First post on here ever but I’m really upset.
We are all newish and a colleague constantly complains she doesn’t have enough time to get done what she needs to and keeps trying to push her work onto me. Our roles are very defined and I have way more than enough to do. She doesn’t seem to care.
In the short space of time we have been working together she had blamed me for delays (nobody’s fault / some she could have prevented).
Since she started in the role she has had numerous issues, internet connection, after school childcare issues, appointments at the doctor, dentist, school etc. Meeting are arranged around this which is fine. I am a single parent with small DC so whilst I am sympathetic I have my own stuff to manage around childcare which I do through after school etc but there is zero reciprocal acknowledgement which I don’t really expect either - we are professional working team not a ladies lunch club.
I explained to her if she is having issues to raise this with her team lead but she didn’t want to draw attention to it. I said I will raise it with mine (we are is different functions but the same team and she got annoyed and said no dont) now she’s called a meeting next week with her manager and I after I refused to do a significant part of her job.
I have been told I can’t tell anyone about this meeting. My manager is more senior than hers and will not be happy about this I know.
I’m quite upset actually, she’s proven to be untrustworthy already so I am expecting to be railroaded at this meeting. I am minded too raise this as she is trying to redefine my role to suit her, there are issues across the organisation but everyone is just getting on with it.
She’s causing me endless stress to the point I couldn’t sleep last night. Constantly moaning and complaining is exhausting and her issues are to do with her role directly. I am doing my job but she doesn’t like some of the tasks of her role and thinks they should be mine. I disagree and so does my manager but I am starting to feel harassed by her.
I can raise it with my manager but then I look like I am creating a fuss or I can joint this meeting and look like a pushover.
I have to keep relations good as we work so closely together but I’ve never had to deal with anyone constantly trying to get me to take on their role because they don’t feel it should be part of theirs. It’s baffling me. I am not her subordinate nor her assistant and we are all stretches to the max. I was sympathetic until she started blaming everyone else, as well as me for delays. I have covered her on more than one occasion too.
I don’t want to go in all guns blazing but I am getting angrier the more I think about it as the other teams I work with have none of the complaints she does and manage what they need to do without any issues. It’s just her.
Sorry for the rant but she’s driving me up the wall.