City lawyer with toddlers can't cope

[RosieIrene]

I work FT at a city firm and have two dd 1 and 3. Have a full time daily nanny but still can't cope. Work all day, come home and put kids to bed and work all evening to make billable target or have to go to client functions. So stressed out that on weekend just want to sit in garden with kids and do nothing. Can't sleep, can't talk to anyone. How do people manage?

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soapbox - precisely because she says she doesn't want to it's a good idea to look closely at that scenario.

All too often people have taboos, hang-ups etc that they don't wish to address that are stopping them from assessing all their options properly.

I disagree with you on that point Anna. DH and I are in contact regularly through the day on the phone and email in both directions keeping abreast of his movements and home related issues.

dinosaur - I tend to send email updates on ongoing situations like illness. But no, I don't call. Sometimes he might call me.

Anna - how incredibly patronising!

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Why on earth would one not call a parent at work to discuss ill children, be it partner or nanny?

My children often call me at work when they get home from school, for a little chat. Or email me!

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oh dino, poor thing i've had a burst eardrum and it's the most painful thing ever (including childbirth). i also felt v woozy and lost my balance for a week or so afterwards

cod, you are joking

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Anna if both you and dp where at work would you not want your childminder/nanny to keep you informed of a sick child's progress?

b***ks cod. has someone bashed you with your gavel again?

Cod I think I am the Ocado of parenting.

I mean to deliver high quality goods as clearly ordered but occasionally they are at the wrong time and in the wrong amounts...

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Dino sorry to hear about ds. I thought things were supposed to feel better once the drum burst, relief of pressure or something like that???

Ah well there you go - Anna can be the M&S of parenting, but Dino is defintitely the Browns version. Eclectic, not for everyone, but for those who are discerning hits all the right places

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Cod aren't you one of the soft headed ones too?

anna, at work?

dino - well I had sections but yup it was pretty terrible, like a knitting needle (prob a size 4mm) being twisted around...