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Falsely accusations sexual harassment

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2pinkrose · 09/07/2022 05:02

Hi everyone,

My husband works for retail. 9 months in this job as a Team Leader of a clothing company in UK.

Literally all (about 8) female colleagues have accused my husband of sexual harassment. This is 100% false.

Ever since my husband joined this job he never like his team. He always used to come home complaining about his work to me that the sales representative are lazy and have negative attitude towards their work.

The store manager and the team leader have been really unsupportive.

My husband did flag many times to the store manager that the team is chilling in the stockroom but not any great outcome from it.

Last Friday my husband called in sick and the store manager was so angry. He messaged my husband to come work for half his shift to close the store as there is no one else. My husband msged back that he is not fit to come to work. So that Friday the store manager end up closing the store. This really annoyed the store manager as my husband's sickness ruined his dinner plan.

Monday my husband returned back to work and he was handed the suspension letter from HR.

My husband came home and handed me the letter. I was really really mad at his workplace for giving my husband such grief.

Today my husband had his meeting with HR so he can give his side of story. One word that he used in his side of story "uncomfortable" that the other team leader used to feel uncomfortable towards my husband. HR might use this against my husband. My husband did say the reason why the other team leader felt uncomfortable with my husband - because my husband used make a lot of the sales and that used to make the other team leader jealous and really bothered her.

HR later send my husband another meeting request via email and in this meeting my husband could face disciplinery and attached the team leader's and one of sales representative statement.

My husband showed their statement to me. I read it. Their statement had some dirty things. All lies about my husband.

So far apart of the females colleagues statement HR have no other evidence against my husband yet my husband does have proof when he messaged the store manager that the sales representative are not doing their work and the store manager should have a word with them.

Please can someone tell me what can we do to proof that all these are false allegation?? All statement are false, lies, fabricated

OP posts:
changzi · 09/07/2022 05:04

How do you know they're false? You only have your husband's word, don't you?

Hawkins001 · 09/07/2022 05:05

Keep a copy of all correspondence.

Chillinoncarneisunderrated · 09/07/2022 05:25

So 8 women employees have accused your husband of sexual harassment ,OP? Mmm...

tabulahrasa · 09/07/2022 05:47

Pretend he’s not your husband for a second - do you honestly think it’s more likely that 8 people are all willing to make false allegations against someone than that 1 person behaved inappropriately?

UserError012345 · 09/07/2022 05:56

What kind of things are they saying he did?

newboobsplease · 09/07/2022 05:57

8 people is a lot to make it up?

LunaAndHerMoonDragons · 09/07/2022 05:57

Even if there were a couple of people nasty enough to make false reports of sexual harrassment, I really can't imagine having 8 people in the store on his shifts that would say that.

DrFlorence · 09/07/2022 06:05

Your asking for advice so please ask your husband to contact his union urgently
He should be given opportunity to have a Rep with him. He should ring ACAS also to get advice.

I would take this seriously and have representation of some kind, even if you believe it to be untrue.

rwalker · 09/07/2022 06:07

The fact it’s all been done at the same time does possibly sound like a witch hunt
if it was true I would i would of expected One complaint then the rest to follow
not a mass complaint all at the same time
the complaints and statements would of taken time so don’t think it’s linked to the sick episode

he not going to be the most popular member of staff with him directly complaining about others
keep an open mind
is he in a union
To be blunt this is going to very difficult for him to defend this the company would be likely to throw him under the bus for an easy option

there isn’t a lot of detail in your post about the allegations do difficult to advise

MrsTerryPratchett · 09/07/2022 06:13

So far apart of the females colleagues statement HR have no other evidence against my husband

Witness statements ARE evidence.

What do you need if 8 women isn't enough? A sky writer/

donquixotedelamancha · 09/07/2022 06:18

Welcome to MN, OP. Gosh what an attention grabbing first post.

As PPs have said, it is very, very unlikely that 8 people would lie so egregiously.

Your husband being sick has nothing to do with it.

if it was true I would i would of expected One complaint then the rest to follow not a mass complaint all at the same time

Its been presented to him at the same time but there will have been at least a preliminary investigation. If 8 women all work together and get sleazed on I don't think it's remotely unusual for the to get up the courage to complain together, if this is true.

Original poster
2pinkrose · 09/07/2022 07:17

I am human being first and then a woman and then my husband's wife. I have always stood for women's right yet I always dispised women or individuals taking advantage of the system

I have met one of the girls from his work and that day I told my husband don't join their political agendas. She looks wrong in character - she was literally bad mouthing about every male staff of the store.

Plus I know my husband's pincode for all his bank accounts, his mobile phone and I am in his FB, Instagram social media friend.

Each day when he finishes work he would call and ask me if we need anything for home from his way

On his days off when I am working he is either home taking care of our son, or would take my son and himself to my mum's home - all day they would be at my mum's companying my mum. Or he would hang around with brothers or sisters' husband's. Otherwise we would go out together as three of us: my husband, my son and myself

So I know all in and out of my husband's activity

When I gave birth, my health was horrible and my husband would wake up in middle of the night to take care our baby son then. He used to clean up after me.

