does your DH work long hours??

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without the 'overtime' - just salaried so not entitled to overtime?

DH is bugging me as he never rings to give any indication of what time he will be leaving. we finish eating then usually one of the kids asks if we can ring him to find out how long he will be! tonight i am NOT ringing ... sometimes i do wonder if he would ever come home if we didn't ring and remind him of our exsistence...well tonight we will find out.

Have skimmed the thread and agree with birdyarms and newgirl.
We have DS (4) and DD (7 mo) and I work 4 'short' 6-hr days, one of which is at home (is an 8-hr day if I go into the office as is 1hr commute each way).
DH shares the childcare and does the picking-up from school or nursery when I'm working. I earn more than him (even working part-time), but he does a lot of overtime in the summer so we have to juggle childcare then, with gp's and sil's help.
IME, people who work late at the office are mainly genuinely doing their job (I have to do this myself when things are busy), but a small minority (who are generally blokes) are caught up in the long-hours facade and will play games on the internet for the sake of the extra half hour or hour.
Also, IME, blokes are less organised with their time whereas us girls plan better ang get on with it better in the time available .

And a huge number are seeing other women or men too... what in today's press? The Attorney General being uncontactable in office hours because he was apparently in bed with his mistress and the DPP using the official car to visit the 37 blonde barrister..... presumably those men who no doubt work late, both I think paid by tax payers' money were ahem...."working late".

Dh at work now ,on a good day he is home between 8pm and 9pm on a bad day he might not get home at all,things are really bad at the moment because he has two deals on one in singapore and one in the states so he is sandwiched between two time zones .We have threee boys 14,11 and 6 and I work 30 hours a week,far more than I would like but I was pressured into it and at the time dh had just moved firms to more local one and we thought hours might settle down a bit but no such luck if anything its worse because in a smaller partnership he feels he has to prove more also the resource is less.

I feel so resentful at the moment,I am tired of always being on my own at home in the evenings ,I never eat in the evenings anymore,of him calling at 9.30pm to say that hes just leaving the office and whats for supper(!)of dealing the the childrens arguments a nd when he does come home he is glued to his Blackbery .

I know he works hard because he wants the best for us and ds2 has SEN and has just started at a fantastic private special school and we desparately want to keep him there but even so where is my marriage and wehere is my best friend ?