Can I fire someone for having an affair with my husband

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I don't even know where to start. My dh told me tonight that he had cheated on me, and with one of my employees. He says they didn't sleep together, just some kissing but as I questioned him it seems it was more than just a few snogs but more an emotional affair. It's been going on for about 4 or 5 weeks, they've been messaging, about 30 times when she was away over Christmas, lots of sneaky kisses. They even went on a date a few days ago.

To complicate matters further I am also his line manager. Without wanting to be too outing we run a pub together but I am the manager and he is employed by me (better pay and flexibility that way than being a management couple).

She has worked for the company for about 8 years and I transferred to the site she works in and became her line manager about 10 months ago.

He told me tonight because her dh found out from a text message he saw..

At the minute I don't even know where to begin with processing all this or even start thinking about whether me and dh can work through it but I do know there's no way we can all keep working together. I'm hoping she's at least got the decency to call in sick tomorrow.. But then what. Can I fire her? Or force her to transfer to another site?

What I really want to do right now is go full Peggy Mitchell and along them both out but I need to stay calm and not put my own job at risk.

You could end up looking at a your husband having a sexual harassment claim being put against him, if you’re not careful. She could say she was coerced into having a relationship with him as he threatened to have her fired. I’m not saying that happened, but just be careful.

Well done, Universal. You've got this.

Posts crossed.

So the hearsay element is resolved.
She has resigned & you are paying her notice so her resignation takes immediate effect.
Has she ruled out the offer of a transfer. ?

Seemingly sorted apart from OH.

Eheu, I wish some of my ER cases had been so quickly & directly resolv d. Note - I amnot an ER doctor or lawyer.

I think that a call this afternoon to the ACAS helpline to go through the circumstances & the current situation, to discuss this case without prejudice, would be a good use of your time.

This is not a simple resignation.

Do you have a standard payment in lieu of notice/compromise agreement as standard practice in your organisation?

Thanks universal. Yes her PDR was done properly, scanned in and uploaded.

She messaged me after she left and asked me to find her a transfer. I've lined her up a potential one already and put them in contact so hopefully that works out. I can't fault her work and it's a single manager so I don't feel bad about not filling them in on the details.

Oops - I meant Sohumiliated. You are doing brilliantly. You are rising above this and doing a fantastic job.

Yes, you've done really well. I'm glad she's very soon going to be out of sight. I hope you stay strong for sorting out how to handle your husband and what to do about him. 🍷💐

Thank you DarkandStormy. I may be at the bottom of a gin bottle at the end of the night though

Thank you honey

Thank goodness she left. I forgot to ask if she was employed by you (thats how I work, I own a company and my company employs my staff). But it doesnt matter now, thank goodness.

Take care of yourself my love and be ready for the emotional ups and downs you will have over the next few weeks. ITs all normal, its all ok. Been there, and am thinking of you

Yes thank god you did not summary fire her as i used to work in employment law it would be a very easy case for her to take to tirbuniral for unfair dismissal and as she had worked for more then 2 years you would have to find a legitamite reason to fire her nd or him (unless their contract forbids inte work relationships or the such like but i thought those had fallen out of fashion / deemed unfair contractual clauses been 10 years since i last practiced employment law)

How’s things now @sohumiliated