Nightmare MIL as childminder

[annarose]

Please help!!!!!! My mum in law and I don't get on! long story. But I'm going back to work soon (full time) and she has offered to look after my ds three days a week. She would be good to him so i don't know if it selfish of me not to let her. By the way she is wanting paid 'a small amount' for this ( about £5 less than a normal childminder a day). Can Anyone give me advice please?

Out of order, anna (or whoever you are now). As hunker said, it gives women in the workplace a bad name. If I was a female boss, I'd take a dim view. If I was a male boss it would probably be dimmer (though perhaps not so expressly articulated).

Do what you have to do for your son, but don't forget your work colleagues.

Fecking scary if it's two people - I'd prefer to think it's one, really

Well it's the only post jerry has ever made.

soooooooooo

what does 'wind in your neck' mean anyway? it sounds like something one of those translation websites might generate. wonder what she typed in to get that in English.

Yes, it should be 'wind yer neck in.'

I think it means "I don't care for your opinion"...

It does indeed, and it really winds people up, especially men.

Luckily, I'm a woman and can't be arsed to get riled by someone I'm morally superior to

Not morally, hunker ... just plain naturally!

Is it the Northern England equivalent to the Aussie "sticky beak"?

Not in my part of the north of England! Here we would say 'keep yer nose out' or if very cross - 'F*ck off'

well said cat64

Agree, Cat64 - and I think AR knows it, which is why she's been so aggressive.

Here is the clarification post for my 'thunk' of several days ago.

I was stunned that a GP would willingly sign women off sick from work if they are not genuinely ill.

I am also amazed that patients collude in this, and that they get away with it.

The comment "feel a bit guilty about it as i'm fine" annoyed me.

good grief, now i'm getting accused of being another woman. this is so weird. only looked at this thread as my MIL Is keeping my little girl and wanted to see what others thought. but have to admit i'm shocked at how she got hounded. just reread post there and seems that she had worries with oragnised mil as cm and some MN's urged her to find alternative arrangements. think some of you far too hard tbh. on another issue completely i think maternity pay pretty crap compared to countries like sweden or germany. Suppose i will get hounded now.

by the way shud point out my mil is proving to be a wonderful cm. just in case others come across this post. we do not get on that great but have love for jess in common. works well

IMO the words 'nightmare as childminder' shouldn't be put together in the same sentence - unless you're about to terminate the arrangement