And whenever he would come home from work if there is no dinner prepared at home he would cook for all of us regardless of the time, 9pm or 11pm...

He pays all the bills including groceries even I earn more than him ... My husband has a lot more great qualities, like he would buy an amazing meal for homeless people and he would go out of his way to help people....

OP posts:
Maireas · 09/07/2022 07:23

He sounds like a most loving and attentive husband.
However, he could still have harassed these women. The two issues are not mutually exclusive. Some men appear charming, happy family men, but act in this way in the workplace. You can believe him, but you weren't there.

RobertJohnsonsShoes · 09/07/2022 07:24

I'm confused. How is that evidence that it's not true? Either way it shrinks... 8 people is a lot. He needs serious now

KatherineJaneway · 09/07/2022 07:30

I suggest your husband looks for another role. He clearly does not fit into the company or the team.

Going on the basis that your husband is truthful, then it could be they made the accusations so he would stop pushing them to work harder.

Jalisco · 09/07/2022 07:41

Whether or not these allegations are true - and I find it hard to credit that so many allegations are all fabricated - there is no way to prove that they are false. Your assertions about him and his character may all be entirely true, but not one of them is evidence that he didn't harass female staff at his workplace. In fact, you appeared to have a poor attitude towards the women in his workplace even before this, and if he shares that attitude, what they say may be entirely true. You may think you know all about him and his workplace and his colleagues - you don't and you can't.

The bottom line here is that I would advise that he starts looking for a new job. 8 witnesses to sexual harassment / discrimination is a substantial amount of evidence, and I would be shocked if any employer did not dismiss based on that amount of evidence.

Doorhandleghost · 09/07/2022 12:17

I've dealt with a couple of cases like this at work recently. In both cases the wife gave a supporting statement saying how lovely their husband is. In both cases they were dismissed for gross misconduct - because no matter how "lovely" they are they still sexually harassed people in the workplace .

You might know your husband's bank card pin but you've no idea what he does at work.

Either those 8 women all got together and are all willing to make light of the issue of sexual harassment and use it as a weapon against your husband (conspiracy theory) OR he did it and they've all been brave enough to speak up about a difficult issue.

Hoppinggreen · 09/07/2022 12:19

2pinkrose · 09/07/2022 07:17

I am human being first and then a woman and then my husband's wife. I have always stood for women's right yet I always dispised women or individuals taking advantage of the system

I have met one of the girls from his work and that day I told my husband don't join their political agendas. She looks wrong in character - she was literally bad mouthing about every male staff of the store.

Plus I know my husband's pincode for all his bank accounts, his mobile phone and I am in his FB, Instagram social media friend.

Each day when he finishes work he would call and ask me if we need anything for home from his way

On his days off when I am working he is either home taking care of our son, or would take my son and himself to my mum's home - all day they would be at my mum's companying my mum. Or he would hang around with brothers or sisters' husband's. Otherwise we would go out together as three of us: my husband, my son and myself

So I know all in and out of my husband's activity

When I gave birth, my health was horrible and my husband would wake up in middle of the night to take care our baby son then. He used to clean up after me.

And whenever he would come home from work if there is no dinner prepared at home he would cook for all of us regardless of the time, 9pm or 11pm...

He pays all the bills including groceries even I earn more than him ... My husband has a lot more great qualities, like he would buy an amazing meal for homeless people and he would go out of his way to help people....

Nothing you say here means he hasn’t behaved inappropriately to these women

CrossStichQueen · 09/07/2022 12:26

If 8 different women have made the same/similar complaints then I assume they would have also provided statements of what he said/did where it happened, dates, times, witnesses that sort of thing. Was your husband ever one with these women individually or are they saying he harassed them as a group?

iklboo · 09/07/2022 12:27

Oh dear.

KilmordenCastle · 09/07/2022 12:30

You really believe that out of 8 different women not one of them has enough moral fibre to realise how awful false allegations of sexual harassment are and refuse to join in with a witch hunt? Now I know that some women do make up false allegations, I'm not pretending that they don't. But the vast majority of women know how unacceptable it is and are outraged at the women who do it.

Sorry OP but your dh is a sleazy creep who has spun you a pack of lies.

clpsmum · 09/07/2022 12:33

Chillinoncarneisunderrated · 09/07/2022 05:25

So 8 women employees have accused your husband of sexual harassment ,OP? Mmm...

This

clpsmum · 09/07/2022 12:34

Maireas · 09/07/2022 07:23

He sounds like a most loving and attentive husband.
However, he could still have harassed these women. The two issues are not mutually exclusive. Some men appear charming, happy family men, but act in this way in the workplace. You can believe him, but you weren't there.

This. Just because he doesn't harass you doesn't mean he does t harass others. Do you really think eight women would lie to the extent they make a formal complaint?

elephantmarchingin · 09/07/2022 12:36

Have they said where the harassment took place? Was it during working hours?

Orgasmagorical · 09/07/2022 12:38

Nobody knows an abuser in the same way as their victim(s).

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