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Mortified. Was asked if I was pregnant.

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tuberr0se · 13/09/2019 19:47

Just that really. A client came into work today and asked me if I was pregnant. And how many weeks along I am. I know I am slightly overweight and have been on a diet for the last month but ffs why would you ask someone that?!! I nearly burst into tears. Now feel a bit pissed off with her for saying it. I'm very aware of my stomach being too big as it is. Why would a woman say that to another woman?

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Millie2013 · 13/09/2019 21:36

It’s really rude,OP and anyone with half a brain would never ask Flowers

ranoutofquinoaandprosecco · 13/09/2019 21:36

I had that, law firm, lovely partner who asked me! I wasn't and just muttered "no, I'm just fat!" I was a size 10 but my dress was probably a bit unflattering that day! The poor woman was mortified and when I was pregnant about 6 months later was totally over the moon for me!

stripeymonster10 · 13/09/2019 21:37

Yes, i've had it said to me a few times. It's still quite upsetting especially when you think you look ok. The worst was on holiday when the owner of our rental property admitted her and her husband had been debating all week whether I was pregnant or not. Made all the worse that she asked in front of my three children so then I had to deal with their questions too.

I've been asked pre children and at various different weights clearly a flat stomach was never my strong point!

Hassled · 13/09/2019 21:43

It's happened to me a couple of times - the first time I wanted to roll into a ball and sob, and the second time I was just pissed off. It made me vow never to say "when are you due?" until the baby's clearly just about on its way out. It is mortifying.

Havebrainneednewjob · 13/09/2019 21:50

That's horrible op. I understand why you felt so upset.

Whitejasmine · 13/09/2019 21:51

I recently lost 2 stone and got down to a size 10. I called at my friends to drop something off all dolled up and on my way out with dh - feeling really good about myself. Her 4 year old wandered up, prodded my stomach and said "why is your belly so fat?" Never has my ego deflated so fast! I had to laugh but i was gutted, at least she has the excuse of being 4 years old though..

Bouffalant · 13/09/2019 21:59

@OooErMissus

So's your face = juvenile nonsensical comeback.

Yer da sells Avon = Scottish all purpose insult.

Echobelly · 13/09/2019 22:00

I've been asked a couple of times when I'm not. I'm slim but tbh I do have a large stomach (even before kids) and I've just laughed and said 'No, I guess it's just not a very flattering dress then!' and remember they probably feel a lot more awkward than I do

CTRL · 13/09/2019 22:01

It was an accident. Don’t think it was done maliciously

Bouffalant · 13/09/2019 22:02

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Mortified. Was asked if I was pregnant.
NigellaAwesome · 13/09/2019 22:04

It's happened to me a few times too. I always reply 'has no-one ever told you not to ask a woman if she's pregnant unless you physically see the baby emerging?'

I was really pissed off with the Flybe woman on checking in who asked me 3 times if I was pregnant and wouldn't believe me when I said no. I had to threaten to speak to her supervisor. Worst thing was that I was actually quite slim at the time.

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tuberr0se · 13/09/2019 22:11

I think that is what is even more galling about it. I've spent the last month on a bloody diet! Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr......

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EL8888 · 13/09/2019 22:19

I feel your pain -l got asked last week by a client if l was pregnant. All my colleagues cringed especially as they know l was bloated from taking fertility drugs. I thought everyone knew it was a question you didn’t ask?!

JonnyPocketRocket · 13/09/2019 22:23

I've been asked this a few times because although I'm slim, if I am ever carrying excess weight it sits right on my tummy, and I'm also prone to bloating. On one occasion when I told the woman I wasn't pregnant, she looked sceptically at my belly and said "Really? Are you sure?"
👍🏻 Thanks love. Yes I'm fucking sure.
Now that I actually am pregnant I constantly get "Ooh, you're very big for only X months!" despite all my scans and measurements being just below the 50th centile. 🤷🏼‍♀️
Some people just have no filter. Ignore them, OP.

KipperTheFrog · 13/09/2019 22:26

I had this today too! Got asked if I knew what I was having, then when I asked her what she meant, she asked when I was due. Only then did I twig she thought I was pregnant!
It’s the one thing you never ask, surely!?

MrsNotNice · 13/09/2019 22:32

I honestly think some people are either socially daft or they do this on purpose to make themselves feel better.

MIL asked me if I was pregnant 4 months postpartum. Her sister told me in a big family gathering that I no longer have the perfect figure at 11 months postpartum.

And worst of, after my miscarriage someone asked me in public how many weeks pregnant I was.

I answered with “hahahahaha, no
I just ate a lot of nice burgers”. Proudly.

I’m a size 10. Had a bit of blasting nothing massive. Just my figure used to be a topic and now the lack of it is also a topic.

Some people enjoy this

Original poster
tuberr0se · 13/09/2019 22:42

Oh no MrsNotNice, that is seriously horrible. Good for you though for comeback!

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NowhereNearTheHighSt · 13/09/2019 22:53

That's happened to me several times, they are always mortified when I say I am not.

ScreamingValenta · 13/09/2019 22:59

It happened to a colleague of mine who is in her early 50s. She wasn't sure whether to be mortified at the implication she had a huge tummy, or flattered at the implication she was young enough to be having a child.

SausageSimon · 13/09/2019 23:12

Someone asked me this at work last week and I was mortified, she said "well I think you better lay off those cakes then!" What an idiot.

I've had it quite a few times and although I'm overweight I've found the more weight I lose the more I get asked because my face and arms slim down and make my larger stomach even more pregnant looking.
At least when I'm fatter I look fat allover

Toffeecakes · 14/09/2019 00:35

A customer was chatting to me one day, as the conversation went on it became apparent that he thought I was pregnant - about to give birth. It was really embarrassing, when I said that after my 2 year old DS I'd decided not to have any more babies he looked really confused. The conversation dried up and he left but it was so awkward.

Then when I was in Mothercare one day at the till the assistant was trying to get me to sign up to their due date club or birthday club or something - she asked me when my due date was. My look must have told her everything because she looked dumbfounded and then she apologised.

I'm paranoid I look really pregnant, my youngest is 4 and my stomach is massive. I need to lose weight but it's my broken muscles which cause the problem and I don't seem to be able to change them.

Still, overweight or not; people shouldn't be so bloody rude.

Lucked · 14/09/2019 00:40

Meh!

Happened to me recently and I am not overweight. Also happened in the past between babies when I was a bit fat. I can’t really get worked about it.

OooErMissus · 14/09/2019 00:48

@Bouffalant thanks Grin

OooErMissus · 14/09/2019 00:52

The general rule of thumb is, unless you can see a baby crowning, you don't ask.

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