Going back to the office with someone you have feelings ings for

[Charliec12]

Going back to office after covid when you have feelings for someone how to cope. Things were on and off we would flirt and sext a bit for last few years but in April he started ghosting me. I am really hurt by it all particularly as I find work lonely now not chatting to him. He is doing things like telling me my colleagues have sexy bodies so I think he will get with any female. Right now I feel like jacking work in especially as I will have to see him more from beginning of Sept as we go back to working in the office. Everytime someone is recruited at work I am concerned in case they are attractive and he starts flirting with them :(

Obviously if everything was OK at home,this thing at work wouldn't even have started. I have full sympathy for the whole situation, but he is not the answer.

@ToooOldForThis

Obviously if everything was OK at home,this thing at work wouldn't even have started. I have full sympathy for the whole situation, but he is not the answer.

Yes agreed I started having doubts about my marriage confided in this person and it went from there. You are right as soon as I have backed off and he is not getting his way with me he doesn't speak to me much 😐

It's hard....I've been in a similar situation but not as far down the line...
Can only speak for myself but I think what is really lacking is friendship and intimacy...you go looking for that because there's none at home...your colleague is unfortunately taking advantage

@ToooOldForThis

It's hard....I've been in a similar situation but not as far down the line... Can only speak for myself but I think what is really lacking is friendship and intimacy...you go looking for that because there's none at home...your colleague is unfortunately taking advantage

Intimacy is great I just feel that spark has gone a bit and I suppose I went looking for that :(

So to update the guy at work left the company last November and it helped so much. It was like a weight lifted off my shoulders. However one of my friends of 20 plus years got in touch last year and we started being more than friends and that is still a bit messy now as feelings there from both sides but he is a bit unstable due to depression and cutting off when he wants. He still lives at home at the age of 40 and is always skint. I am still married but not sure how. I am still worried about how to afford life on my own and the impact seperating will have on my family. Definitely marriage issues are the route problem though :(