DH works in public sector and is having some security vetting for a new job, and part of it is they want to see his financial records to make sure he's not being blackmailed/has a gambling habit/a fraudster etc. However, he was told today that the vetting people want to see my bank statements too and my credit card statements. I am mightily p*ed off about this as I don't work for them, and see it as a huge violation of my privacy - can I tell them to shove it without them being able to refuse him the job?