Not heard a thing from my old workmates

[minkymini]

Left my old workplace a few months ago . Swapped contact details with colleagues, we all got on , had a laugh and supported each other . Sent a few messages but Not heard a thing from anyone . I guess it's a case of out of sight out of mind . How quickly people are ghosted and forgotten.

Exactly. Colleagues are not your friends. It very hard for some people to grasp this fact.

*ghosted and forgotten"...the drama!!

They are colleagues, not friends. Weird of you to think they would suddenly become friends when you've left when they weren't while you worked there.

It's been a funny few years. I had very good friends (like bridesmaid level) who never contacted me during the pandemic and we've just drifted apart (I did contact them but eventually gave up because it was always me.

I think a lot of people have re-evaluated things over the last few years and the reality is you probably only had work in common and now that's gone.

You sounds like people who got on at work, rather than actual friends.
(Otherwise you would already have each others details and be in the habit of meeting up, so it would be something you'd continue).

If you think you are stronger friends than that then why not actually suggest meeting up as opposed to just sending a few random texts? If they say "No" then at least you'll know they are not interested in staying in touch. Equally they might be keen and you'll stay friends.

I can't see the point of sending random texts to people - never assume that other people want to communicate in a particular way just because you do.

It's a good lesson to learn. In other circumstances these "friends" could be the ones who shop you to HR about that Facebook post you made, or desert you entirely and saw nothing when you are in trouble. Honestly, that might sound cynical, but you'd be shocked how often it's the case. Friends are the people who stand by you no matter what. Two of my four closest friends I met through work. In one case she was the only person who stood with me when my employer unfairly dismissed me ( other than the union of course). Nobody else could be seen for the dust as they ran to swop sides. The other was someone I worked with whose manager tried to bully and break her, and I stood up to the manager and fought when she didn't have any fight left.

Friends are forged, not found.