Morning all
I am at the end of my tether with a colleague.
It's complicated, I've known her for years, we worked together 15+ years ago and have bumped in to each other since then at conferences / events etc.
I am now working in the organisation she has been at since she left the place where we first met.
I think she is neurodiverse in some respect, possibly ASC, and I really try to bear this in mind when interacting with her, but some days, like today, it just makes me want to cry. She's not a horrible person, but so thoughtless and no care what she says to me (and others).
(We are both part time so don't cross over that much, and only see each other online. Most of our communication is by email but we see each other at least once a week in a team meeting).
Today's incident is minor, but on top of all the other things, it's made me angry and upset.
She sent an email to a number of people including me, about a client I have worked with and have handed over to colleagues for further input.
My colleagues email asked me to 'please make sure I write client notes in the [appropriate place]'.
I mean, this is a basic part of my role. I do it everytime, as I had in this instance, as well as putting all the info in a handover email.
She has made it look to a number of colleagues as if I haven't done one of the basic functions of my job.
I don't know whether to 'reply all' and say 'I have, the notes are in the correct location', ignore it or just reply to her individually. (That's what I ususally do when she does something like this).
I know this seems like a minor issue but it's the sort of thing that happens week after week. Emails telling me to do things that I have done, or things that are not my role or things that conflict with what our manager has told us.
I am sick of it. (Sorry this is long).
Further info - we have the same number of years experience in our roles, I have held senior positions in other organisations but that is not the case now.
I am looking for other jobs.
I just need to know how I can rise above this because she is not going to change.