships.

I'm not sure if she will be sacked or just be given some kind of warning but I wondered how long this process usually takes?

Really hoping she does get the sack as I hate dropping off and worrying I'll bump into her

OP posts:
Beatrixslobber · 24/04/2024 07:05

Have you asked the nursery what action (if any) they are taking?

shearwater2 · 24/04/2024 07:16

I would continue to take your son to the nursery he is settled at. She should be the one feeling awkward and uncomfortable.

Overthebow · 24/04/2024 07:18

She probably won’t get sacked over this. You’ll need to get on with it and accept bumping into her or move nursery.

Janetime · 24/04/2024 07:19

shearwater2 · 24/04/2024 07:16

I would continue to take your son to the nursery he is settled at. She should be the one feeling awkward and uncomfortable.

Cmon now. No woman is ever going to feel comfortable seeing the ow like this. No man either seeing the om.

determinedtomakethiswork · 24/04/2024 07:25

Did she use your child's records to get contact numbers etc for his dad in order to approach him on social media?

Bestyearever2024 · 24/04/2024 07:25

What your husband did, in having the affair, was awful

So horrible for you

You don't know what he told this nursery worker, maybe she thought your marriage was over. He could have told her anything and she could have believed him

I'm glad you're not living with your husband any more. He's obviously not a nice person

In the UK the nursery worker won't get sacked or disciplined for sleeping with someone outside of work time

AppleCrumbleTea · 24/04/2024 07:30

the best revenge is a life well lived

GladysHeeler · 24/04/2024 07:42

If she is sacked, there is no way I would keep my child in a setting where a member of staff had been sacked for having an affair with my husband!

You are never ever going to have the same relationship with the staff now. They are human beings. Every one of them will have an opinion on this. Some will be sad that they have lost a friend and/or colleague. Others will be vindicated that she was fired.

It will be the same with the other parents. Some will think she was great, she will have been their child's key worker or their favourite and some will think l she's behaved badly and be pleased that she has gone.

Everyone will have an opinion on this and it will be what my granny called 'the talk of the washouse'. In the meantime you are just trying to use childcare so you can go to work.

Also, if she is fired she will likely appeal and so you will have that hanging over you too.

QuillBill · 24/04/2024 07:43

oui · 23/04/2024 23:49

@Janetime ok why don't you tell me what 'a report was sent out' means. Seeing as you think it was such a stupid question of me to ask the OP to clarify.

Edited

I'd like to know this too.

YellowDots · 24/04/2024 07:45

determinedtomakethiswork · 24/04/2024 07:25

Did she use your child's records to get contact numbers etc for his dad in order to approach him on social media?

Unlikely in this day and age surely. Presumably it's common knowledge west his name is.

Is this a school nursery of a day care nursery? Is she an actual teacher?

Janetime · 24/04/2024 08:52

GladysHeeler · 24/04/2024 07:42

If she is sacked, there is no way I would keep my child in a setting where a member of staff had been sacked for having an affair with my husband!

You are never ever going to have the same relationship with the staff now. They are human beings. Every one of them will have an opinion on this. Some will be sad that they have lost a friend and/or colleague. Others will be vindicated that she was fired.

It will be the same with the other parents. Some will think she was great, she will have been their child's key worker or their favourite and some will think l she's behaved badly and be pleased that she has gone.

Everyone will have an opinion on this and it will be what my granny called 'the talk of the washouse'. In the meantime you are just trying to use childcare so you can go to work.

Also, if she is fired she will likely appeal and so you will have that hanging over you too.

Well she hasn’t been fired and it is hugely unlikely she will be, it is a personal matter, and no one knows what he told her about his marriage. Which is moot anyway, but it is hugely unlikely they can find grounds for dismissal here.

the op has two options, keep her son there and put up with seeing her, or move her son.

GladysHeeler · 24/04/2024 11:24

*Well she hasn’t been fired and it is hugely unlikely she will be, it is a personal matter, and no one knows what he told her about his marriage. Which is moot anyway, but it is hugely unlikely they can find grounds for dismissal here.

the op has two options, keep her son there and put up with seeing her, or move her son*

I know that.

What I'm saying is, I would not want my child in the setting if she was sacked.

The OP seems to think that this nursery is the best place for her child and I don't see how it can be now.

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