Compassionate leave

[Iamme2023]

If your mother in law died, would you expect to be allowed compassionate leave for the funeral having given a few weeks notice

Gosh yes

Maybe not compassionate leave but unpaid leave or annual leave

Yes, we have a leave policy and it states the relationship and whether or not they qualify as compassionate leave

Yes, but some places are awful and would call it not immediate family so you’d take it as unpaid compassionate leave or annual leave. Having been with dh for 23 years, mil is definitely close family but some employers are difficult.

Yes, but when my boss questioned me about taking it I asked her if she would take compassionate leave for her own PILs.

What does your employee handbook say about bereavement leave? They may limit to immediate family or dependants.

https://www.acas.org.uk/time-off-for-bereavement

We only get 1 day for the funeral of an in law

No, not in our Leave of Absence policy which states clearly what you get under which circumstances, but I would get unpaid leave .

Yes. When my dad died DH was actually offered more time off by his employer than I was by mine!

Even if you are allowed bereavement leave in these circumstances it won't necessarily be paid leave.

I've been offered it, take as much time as you need - not that I am taking more than a day

Yes but there's no legal right to it so it comes down to your contract and employer.

I was given 1 day after the death and then the day of the funeral.

What does it say in your handbook about how close relative needs to be? I got 1 day compassionate leave for in-laws funeral but this will vary.

In Ireland we get 3-5 days paid for in laws but it’s all in the week the pass away so no notice to give to be honest. If they pass away on a Monday the funeral would probably be on the Thursday the same week.

It completely depends on the company. There’s no legal entitlement to compassionate leave.

I got 3 days for my FIL. Local government

You wouldn't officially get paid compassionate leave in my organisation, usual annual leave rules wouldn't apply though, it wouldn't matter if the office was short staffed or anything.

The policy gives paid compassionate leave for your children, parents, siblings and grandparents.

I say not officially be given the leave as it varies massively from team to team. I'm certain I'd be given paid leave but other teams wouldn't, which is quite unfair.

I got time enough to attend the funeral - 3 days, as travel was involved. ETA was for FIL not MIL.

I would definitely give a member of staff paid leave to attend the funeral of an in-law. The reaction I get when I do tells me too many employers don’t!

I can't remember what the inlaw rules are where I work. I'm overseas so it's slightly different for me, but I'd be taking time off, regardless of pay.

I would expect to be allowed a days unpaid leave. But many employers are difficult.

After 20 years FT in her role and almost immaculate attendance record, my Mum was just given 3 days leave after the death of her own Mum. She was told that if she required any longer that she’d have to get a sick line from the GP

When my mil died very unexpectedly, there was no compassionate leave for me where I was working at the time. It was a huge pension and investments firm who where big employers in the area.

NHS worker here and no I wouldn't as in-laws not classed as immediate family, quite wrongly in my opinion but it's been the same in all the different NHS trusts I've worked in.

This. Not close enough relative for compassionate leave.