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Hi.

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LKAO · 15/12/2018 14:59

Hi all.

My name is Luke and i hope you don't mind me posting on here, i'm in desperate need of some advice.

I'm 24 and my partner is 25 (We are both Gay) and live together in the South West of England, i am in my final year of my degree and will graduate in June 2019.

My partner has been in his current work (WHSmith) he earns £12,000 a year for 3 years however we're looking to buy our first home together and despite his best endeavors he's unable to get anywhere in regards to a new job which pays more.

And it's beginning to grind on me as i work 28 hours a work part time and earn more than he does!

I moved down here from up north where i'm originally from 2 years ago to be with him, but i feel he's going nowhere fast and i'm much more of a go getter.

Is there anything i can do to help him? As my patience is wearing thin.

Thanks.

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cheesywotnots · 15/12/2018 16:33

Where in the s.w. are you both, 12k a year doesn't sound much, has he looked for other work in the same field or would he do part time work to earn a bit more. Do you both want to continue your relationship.

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LKAO · 15/12/2018 16:58

We're in Exeter.

And to be honest i don't know as i'm fed up of him getting nowhere to be honest.

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HermioneWeasley · 15/12/2018 17:00

You can’t make someone more driven or ambitious. This is who he is. You may not be right for each other.

PurpleDaisies · 15/12/2018 17:00

This is a problem for relationships, not employment issues.

Is he trying his hardest to get full time hours? Does he want to work full time?

Finfintytint · 15/12/2018 17:03

You need to decide if the attraction is with your partner’s earning potential or that you have a good supportive loving partnership, or both, or neither...

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LKAO · 15/12/2018 17:06

He works full time 37.5 hours per week, for £12,000 a year.

He's applied for so many jobs and is getting absolutely nowhere.

It's causing huge arguments and such.

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umizoomi · 15/12/2018 17:06

Why is he not working full time? Because£12K full time is less than min wage

PurpleDaisies · 15/12/2018 17:07

What are you arguing over? It sounds like he’s trying his best.

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LKAO · 15/12/2018 17:09

I've asked him to move back up North, to where i'm from and he flat out refuses and he just says he doesn't want a lot in life and is happy the way he is.

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umizoomi · 15/12/2018 17:09

His gross salary is £12K? On a FT 37.5 hour week that's £6.15 per hour and he is 25 so should be on NMW which is £7.83

umizoomi · 15/12/2018 17:10

In which case his salary is over £15K

WhatsUpHun · 15/12/2018 17:10

Well if he is applying and trying, you should cut him some slack

Does seem very low for fulltime

This means someone who earns the National LivingWageand works 37.5 hours per week – the median number of hours worked by full-time workers in the UK in 2017 – will earn the following before tax: £294 per week. £1,272 per month. £15,269 peryear.29 Mar 2018

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LKAO · 15/12/2018 17:12

He works from 9:30 in the Morning until 6:30pm in the Evening.

He takes home just over £1000 a month.

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PurpleDaisies · 15/12/2018 17:13

And he’s trying to find something else.

You’re not coming across very well here.

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LKAO · 15/12/2018 17:16

The frustration is unbelievable, he REFUSES to move back up North with me to seek out better opportunities he insists he's happy and doesn't want the stress of a Graduate job.

Is it lack of ambition or am i being overly pushy?

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PurpleDaisies · 15/12/2018 17:17

Why should he move? Hmm

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LKAO · 15/12/2018 17:18

He wants to buy a home and we cannot afford on both of our incomes to even think about buying a house in Exeter.

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BIWI · 15/12/2018 17:18

Why don't you wait and see how lucky you are at finding a well-paid job?

PurpleDaisies · 15/12/2018 17:19

You don’t seem to like him very much. Why are you with him?

ScreamingValenta · 15/12/2018 17:22

So £12000 is his net salary, you mean?

You mention you're part-time but earn more than him - could you increase to full time to increase your joint income?

If you've encouraged him to seek a better-paid job but he isn't interested, there isn't much you can do. He might prefer a low-stress, low-responsibility job to a more expensive lifestyle - which is his prerogative, and a choice for which there's much to be said in favour.

eliolip · 15/12/2018 17:23

agree with PP you don't sound like you even like him. Why should he move up North? Why don't you find a better paying job or full time hours too?

How can he be on 12K? That's about £6.15 an hour which is under minimum wage or is he on 15K and 12K after tax? He can't just magically earn more money, most retail jobs pay NMW and it sucks.

Finfintytint · 15/12/2018 17:23

What are your job prospects on graduating, OP?

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LKAO · 15/12/2018 17:23

I do love him to bits, but my goodness how much longer and how many more rejections is he going to receive before he realises that this isn't the best place for a career.

And i have a graduate position secured thanks beginning September 2019 (y)

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PurpleDaisies · 15/12/2018 17:24

People do find jobs in the south west. Hmm

eliolip · 15/12/2018 17:24

The frustration is unbelievable, he REFUSES to move back up North with me to seek out better opportunities he insists he's happy and doesn't want the stress of a Graduate job.

Is it lack of ambition or am i being overly pushy?

Not a lack of ambition, just a lifestyle he is happy living