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Booked emergency hospital appointment

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dchange · 07/12/2021 19:41

I booked a hospital appointment in the morning for 1pm (only slot). This clashed with a meeting that lasted 10 minutes. I told my boss immediately I won't be able to join. I then speak with him latter and goes on to say how weird it is that I had a hospital appointment last minute and he would like to get details of my hospital.

In last 2 years I have taken 1 sick day.

Is this crazy or am I going crazy!

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dchange · 07/12/2021 20:25

To be honest, on other people they are in my team and I have not requested for their letters and he is aware of the appointment and had never requested for letters as well.

But I live and learn.

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ftw163532 · 07/12/2021 20:25

@dchange

I struggle to see why the word hospital is important. If I have an appointment, I should be trusted. The issue here is he does not trust.
Because there is no such thing as calling the hospital up to book yourself in for a same day appointment! That is not how hospitals work.

If you say you need time off work to attend something that does not exist of course they will have questions and doubt your credibility.

Come on now. Hmm

You screwed up, don't make it worse for yourself by flouncing because they caught you out.

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dchange · 07/12/2021 20:28

Question, if for example I say I am not feeling well. May have started calls in the morning but took ill in the afternoon working from home. Would he now ask for evidence?

Hence why the word hospital is irrelevant. It's just that he does not trust me and believe I was taking a piss.

Sad

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Kite22 · 07/12/2021 20:28

I agree with everyone else.
Surely you can see you have said something which sounds incredibly unlikely.
Now you are telling a different story, which sounds like you've realised the first story have been challenged as so unlikely so you've thought of something different.

Now, I'm not saying that is what happened intentionally, but you must be able to see it looks odd from someone 's point of view when part of their role is to manage staff absence ?

TheOpportuneMoment · 07/12/2021 20:30

It's because you don't get same day hospital appointments - that's just not how it works. For a hospital appointment you'll get sent an appointment letter in advance with all the details. You had a GP appointment - this is a completely different thing. Of course saying you have a same day hospital appointment is going to raise questions. You needed to be more specific.

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dchange · 07/12/2021 20:31

I am honestly not changing my statement to him. I did say I had a hospital appointment. But in my mind, I put GP, dental, and hospital in the same bucket. I am going to see a medical professional.

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TractorAndHeadphones · 07/12/2021 20:32

My GP does appointments either same day or 2> weeks later. No in between.
So yes completely belieavble

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dchange · 07/12/2021 20:32

Thanks all. Next time I will make sure I am more explicit. For now, I will deal with the consequences, which is simply to show them details.

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TractorAndHeadphones · 07/12/2021 20:32

2 weeks later

oviraptor21 · 07/12/2021 20:32

It's not you are distrusted. If you'd said GP appointment then noone would have thought any more of it. But when you said hospital appointment and it was the same day, that just doesn't happen. So it's hardly surprising that your boss was confused. Everyone on here questioned it until you clarified and even after.

Wolfiefan · 07/12/2021 20:33

What was the purpose of the meeting? Would your boss have reason to suspect you wanting to avoid the meeting?

Hellocatshome · 07/12/2021 20:34

Surely you can see how a GP appointment, a hospital appointment, a dental appointment etc are not the same thing and can't be used interchangeably

ftw163532 · 07/12/2021 20:35

@dchange

Question, if for example I say I am not feeling well. May have started calls in the morning but took ill in the afternoon working from home. Would he now ask for evidence?

Hence why the word hospital is irrelevant. It's just that he does not trust me and believe I was taking a piss.

Sad

That's a totally different scenario and not what happened.

The word hospital is still relevant. The reason he doesn't trust you is because you behaved in an untrustworthy way in this specific scenario where you falsely claimed to have a hospital appointment.

You're going to make yourself look really silly if you throw your toys out of the pram like this.

Generally when you lie to people they do stop trusting you.

DicklessWonder · 07/12/2021 20:36

@dchange

I am honestly not changing my statement to him. I did say I had a hospital appointment. But in my mind, I put GP, dental, and hospital in the same bucket. I am going to see a medical professional.
Doesn’t really matter what is in your mind though.

In mine the moon is made of cheese but I wouldn’t expect Brian Cox to accept that.

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dchange · 07/12/2021 20:37

I have in my experience used the word hospital for general medical appointment. I have never had to be explicit.

But I have learnt.

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DicklessWonder · 07/12/2021 20:37

In your experience of what, though?

VaccineSticker · 07/12/2021 20:38

@YouveBeenLittUp last minute app do exist privately especially for emergency app with a consultant.

ftw163532 · 07/12/2021 20:38

@dchange

I am honestly not changing my statement to him. I did say I had a hospital appointment. But in my mind, I put GP, dental, and hospital in the same bucket. I am going to see a medical professional.
That might fly if you had said "medical appointment" . But you didn't. You said hospital appointment.

I don't for one second believe that you would tell someone you had a dentist appointment when you were going to see the GP.

If you're testing out stories for your manager, don't use that one. It's even less plausible.

Skyll · 07/12/2021 20:38

A GP appt isn’t a hospital appointment.

As others have said, you don’t book yourself in for a hospital appt.

That’s the issue.

A580Hojas · 07/12/2021 20:40

What a waste of time this thread is due to thread title. Just get it taken down op.

BiddyPop · 07/12/2021 20:40

1pm is during lunchbreak for many people.

My own GP practise is based in the city centre and is usually very busy over lunch as working people have appointments over lunch. (I tend to try and schedule those if it is not emergency, otherwise I take what's available).

Does your job have any policy in the sick leave policy about medical appointments etc?

Somebodylikeyew · 07/12/2021 20:40

@dchange

I am honestly not changing my statement to him. I did say I had a hospital appointment. But in my mind, I put GP, dental, and hospital in the same bucket. I am going to see a medical professional.
You are the outlier here. That just isn’t how the vast majority of people would phrase it.
Skyll · 07/12/2021 20:41

You wouldn’t say you were going to the dentist if you were going to the gp.

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dchange · 07/12/2021 20:41

In my 20 years experience when I say I have a hospital appointment ( last minute) no one has questioned or asked for evidence.

Let me give an example, 10 years ago I was on my way to work and had a sharp pain in my tummy. I called my boss and said I can't make and May need to book hospital appointment. He goes ok, take care of your self and let me know how you get on. He did not say, It felt weird that I had tummy pains in the morning in my way to work. Once I book my appointment I should show him evidence.

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Wimblingwombling · 07/12/2021 20:42

An emergency Hospital same day appt is v rare. That’s totally the issue here. Same day GO absolutely normal

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