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Take my son to work

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shorifakhan · 23/08/2016 15:54

Hi all,

I am looking for a full time nanny/housekeeper job where I would be able to take my 8 month old son with me. Like all mothers, I am sure, when leaving my son behind, I am super distracted at work (I currently work in an office). Working as a carer previously, I have seen a few nannies families employ to have brought their own children to their work and it works great. What does everyone think of this and any suggestions where I may find a role like this or is anyone requiring a hard-working, children loving young mum?
If I could be earning between £1500-£1700 a month, I think I could literally spend as much time at my employers house as they need me!

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JenniferYellowHat1980 · 23/08/2016 16:51

Like all mothers, I am sure, when leaving my son behind, I am super distracted at work (I currently work in an office)

You're saying that now you're a mother you're no longer able to give your job your undivided attention, and more than that, you think all women lose this capacity on childbirth. Are you serious?

And there's no way I'd want a nanny to bring their own child if I were paying them to look after mine. I would, astonishingly, want your undivided attention on my children.

MrsToddsShortcut · 23/08/2016 16:57

Like all mothers, I am sure, when leaving my son behind, I am super distracted at work (I currently work in an office)

Nope, really wasn't! By the time I went back to work I was desperate for adult company!

I don't know enough about nannying or childcare to know whether it's acceptable practice, but I'm not sure it's terribly common. Can I ask who has your baby while you are working? Are they in childcare? Is it a money issue ?

AndNowItsSeven · 23/08/2016 17:00

Nanny with own child is not unusual, you will obviously be paid less though.

Missgraeme · 23/08/2016 17:00

I have seen a few ads on the childcare.com site that do state you can take your own child! I had considered this myself! Sign up but just do the free option or it is a bit of a con tbh!

Gazelda · 23/08/2016 17:02

I'm sure there are nanny roles which allows the nanny's child to be with her/him in the home. But I suspect these are mainly nannies returning to work and therefore well known to the family. And I imagine most families will want an experienced, qualified nanny with references.

Have you considered child minding? It might suit you better.

But to be honest, no, I am not super distracted at work, thinking about my DC. I have my phone to had in case I need to be reached, and I spend commuting and lunchtimes catching up with chores, shopping etc. But when at work I concentrate on what I'm being paid to do.

VimFuego101 · 23/08/2016 17:02

I would prefer a nanny who actually liked and wanted to work with kids, tbh, not someone who only wanted to work as a nanny so they could bring their own child with them to work.

Bubbinsmakesthree · 23/08/2016 17:03

maybe I am naive as to the going rate for nannies, but for £1500-£1700 a month I would be expecting sole care of my DC.

And working in an office might not be the job for you but I manage just fine thanks!

Marmite27 · 23/08/2016 17:04

Won't you need childcare qualifications? Paediatric first aid, insurance etc, I'm not sure it's the kind of job you can just decide to do on a whim.

Lunar1 · 23/08/2016 17:09

If you are distracted at work without your ds imagine how distracted you will be with him there! If I was paying out for a nanny it would be for sole care of my children.

SavoyCabbage · 23/08/2016 17:13

If you get a nanny interview, don't mention that you were thinking about your ds so distracted!

There are a fair few childminders where I like with their own dc.

badg3r · 23/08/2016 17:18

At work I get much more distracted by MN than by thinking of my DC.

MrsHulk · 23/08/2016 17:23

You might do better posting for advice about this in the home childcare section where there are a lot of nannies and families who hire nannies. It's not that unusual for nannies to bring their own child, but it usually reduces pay. You will also need to have all the normal qualifications and experience a nanny would need - just the fact that you have a baby is not going to be enough!

OlennasWimple · 23/08/2016 17:25

Bloody loved going to work when I had an eight month old - no distracting thoughts for me!

wizzywig · 23/08/2016 17:28

I think there a few nwoc threads in the home childcare section. I guess if you are in london working full time you'd make that money

SocksRock · 23/08/2016 17:29

I love going to work and not being distracted by my kids!

OiWithThePoodlesAlready · 23/08/2016 17:31

I think you'd be hard pushed to earn that as an nanny. Taking your own child along obviously lowers the pay quite significantly. Do you have experience? Qualifications?

To be honest you'd be better teaching yourself to not be distracted whilst at you're current job. Your ds will soon be growing up and at nursery and then school so you shouldn't be changing your career based on how you feel when he is a baby.

wizzywig · 23/08/2016 17:34

Think the op is going to regret the word distracted.

MrsMargeSimpson · 23/08/2016 17:59

Hahahahahahahahahaha

Oh bless you.

Hahahahahahaha

Floggingmolly · 23/08/2016 18:03

You're not qualified, are you? Confused. You think you've just discovered a good wheeze for essentially being able to stay home with your baby and get paid for it. But what is the attraction for your would be employer?
I don't think there is one, sorry.

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shorifakhan · 23/08/2016 18:24

oops!
I didn't mean to say I was distracted from work itself just that I missed my son a lot at work! and it would help if I could keep him near me maybe. This wouldn't affect my concentration on other children for sure. In the past I have watched up to four children of different ages and
I worked as a carer/babysitter/support worker before my current job so I am qualified (First aid etc..)
My mum watches my son whilst I work. My workplace has been great allowing me to do fulltime hours within 3 days so I do 12 hour shifts Thursdays, Fridays and Saturdays.
I guess everyone is better at this juggling motherhood/career than I am:(
Thanks for all your advise everyone:)

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shorifakhan · 23/08/2016 18:29

I am regretting using that word lol!

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shorifakhan · 23/08/2016 18:33

I used to be a nanny for a Russian family who moved back home about 3 years ago. When applying for other roles, I found families preferred older nannies as I was just 19 at the time with just a year of professional experience. I loved being a nanny and would love to go back to being one. I didn't just wake up and want to be a nanny one day.

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shorifakhan · 23/08/2016 18:36

I thought I would get encouraging replies but I guess this is reality and I am stuck in the job I am in right? Thanks everyone for giving me a reality check!

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Whatthefreakinwhatnow · 23/08/2016 18:47

Are you actually qualified to Nanny? It's not just about first aid certificates?!

Randytortoise · 23/08/2016 18:54

First aid needs to be updated regularly along with child protection/safeguarding and for the money you are looking for ofsted registration and accompanying childcare qualifications.