there is nothing else in the world, i would rather do than stay at home and bring up my baby

[robinredbreast]

why do people think thats odd.
what a shallow materealistic world we liven

My personal experience is that I've never met anyone who thinks it is odd. I hope I've never inadvertently given that impression to other people. I work partly because I don't want to pay back my maternity pay, partly because I feel better for variety in my life, and partly because my husband is ill a great deal and his income is very erratic. However, that wasn't the case when I went back to work and I certainly didn't have to.

I suppose, thinking again, the only thing I do occasionally find odd (though nice) is when people LOVE being an SAHM. I think I did find it really quite hard for the brief 10months I did it and although there were glorious moments and good days there were also dire moments and terrible days when I was in tears by 9am, and a lot of rather dull days. I do find it odd that people really genuinely enjoy being a SAHM more than they would enjoy any other job. But that's my lack of imagination.

Sorry about long post, I found it interesting to follow my thoughts on this. Hope it hasn't interrupted the thread

just got upset this am when someone asked me if i was going back to work, i said prob not and she replied oh id be so bored staying at home.

she was the one initiating the conversation it seems as if some start these convos with a aim to attack you

so rrb, what actually happened then? did someone say that you were odd for being a sahm?

i'm a sahm but i've never been made to feel that way tbh.

but i should retalitate by doing the same

oooh x posts rrb

no! if you are secure with your decision just let it brush off imo

choosyfloosy, I must be odd then

I love being a SAHM and being at home with my 15 month old DD. I am never bored and find it more enjoyable than my previous career job. I understand it is not for everyone but for me it really is a dream come true

hi lady yes where i live nearly all the mums work
well they just seem shocked and say stuff like, well its better for them in a nursery and being at home is boring

maybe when dd is at school i should use my love of children and be a cm

yeahbut - she said she would be bored - not that you are odd
And that doesn't make her shallow and materialistic.

either,

they are insecure about their decisions and are taking it out on you

or

you are paranoid/insecure and taking what they say as a judgement about you.

but she did say babies are better off going to nurseries
in a sweeping statement way

well saying she finds it boring ,fair enough i was prob being over defensive

and saying babies are better off in nuserys prob her insecuritys

lol good point ht

that's her opinion and i'm sure there would be some who would agree.

just ignore her.

You'll find that you get criticism whichever option you choose. I WOH and get:
don't you miss your baby
aren't you tired (well, YES)
how does your DH manage (he works from home and looks after DS 2 days a week)
aren't you lucky to be able to work 4 days a week (yes, I am a SPONGER)
don't you think nurseries are better (DS goes to a CM 2 days a week)
and all the rest...

If you're happy with what you're doing, fine, ignore them. I like working. I like my job, I lie going to the loo on my own, I like talking with adults about things other than babies. But I also enjoy it when I'm at home with DS.

Who in real life thinks it's odd?
And if they do - why should you care? Do you think it's odd that they choose to/have to work?

thanks ep helps to se it from the other side too

i respect every womans view and don't think its odd if they go to work

good point about going to the loo on your own too lol

I've been at home with my dd for 6 months now and am seriously loosing my mind! I personally cannot imagine myself doing this full time for years to come. I love my daughter very much but I have a lot of days where the last thing I want to do is baby stuff. I've just gotta hang on until September, and I can go back to my norm iykwim.

It's a very personal choice, and people have an opinion whatever you do. The other day at a baby group (shudders at the memory) a woman approached me saying 'God, isn't it just the BEST job in the world. Oh I just love it.........' She was gushing sunshine and all I wanted to do was punch her. Sufice to say, it wasn't one of my best days with dd, and all I could think was 'roll on September.'

I'm sure I'll miss her loads come September, and I support any womans choice, but personally I can think of better things to do with my time than nappies, baby food and baby groups!

Oh, cue dd pulling the phone to the floor whilst entangled in the wires! Bugger 'I'm a celebrity get me out of here' we need a 'I'm a mother, get me out of here!'

although i do love being at home and doing 'housewifey' things im not a mumsy person and wouldnt like to be be. i still see my friends and friends from work and love to go out(albeit occasonially). Think maybe what i need is a rich bloke so i can stay at home and still enjoy the lifestyle, maybe be a WAG??! if i had a to stay at home but not butno money for nice clothes or have hols then i would choose work. Its only fun being at home as long as money isnt an issue or then you will become resentful.

Babies Everywhere

Totally with you ! I totally love being a SAHM and plan on selling my house for something much smaller so that I can continue to stay home with my daughter !! She is now 2.5 and every day I just love it more, we do so much that I just don`t have time to get bored.

Robin RB , see where you are coming from , I am constantly asked in this street by the other mothers why on earth do I like it ? They just dont believe its possible !! (They know I had a great job with fab money and dont get why on earth I would give up my house , I could get same job again !! I can`t explain to them why job would now bore me rigid , potty training and painting, play doh etc totally absorb me - maybe I am weird !!)

I guess people are just different .. I dont get stressed when they ask ..just smile and say I am happy and it works for me (DH is great - "ok we sell the house if being with bubba is what you want") .... though shamefully admit once was tempted to tell one neighbour to sod off when she said "I dont know how you could suffer her all day" (meaning my precious dd!!) and proceeded to say that she was going to up her ds nursery hours to 7.30am - 6.30pm though she only works PT - as then "she would be only have to really put up with him at the weekends !!"
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I waited 15 years to have DD maybe that`s why I am a bit weird ??

Will go back to a part time something when she goes to school xxx

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