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Fucking Lazy

31 replies

saveforthat · 19/08/2021 16:32

If a staff member called you this at work. Would you expect there to be some consequences or would an apology be enough.

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AnneLovesGilbert · 19/08/2021 16:33

Is it true?

TwinkleTwinkle11 · 19/08/2021 16:33

How was this said?
Over email, face to face, infront of people?
All would make me feel different tbh

Hellocatshome · 19/08/2021 16:35

Do you mean a colleague? It depends on the circumstances and how it was said etc etc but generally if the apology was genuine and the person was normally but at the time under a lot of pressure/personal issues etc I would be happy with the apology. If they were always an arse and a bully I would want it taken further.

JaffaRaf · 19/08/2021 16:36

Depends on the circumstances really, was it said aggressively? In front of others? Is it true?

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saveforthat · 19/08/2021 16:39

Colleague. It's not true, they are always an arse and aggressive. It was said face to face but no witnesses. When I complained to the manager he told him to apologise and that is supposed to be it but I am not happy.

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JanisJ · 19/08/2021 16:45

What do you want?

DragonMamma · 19/08/2021 16:46

Depends on who said it and why. All about the context.

TwinkleTwinkle11 · 19/08/2021 16:46

If their always an arse I wouldn't take much offence to it tbh.
Not sure what else could be done🤷🏼‍♀️

ChilliChoco · 19/08/2021 16:50

In that case, if he has apologised, I would email the manager a written version of events including the apology and that you were not happy with it.
Then state that you will be keeping a log of this and if any incidents occur in the future, that you will escalate this.

Batshittery · 19/08/2021 16:51

If they've apologised, what else do you expect to happen?

JaffaRaf · 19/08/2021 17:02

Doesn’t sound like anything else needs doing really. He apologised.

Lou98 · 19/08/2021 17:03

If he's apologised and it's the first time he's said that to you, surely that should be the end of it?

I'm assuming you want him fired?

NekoShiro · 19/08/2021 17:35

Yeah an apology is all you're gonna get unless they do it again

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saveforthat · 19/08/2021 17:57

Not fired just a warning

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Zarene · 19/08/2021 18:25

As a manager, there is no way I'd give a warning just for this.

A sustained pattern of bullying or unpleasant behaviour, yes, of course. But as a one off incident I'd expect you to work it out like adults.

I'd be a bit non plussed that you got me involved for an apology tbh, let alone taking it further.

But as I say, if he's doing this regularly that's a different matter. I'd keep note and inform the manger that it's happening, which is different to asking them to sort out every intemperate word.

Guineapigbridge · 19/08/2021 18:27

Are you taking ownership of why he might be said that? Blaming him then seeking retribution isn't going to result in personal growth for you, so let it go. Focus on being the best you.

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TwinkleTwinkle11 · 19/08/2021 18:30

Why has he called you lazy

MeredithGreyishblue · 19/08/2021 18:40

What prompted it?

LadyTiredWinterBottom2 · 19/08/2021 19:19

OP says he is generally aggressive.

I would keep a note of this and other instances for now.

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saveforthat · 19/08/2021 19:31

He called me lazy because I was going on a break. He goes out 6 times a day for fagbreaks and then spends most of the day playing games on his phone. Maybe I'm old fashioned, using the F word to a colleague is unacceptable to me. I probably work twice as hard as he does. Thanks for all your replies I have asked for a meeting with Manager and HR. As you can probably guess this is not a one off incident and there are many issues to resolve in this workplace

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Fizbosshoes · 19/08/2021 19:43

When I worked in a shop a colleague (far senior to me) accused me, in front of probably 5 or 6 customers, of stealing. I complained as she made an enormous assumption that was not true and made me look bad in front of customers. The manager said they would ask her to apologise. She never did.

MrsPelligrinoPetrichor · 19/08/2021 19:59

I think that's outrageous language in the work place and aggressive too.

Keep a note of it with the date and anything else that happens.

chelle862 · 19/08/2021 20:11

If it's happened more than once, maybe you need to have a look at how you work? You're probably lazier than you realise. I think you're way over the top, just let it go. If it isn't true then he's made himself the tit hasn't he?

MrsPelligrinoPetrichor · 19/08/2021 20:15

If it's happened more than once, maybe you need to have a look at how you work? You're probably lazier than you realise. I think you're way over the top, just let it go. If it isn't true then he's made himself the tit hasn't he?

Lazier than the OP realises?! The colleague needs to keep a civil tongue in their head in the workplace and if there's an issue with the OP's work ethic it can be raised in the correct manner. I can't believe some of the replies here.

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