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Do tou have to be a lentil weaver to become a doula?

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Lilliput · 14/05/2007 10:04

I have started my course and I am worried I am not enough of a earth mother to do this.

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lulumama · 14/05/2007 21:48

thanks lilliput , will tell DH !

debbsyandsonn · 14/05/2007 21:53

link lulu so i can have a gawp

Gingerbear · 14/05/2007 21:55

lilliput - is Ina May's book on your reading list? It might seem a bit lentil weavery when you read the first part (with the birth stories in) But the second part is inspirational - all about giving control to women in labour and making them believe that their bodies will do the job they were designed for.

lulumama · 14/05/2007 21:58

i love ina may, i want to be her when i grow up!!

debbsy, web addy on my profile !

xx

night allx

debbsyandsonn · 14/05/2007 22:13

very proffesional very very good best of luck xx

Lilliput · 14/05/2007 22:14

I actually bought the Ina May book to read to prepare myself for my home birth. I thought it was great if a little american hippyish. It is on the list and I shall of course reread it. I am taking this as a good sign, I randomly chose her book before I even knew what a doula was.

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MarsLady · 14/05/2007 22:19

Ginge... started a thread for you babe!

mrsmalumbas · 15/05/2007 09:26

The original 1970's edition of Spiritual Midwifery is fab, they all look like they are completely off their heads on acid.

The wonderful woman who trained me as a doula did say to me once to ask clients what they were reading in preparation for birth. Those who said they weren't really reading anything or who had read a variety of books usually did okay. Those who had read and asborbed every word of Spiritual Midwifery usually ended up with cesareans. I was sceptical - but her theory has since proved true for several of my clients. Hmmm.

Her more recent book, Ina May's Guide to Childbirth, is a bit less lentilly.

Lilliput · 16/05/2007 13:20

I am a bit worried I am not going to be ready for the workshop at the end of June I only started the reading last week. Anyone know what the workshop might be like?

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lulumama · 16/05/2007 13:21

you need to speak to Klaw ! i will email this thread to her x

Lilliput · 16/05/2007 13:37

thanks

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lulumama · 16/05/2007 13:37

tis emailed !

Klaw · 16/05/2007 18:25

got the email!

busy just now, will reply better later!

You don't have to be an earth mother but do need to believe that we are very well designed to birh our babies! And that obstetric intervention has a valued place in childbirth emergencies (but is being overused due to fear of litigation! IMHO)

Will chat more later, when I've got time to answer your queries, but Adela is briliant!

zazas · 16/05/2007 18:37

Just to add my two pence - the first doula I met was too hippy for me!! But the one I went with was anything but - I, like someone else said here wanted someone who was no nonsence / good under pressure / practical and I just got a better vibe from the one I decided on than the 'hippy' one! I also read Ina May - absolutely fab - there were elements from her book that I definitely took with me into labour. OH I am getting all teary thinking of it - 3 whole weeks now ago!

lulumama · 16/05/2007 18:38

you can connect with people, or not

and oyu might connect with a bare foot, lentil weaving , dance with the pixies doula, or not!

as long as you connect and know you can work together, that is great !

Muminfife · 16/05/2007 18:45

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lulumama · 16/05/2007 18:46

must just add that i did the nurturing birth course, and some of the attendees had not done the all of the required written and reading pre course work

PeckaRolloverAgain · 16/05/2007 18:52

Another non-lentilly doula here

I am fresh back from a birth, it is such a wonderful role to be able to offer that support that is often lacking elsewhere - knackering but so wonderful!

Lilliput · 16/05/2007 19:21

I am so glad that lentil weaving is not part of the job description.
I think I am keen to have as much reading as possible under my belt because I don't want to make a tit of myself. I have never been to any sort of 'workshop' before and like to feel prepared and know what the form is. I busked my way through university and I don't want to feel as though I am busking my way through this too. Saying that I will be blagging the confidence thing, like most mothers I feel as though I have lost a lot of confidence in myself since having my children.

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lulumama · 16/05/2007 19:24

oi pecka !! MSNd you ! wanted a birth story !

Klaw · 16/05/2007 21:40

Right Lilliput,

I signed up in January and booked my workshop for first weekend in March, Set about reading the at least four of essential reading list and started by looking at each book to see how I got on with it.

I ended up putting off Primal Health till later as it was more medical and textbook in feel.

I read and loved The Doula Book, Birthing from Within, Gentle Birth, Gentle Mothering. They are written to be read by the lay person so are easy to read, fascinating and inspiring. Well that's my opinion anyway!

I was fascinated by the AIMS booklet Delivering your placenta: The Third stage as I'm ashamed to say I had never really considered the 3rd stage for either birth... Now, I would almost consider a Lotus Birth! But not quite...

Anyhow I'd just about read 4 books before the workshop, but I have done a lot research online via another forum so have learned loads already, which the workshop corroborated.

There were five of us that weekend and from all different walks of life. I was amazed at how honest everyone was about themselves when we talked at breaks and lunches...

Anyway we told the group about our birth experiences, what had brought us there, Adela talked about what it means to be a Doula and instilled into us what we need to be and do, ie don't give Advice!, there was role-play, we learned loads, realised we had loads more to learn (you just never stop till day you die!) and it was great, We actually talked so much we never got to do the relaxtion section at the end!!! We need a Doula week not weekend!

Adela did try to encourage us to write our assignment straight away and hand in 2 weeks after workshop but I wanted to read more so made a start, then left it till now and am now trying to finish it.

Take the bull by the horns! You'll be fine.

I'm not totaly earth mother, lentil weaving but I am more in tune (in my old age!) and can see that to understand the likes of Ina May helps us to see how normal birth can be.

FWIW I emailed Ina May my birth stories about 18 months ago to ask if she thought a HBAC was within the realms of reason and was totally surprised and gladdened that she, herself, emailed me back. That woman is a star!!!

I've rambled on and on and am no longer sure I've answered the question....

Once my assignment has been accepted I'll get my certificate and will be listed on SDN and can get listed on Doula UK. Currently once you've done your workshop you go on the SDN mail list and get invited to the SDN meetings, but I can't go to the one this Sat Can't wait to meet more of the other Scottish Doulas!

lulumama · 16/05/2007 21:48

you emailed ina may !!!

and she replied!!

oh my goodness

i want to email her and tell her how much she has inspired me, and how i think she is just the most inspirational and wonderful woman

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Lilliput · 17/05/2007 09:14

Thanks Klaw, I shall plough on with the reading in the hope I will be ready for the workshop in June. Can I ask which Forum you found useful?

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