I am a nurse and I started a new job at a hospital. I am a single mum and don't drive and I knew some visiting would be needed so I made sure I had a good plan in place to complete the job and manage chikdcare. On my first day I was informed I was going to be doing emergency visits. This is not something that I was informed of until the first day. The first week I did not get back to my children until 7pm. I was paid until 4:30pm, the rest was unpaid overtime and I was exhausted. The commute was taking me 2 hours one way and I quickly realised the job was not sustainable.
I emailed my manager and explained that the commute was too long for me but that I have loved being a part of the team and should another position become available that was part time I would be happy to take it. I explained that I was available for a meeting to discuss my resignation anytime and offered to help with the transition in any way I could. I reiterated that my experience of the team was completely positive and my decision was made due to the commute only.
I had emailed as there was going to be a new office created on Monday and I didn't think it was fair for them to set me up on a work station there only for me to not be remaining. In hindsight it would have been better to wait until Monday when I was in in person but I genuinely thought id done the right thing at the time.
The reply I received left my speechless. The manager called me a coward for emailing, informed me that not offering to work any notice was unprofessional and discourteous.She said I had group visits planned and I should have rang those workers individually to inform them if no longer be working with them. She was concerned by my lack of maturity and insight and stated that it I applied for another job at hospital I would not be getting an interview and I was not welcome to apply there for any positions. She said she would refuse to give me a reference. She then said my lack of professionalism makes her question if I am appropriate to be registered with any professional body. She said she will not consider giving me a part time position either now or in the future. She ended by saying she has no sympathy for my difficulties with childcare or commute.
This manager has never seen me in practice. She is my line manager but just arranged my induction. She has not experience of his I am in work. I'd only been in the job two weeks and my latest supervision showed my on site manager was very impressed by my work and attitude.
Maybe I shouldn't have emailed. I understand that. But in was courteous and polite in my email and offered to support with the transition. I offered to work with them to find a different role for me. I didn't offer a specific period of notice but was happy to work with them to set work some kind of notice. The email was one long angry personal attack. I feel it was incredibly unprofessional and lacking in any kind of empathy. Even if she was annoyed she Copenhagen politely explained she would have rather had an in person discussion and then thanked me for informing her of the resignation. I've never in my life seen such an unprofessional email from a professional mamager. I think they have huge difficulty recruiting specialist nurses and this was why she was annoyed and took her frustration out on me.
I am not wanted back there and so won't be serving any notice. I wasn't planning to reply to the email at all as I just didn't know what to say but my friend who works as a doctor at the hospital says I should go to BE as the comment that I'm not going to get another job there and I'm not allowed a reference are not for her to say and are unacceptable. He said the hospital will not have wanted a nurse with an in demand speciality to have been good never to apply again.
What would you do in this situation? I don't want to return to the hospital as it's too far from my home anyway. I have an interview lined up next week for another hospital. I was in tears for a few days but I'm starting to feel better now. Trying not to let this affect my confidence too much.