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Handed Notice In and All Hell Broke Loose...

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MyNameDefinatelyIsntJanet · 05/07/2018 09:05

I handed my notice in at work yesterday, it did not go the way I was expecting and I need to know where I stand legally.

For context, it's a fairly senior position, a big jump up the ladder for me and it took them 6 months to find someone to hire into my role before they got me. I've only been in the role 6 months. Over those 6 months, it's become abundantly clear that I'm not the right person for this particular role. They need someone with strategic skills and I'm a technician. I'm bloody good at my job and an industry expert, but they don't need that skill, they need someone who can do the big picture stuff with clients and that's not me. I've stopped enjoying the job and I do feel that it was mis-sold to me at the interview stage, but I'm not bitter about that. I tried it, it didn't work out.

I gave these reasons when I handed in my notice but my line manager was apoplectic with rage. She called me a liar and accused me of using her/ the company as a leg up and that this had been my intention all along (I'm going to an equally senior role in a much bigger specialist agency). This is completely untrue. The job I'm going to is a technical role and much more in line with my skill set but at the same level as now iyswim.

She walked out of the room and slammed the door behind her and told me to leave the office immediately. So I did and have had no contact since.

WTF do I do now? I haven't gone in to the office today but I've been responding to client emails as usual this morning as there's stuff I need to get done.

I've since realised I was never asked to return my signed contract when I was hired and found it in my collection of papers this morning. I have signed it, but they don't have a copy.

I REALLY don't want to go back to the office after yesterday, but I have a 6 month notice period so not having to serve this would be great. I'm not sure where I stand legally. I'm prepared to hitch up my big girl pants and go back in but I'm not sure if they're going to want that so my questions are:

Legally, do they have to pay me for my 6 month notice period even though they've asked me to leave the office (they haven't asked me to leave my position yet).

As they don't have evidence of my signed contract, do I have to serve out my 6 months?

I want to hand over things properly and make sure they've got a plan for my leaving, but should I even care about this after yesterday? I don't want to leave my team in the lurch Sad

Also, the new company is not a competitor of any kind with my current one.

Help?

OP posts:
Maggie24715 · 07/07/2018 14:34

Everyone is replaceable, the company will get over your move as soon as your replacement starts.
I'm glad you took care of your own ambitions rather than being loyal. Loyalty gets you nowhere in business. Best of luck

Scabetty · 07/07/2018 14:59

Just read this thread. You are inspiring. I am nearer retiring than building a career Wink but I am going to show this to my daughter ( and son).

SemiAquaticEggLayingMammal · 07/07/2018 15:23

I'm sorry that this situation has caused you heartache NotJanet. But I have loved reading this thread because it's great hearing of women who are slaying at corporate world. We need more NotJanets! Keep your amazing attitude please, always. Good luck Flowers

MisguidedAngel · 07/07/2018 17:39

No wonder so many women suffer from imposter syndrome. I can't believe some of the comments on this thread. My daughter is like you OP, very confident in her own worth, good at negotiating her salary and conditions, earning a lot. But no way does she come across as big headed. Just - confident. I bask in reflected glory.

Ta1kinPeace · 07/07/2018 18:02

Ginger Rogers danced every step Fred Astaire did, but backwards and in high heels.
Who was the better dancer ?

The casually sexist language in so much employment
bossy ~ bitchy ~ pushy ~ forceful
HAS to be stopped
www.economist.com/prospero/2014/07/10/johnson-why-men-interrupt

WonderfulWonders · 07/07/2018 18:36

Knowing your worth and being able to articulate it is critical as a woman in business.

The idea that being able to do so is somehow "big headed"? Give it a rest! @Mummalovesyou should be ashamed - I hope to god you don't have daughters.

Like another poster it took me twenty years to figure out I needed to be my own cheerleader and demand what I deserve.

Despite earning mid 6 figures and doing well, I still work with a business coach twice a month because someone once told me I was average and wouldn't achieve much and it's really hard to shake that and grow confidence at 40.

IJustNeedAUserName · 07/07/2018 18:41

The spelling comment made me roar. I was a “professional”, now, having done a career change, I’m just finishing up a PhD in a completely unrelated discipline ... I’ve just had my draft thesis back from my supervisor and it seems I can’t ever choose the right spelling of dependant/dependent. Grin

StroppyWoman · 07/07/2018 19:33

I've followed your adventure avidly this week.
Congratulation on getting a positive outcome and HUGE congratulations on your new job!

Shellekin · 08/07/2018 09:05

If more women had your attitude OP then we wouldn’t have a 20% gender pay gap in the U.K.

Biblio78 · 08/07/2018 09:44

Get employment advice, don't want to sound patronising but I have always been told that an employment contract cannot be at odds with your statutory rights? A family member has had issues with this on a charity they worked for, after a few years the employment contracts have finally been changed but they have decided to move on as the whole thing became quite acrimonious. I think this may give an inkling of why it was so hard to get someone into your position? Word of mouth does spread about leadership in all types of job. Best of luck with it

Ta1kinPeace · 08/07/2018 10:47

Biblio78
Try reading the thread before sounding patronising

Pippylou · 08/07/2018 11:53

I wonder if that is actually the thing that sent the MD a bit over the edge, without being able to wheel OP out, she might be on a sticky wicket herself?

cmayfield83 · 08/07/2018 14:55

That last email is worded very much like a disciplinary. Why are they being so formal about it?

NameChange30 · 08/07/2018 16:02

“If more women had your attitude OP then we wouldn’t have a 20% gender pay gap in the U.K.”

Fuck that, underpaid women are not to blame for being underpaid. The sexist employers who underpay them are. Women shouldn’t have to fight for what they deserve. Being assertive is great and will help us get what we deserve. But girls and women are strongly conditioned not to be assertive, let’s not make them feel failures because of it. Victims can fight their oppression but they are not responsible for it.

Ta1kinPeace · 08/07/2018 16:02

What last email?
Please read Janets updates ......

LoveProsecco · 08/07/2018 16:49

Great news!

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