Take my son to work

[shorifakhan]

Hi all,

I am looking for a full time nanny/housekeeper job where I would be able to take my 8 month old son with me. Like all mothers, I am sure, when leaving my son behind, I am super distracted at work (I currently work in an office). Working as a carer previously, I have seen a few nannies families employ to have brought their own children to their work and it works great. What does everyone think of this and any suggestions where I may find a role like this or is anyone requiring a hard-working, children loving young mum?
If I could be earning between £1500-£1700 a month, I think I could literally spend as much time at my employers house as they need me!

[indigox]

If she's not meeting the requirements of the role YANBU, but you're better off making you're own thread about this.

[Clairey471]

I employed my nanny to come back to work with her 1 year old son. I was generous and didn't cut her pay at all. My son is at school each morning and some afternoons. My nanny is supposed to do chores when he is at school but less and less is done each week and I've started to resent paying a nanny to look after her own child in my house. At first I tried to be understanding by cutting back her chores (no washing and ironing) but I felt she just banked those hours saved for herself while is was spending more time on my precious weekends doing her chores. I gave her the option to reduce her salary (so I could get a cleaner) or leave her child with its grandparents once a week so she could get her chores done. She got rather shirty with me. Am I being unreasonable?

[dancinghulagirl]

Like all mothers, I am sure, when leaving my son behind, I am super distracted at work (I currently work in an office)

made me giggle! - is that like all the dads working out there too?? personally, i couldnt wait to get back to work

only teasing, i see that other posters have already said as much, and you have replied....

On a serious note, have you got a niche skill that you could move in to working for yourself? Maybe childminding is the right way to go forward? or going part time?

You do need to think about the long game though, and how your career will go if you come out of the marketplace - its harder to get back in to when you've had a break (sure you've heard all this before)

[jclm]

I think you should advertise on childcare.co.uk and register with nanny agencies locally.

There is certainly a market for after school nannies with their own children, especially if you have a car big enough for your baby plus 2-3 (or more) older children. We've just recruited an older nanny at a huge cost but there was an option for us to employ a nanny with her own baby. We didn't go for her because we would have to childproof our house again and I really wanted my two young children to get some time together alone with the nanny, rather than the nanny being distracted by her own baby.

In terms of pay, it depends on your location and how many hours you're working. If it's only after school, that may only be 4 hours of work per day. If you're working 7-7, 5 days a week, maybe you would earn £1500 a month. But you'd have to think about that routine on your own baby, who may find it hard to be woken up and dressed at 6am and not get back home till 7.30pm, and have to fit nap times around the other children. Also consider how difficult it will be to look after a toddler during after school activities. Just some things to consider. HTH

[Rainbowunicorn73]

I work as an SEN teacher and have a four year old. Whilst I don't take my ds into work with me constantly, it is allowed if I'm stuck. I've taken him in in a small handful of occasions and would say that it is VERY difficult to work to a high level with your own child running around and expecting you to play with them. An 8 month old will sit in one spot, a 16 month old will toddle around putting everything in his mouth. It might seem like a dream scenario but it isn't.
Have you considered working in a day nursery? They often let you take the child but they have to be in a different room from you.

[shorifakhan]

Thank you all:)

[shorifakhan]

Yep got all the qualifications- used to be a nanny- pay is better in my current job so I moved on from nannying or else I would never have changed careers.

[JenniferYellowHat1980]

Your 3x12 hour shifts sound like a great arrangement as long as you reasons got happy with the work that you're doing. How old is your DS? You might find that some external childcare for a few hours a week would be great for him too. My DS thrived on the variety.

[MrsHulk]

With only a years experience (and that three years ago?) you are going to struggle to find a nanny role tbh.

We're hiring a nanny at the moment and the only candidates we're bothering to interview have up to date first aid, dbs, childcare qualifications, and at least three years recent experience.

If you are seriously keen to nanny as a career then maybe look at how you could do some qualifications? And see if you could get local work babysitting or as a mother's help to boost your experience?

[SocksRock]

Not necessarily stuck in the job you are in, but I don't think the job you want will be easy to find. You might be better concentrating on learning to throw yourself into work while you are there and making the most of the time when you are with your son. Also, I remember 8 months as a bit of a golden time - nice and happy, yet not mobile. In a year - your child will be into everything and a job as a housekeeper would be nigh on impossible as your child wouldn't necessarily sit nicely and let you work. Then you would be stuck. 3 x 12 hours shifts with no childcare costs is awesome, see if you can make the best of it and learn to not get distracted?

[Randytortoise]

First aid needs to be updated regularly along with child protection/safeguarding and for the money you are looking for ofsted registration and accompanying childcare qualifications.

[Whatthefreakinwhatnow]

Are you actually qualified to Nanny? It's not just about first aid certificates?!

[shorifakhan]

I thought I would get encouraging replies but I guess this is reality and I am stuck in the job I am in right? Thanks everyone for giving me a reality check!

[shorifakhan]

I used to be a nanny for a Russian family who moved back home about 3 years ago. When applying for other roles, I found families preferred older nannies as I was just 19 at the time with just a year of professional experience. I loved being a nanny and would love to go back to being one. I didn't just wake up and want to be a nanny one day.

[shorifakhan]

I am regretting using that word lol!

[shorifakhan]

oops!
I didn't mean to say I was distracted from work itself just that I missed my son a lot at work! and it would help if I could keep him near me maybe. This wouldn't affect my concentration on other children for sure. In the past I have watched up to four children of different ages and
I worked as a carer/babysitter/support worker before my current job so I am qualified (First aid etc..)
My mum watches my son whilst I work. My workplace has been great allowing me to do fulltime hours within 3 days so I do 12 hour shifts Thursdays, Fridays and Saturdays.
I guess everyone is better at this juggling motherhood/career than I am:(
Thanks for all your advise everyone:)

[Floggingmolly]

You're not qualified, are you? . You think you've just discovered a good wheeze for essentially being able to stay home with your baby and get paid for it. But what is the attraction for your would be employer?
I don't think there is one, sorry.

[MrsMargeSimpson]

Hahahahahahahahahaha

Oh bless you.

Hahahahahahaha

[wizzywig]

Think the op is going to regret the word distracted.

[OiWithThePoodlesAlready]

I think you'd be hard pushed to earn that as an nanny. Taking your own child along obviously lowers the pay quite significantly. Do you have experience? Qualifications?

To be honest you'd be better teaching yourself to not be distracted whilst at you're current job. Your ds will soon be growing up and at nursery and then school so you shouldn't be changing your career based on how you feel when he is a baby.

[SocksRock]

I love going to work and not being distracted by my kids!

[wizzywig]

I think there a few nwoc threads in the home childcare section. I guess if you are in london working full time you'd make that money

[OlennasWimple]

Bloody loved going to work when I had an eight month old - no distracting thoughts for me!

[MrsHulk]

You might do better posting for advice about this in the home childcare section where there are a lot of nannies and families who hire nannies. It's not that unusual for nannies to bring their own child, but it usually reduces pay. You will also need to have all the normal qualifications and experience a nanny would need - just the fact that you have a baby is not going to be enough!

[badg3r]

At work I get much more distracted by MN than by thinking of my DC.