I think I'm going to have to leave even though they've been really good to me.

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DH was diagnosed with a terminal illness at the start of lockdown and died almost 2 years ago.

During this time I was working for an organisation that carried on as usual under additional pressures while lots of other people were taking it easy. We only did our jobs but that time took it's toll and lots of people are showing signs of burnout IMO.

I was facing additional issues and work and my colleagues were brilliant. I worked very flexibly before and after his death, had some time off and people who work for me (I have c .15 line reports) really stepped up. Some just because they are good people, others for the career development. I have been very appreciative all along and I like to think more I'm a decent boss (and thought this is one reason they were so suportive) but there is very little I can actually "do" for them. National payscales, I can't offer money for example.

Anyway, I'm back now, mostly doing OK but it's not always easy. Some of the staff who were so good seem to have developed huge chips on their shoulders though. They were really good. I've said thank you, I bought gifts, I've really supported professional development for those who wanted it, but some really want me to know I owe them. It's not clear what exactly they want from me and when I've asked what's upsetting them, they say nothing, but as a group they seem to be going out of their way to make life difficult for me and I've never experienced this from them before.

My boss was brilliant throughout and still is, but she can recognise there's been a shift in attitude too. I'll feel awful leaving after all the support I've had, but really feel like a fresh start would be best for everyone.

Would you?

I agree with many others on this thread. I think it’s to do with cost of living too.

They were pleased to be able to help you out when you were at your lowest ebb, but time has passed and things are back to normal with you. Other issues such as energy bills and food prices have taken over.

The pandemic brought out a blitz spirit too. That’s gone now, obviously, with covid restrictions removed. But at the time, the pandemic combined with your bereavement brought out the best in them.

I honestly doubt that it’s personal.

So, I've done the interview It seemed to go well but he said they had over 100 applicants and are doing first stage interviews all week!

I actually feel even more excited about the role now, but why see so many candidates?!

It’s 100 applicants, surely there’s some filtering going on. Good luck. I think it’ll be good to move so there’s no mutual resentment or suspicion.

I don't think they're interviewing them all but a full week of first interviews seems a lot?

If they’re telling the truth. Maybe a bit of self-aggrandisement going on 😂

Maybe because I actually missed the deadline and they still interviewed me 😆

I wouldn't leave at all don't spoil your career you've no need to go at all ❤️

I worked through the pandemic in a job that put me at high risk. Many of my colleagues stayed home. I was chosen to work because I'm a single parent and it was felt that I was someone who needed full pay not partial pay. Which I did and I am grateful for that. But I'm also resentful thst so many of my colleagues got a lovely long break.

The dynamics in our otherwise close team were definitely affected after the lockdowns. The pressure and stress on those working through took its toll, especially as most of the team didn't havr to.

I've been very close to leaving over last year or so just because I've lost my enthusiasm and feel very burned out.