Being a stay at home Mum?

[yummymummy1988]

I'm now a stay at home mum to my 10mo DS, my DH was supportive of my decision not to go back to work. Most days go by fairly quickly, although to be honest we don't do much in the way of going to groups or anything.
Two questions really, do you think I am holding him back by it being the 2 of us at home the majority of the time?
And did you feel like less of a person when you decided to become a SAHM? I have friends and hear of women with babies similar ages who are working FT or running businesses and manage.. I'm home all day and my DH is lucky if he comes home to the bed made and tea in the oven! Just feeling a bit useless really.

[Dozer]

That’s brilliant, but is an anecdote: stats suggest that’s not typical.

[Bubblebubblepop]

-Lack of experience
-Being out of work places changes in technology, culture and management practises
-not keeping up with training or education if required

• lack of networking
  

Just a few. There are many many reasons why a person returning to work after 10 years is a less favourable applicant.

[Bubblebubblepop]

(So the point is- what's stopping them? Being able to get a job, frequently)

Unless they want to do something low level and low paid where entry requirements are very low

[Northernbird11]

If you just want to be at home until your child’s starts nursery/school it’s only 3-4 years which in my case didn’t make a difference apart from giving me a reason to leave the old office and actually find a better one. If a company isn’t willing to give you any training you might require they aren’t worth working for anyway in my opinion.
Can I ask where everyone if from? Just out of curiosity.

[Bubblebubblepop]

What do you do? Some jobs need more skills than others.

I'm from London

[Lollipop30]

We’re in Cheshire not sure how much it changes things?

I’ve been out of my career 5yrs now. The whole until their 3-4 only makes sense if you have one child. I’m on no3 now so would need to be another 3-4 years on that ruling.

I’ve checked regularly about getting back into my career (in fact each time I’ve gone to go back I’ve found out I’m pregnant again). In order to go back into it I will need to do top up training and refresher courses. I would need to do one day a week training to 4 days working and would be on considerably less money for at least a year. Tbh it is a sacrifice I would make because I loved my job before and I’ve also loved my time out of if bringing up the kids too.

[Bubblebubblepop]

Is that a vocation like nursing? Because otherwise how could you know you could go back into your job with any certainty after a bit of training?

I interviewed 13 people last week, 12 of them didn't get a job. Most people don't have security of thinking they can just walk into a role.

[Northernbird11]

It depends where you are also. In the rural area I live in, there aren’t that many people with my qualification. Unless you interview really badly, the qualification itself usually gets you the job.
Yes that is true, if you have more children then that adds extra years onto your time at home of course.
I was just wondering if there was a cultural difference in regards to opinions.