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To not bother fighting my case and to just leave?

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Nahor · 17/07/2021 20:02

I have been getting bullied at work for almost 10 months, Some outright cases of being screamed and shouted at, But mostly very subtle things, Being totally ignored, Whenever I speak to my manager recieving one word responses or just a look and then being ignored. Being left out of important communications that are relevant to my job, Being belittled, Being denied training and development opportunities.
They constantly speak about other people that work for the company in degrading ways also, It's been 'dealt' with on previous occasions but this was to say that it was all my interpretation of events and that was it. So not really dealt with at all.

I'd had enough of the toxic environment and I reported everything. This has now resulted in an investigation.
However after looking for a new job and getting one! I feel very conflicted.
I am waiting on an official offer, The meeting re the investigation is this week.

I originally wanted it all to be informal but this decision was taken out of my hands, I want to just cut my losses and go, I appreciate that management are now trying to fix the issues but I feel it's too late, The toxicity and the bullying has left me with absolutely no confidence and my mental health has never been this bad. I haven't slept properly since I found out about the meeting, I feel sick constantly.

I feel like I'm giving up leaving, and the old me would have fought until I won because I am in the right and the way I have been treated is wrong. I will have to do the meeting, and I also feel it's important as it will hopefully make it better for the next person in the job!

Do I go? Or do I stay and see if things will get better from now on? Confused

OP posts:
SheldonesqueTheBstard · 18/07/2021 13:32

The company I work for refused to even say sorry and would only admit that in future the would like to think they would handle things differently.

Things were exceptionally bad until my bully left with no stain on his character at all. My file is left full of his allegations.

If I were you? I’d leave. But with a bit of grace. No fuss.

I want to believe in karma.

I know a lot of people who work in the sector my bully aspires to work in.

He is yet to find new employment. I hear he is blaming it on Covid.

CoRhona · 18/07/2021 16:40

I went through this crap too including grievance, but count myself really lucky as changes were put in place so myself and horrible manager were separated, completely.

I am still there and am back to being the same happy person I was for all those years before.

But I did talk openly about it whilst it was ongoing (the treatment of me, not the grievance) and am in a union, and had been there well over two years. Am so very grateful to work though as they completely moved structures around so I don't have any dealings with that person any more.

But reading this thread I can see I am in a minority of one!

DukeofEarlGrey · 19/07/2021 14:41

Any news OP...? Smile

Sodapopandritalin · 19/07/2021 15:00

@DukeofEarlGrey

Any news OP...? Smile
My meeting is mid week 😬 I'm very nervous about it and I haven't received paperwork for the new job yet. Trying to be calm 😂
LegalUtopia · 19/07/2021 15:54

You should double check your contract before you leave as there maybe a resignation period and require a resignation letter. Also you have brought this up with your manager and it has been ignored, then you should contact your HR manager for help.

For Legal help try : legalutopia.onelink.me/YGQA/8c78ead5

or find a lawyer based on workplace harassment.

PetticoatSoldier · 20/07/2021 07:11

@Sodapopandritalin

Do people really do that? Offer settlements? Surely that's a massive admission of guilt.

Yes they do, and yes it is, but it would likely be offered alongside some woolly legal wank speak whereby they squirm out of an admission of guilt. The experience my colleague had was similar to OP's. They were the first in a long line of bullied employees to report and it and prepared to take it all the way, this triggered an investigation which uncovered serious issues with the bully. Rather than deal with it, as the bully was senior and brought in alot of money to the company, the employer offered my colleague a settlement. So, depending on the findings of the investigation this is a possible outcome. Obviously if the company felt OP had no case they wouldn't just offer money for them to leave. But if they discovered a few uncomfortable truths, the sad fact is that they might prefer the easy option of brushing it under the carpet.

PetticoatSoldier · 20/07/2021 07:15

Good luck with the meeting OP!

DukeofEarlGrey · 20/07/2021 14:11

Ah, was hoping you would have had your formal offer from the new place by now. Good luck with both things!

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