Hi everyone
Have been put in a pretty unpleasant situation at work and would appreciate some guidance on what I can reasonably expect to happen going forwards.
Essentially as part of my role, I act at the go between support/relationship manger between an over-arching umbrella company and the smaller partners that make up the membership of said umbrella company.
One of the partners i directly support on behalf of the umbrella company meet regularly to discuss strategy and escalate any issues they have. Usually for this meeting, I stay for the whole thing via Microsoft teams, but as we are so short staffed in my team this week, it was agreed I’d hop on the meeting to give my update specifically and then I would touch base later to pick up any additional bits that got brought up later during the course of the meeting.
As the person who usually takes minutes for this meeting was on leave, it was recorded via Microsoft teams so she could listen later and take minutes. As I wasn’t able to stay for the whole thing and the recording was available on teams, I skimmed the transcript to see if anything relating to actions for me/discussion points to pick up were mentioned this evening.
In the course of doing so, I saw my name mentioned in the transcript, but the transcript itself was a little garbled, so I listened to that potion on the recording instead. Clearly the partners didn’t realise the meeting recording would be made available to all, because amongst the disparaging comments they made about our organisation my team mates, they also made very derogatory comments regarding my weight.
The person making those comments was the director of the partner organisation and also a board member of our umbrella company.
I feel that I know even if I escalate this, nothing really will happen - at best he will get a ‘this so bad, don’t do it again’ type slap on the wrist. Is there anything Else I can reasonably do to take this to anything meaningful?
I moved into this role internally about 6 months ago (I reach 2 years with the org in general in Nov) and have been on the fence about if it was a good fit for me. This seems like the straw that’s broken the camels back in terms of wanting to stay.
On the flip side, i have a 3 1/2 year old DS and DH and I were talking about starting trying for another baby this month, so I’m equally worried about being pushed out of a totally new job if I announce I’m pregnant.
I have asked my boss for a chat today about what has been said. Feeling really sick to my stomach about the whole thing and lots of tears. I feel really humiliated. The way he spat the word ‘fat’ and the way everyone else in the room was giggling keeps revolving round in my head.