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I have been excluded and I have the hump!!!!! GGGGRRRRRRRRRR

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crappywappynamechangingwuss · 05/12/2006 14:06

There's a girl and it would seem that she is a very childish girl. She dislikes me, on the surface it's all sweetness and light and artificial compliments but you can tell she really doesn't like me.

Now, we work with the same people.. she had arranged a lunchtime event to which I wasn't invited - I was invited by two other chaps we work with. This didn't bother me and I went along to the lunch regardless.

Today somebody asked me who I had got in the secret santa that she'd organised.. I hadn't been included in it! nor have I been included in the Christmas lunch which is apparently taking place soon - this has really p'd me off as they are 'team' events in my eyes.

Am delaying deciding how to deal with it until I have had time to reflect and can be calm. I feel a bit crappy about it though! like she's trying to exclude me from an already established group.. I have my suspicions as to why but still I feel it is akin to trying to bully me (which quite honestly won't get her far)

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crappywappynamechangingwuss · 07/12/2006 15:30

Wannabe that's awful! really shitty behaviour.

She is a much weaker person that I am which is why I can afford to bide my time.

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crappywappynamechangingwuss · 07/12/2006 15:38

I just waltzed passed her office. I'm so good at oozing confidence. Just wish I felt how I looked.

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CarolSheetTurner · 07/12/2006 16:23

You're doing great, crappy. You are confident, you are strong and you have everyone else behind you. Stay positive.

themulledSNOWMANneredjanitor · 07/12/2006 16:27

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crappywappynamechangingwuss · 07/12/2006 16:57

I have to be careful how I handle this, I have to come away with my reputation at least in tact if not improved

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mistletoemania · 07/12/2006 17:02

crappy you are going to have to say something for all our sakes i keep coming back to this to see the outcome. do the condescending talk and bring the tissues. right dinner to be cooked children to be bathed and christmas cards to be wrapped ..work do tomorrow night

mistletoemania · 07/12/2006 17:04

condesending poor spelling just ignore!!!

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crappywappynamechangingwuss · 07/12/2006 17:06

OK the lunch she has arranged is the week after next, I'll only post on here between now and then if the situation changes. It will be resolved before Christmas..

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Miaou · 08/12/2006 12:07

Go crappy, go crappy, go crappy .... (in stylee of Jerry Springer Show)

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crappywappynamechangingwuss · 12/12/2006 15:38

She's made herself look like an arse as quite a few people have been talking about it all and how well I'm handling it.

So this morning she came round to see me and I got a grovelly apology and an invite. I told her I'd already been invited by someone else and I might be going but hadn't decided yet.

Thanks for all the advice and support I got on here. I am very grateful

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FestiveFrex · 12/12/2006 16:26

How does she propose fitting you up with a Secret Santa if she's alread sorted out all the others?

You say she apologised. What (pathetic) excuse did she give for missing you out?

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crappywappynamechangingwuss · 12/12/2006 16:34

Didn't mention the secret santa.

Didn't offer any excuse was quite humble about it actually (which was some what redeeming) very sorry if she'd caused offence just hadn't thought etc etc

All bollocks if you ask me (esp. as she stood there while somebody said thay hoped they got me and she never said anything) but people remember things like this. I'm glad that my standing in the group has been (re?)affirmed by my/our colleagues. As somebody on here said.. you can only be excluded if others partcipate (I'm paraphrasing - probably badly). They were right and I feel happy and lucky and glad that others have not let this continue to the point where I had to take action.

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wickedwinterwitch · 12/12/2006 20:18

You will be in a much stronger position imo if you stay professional and calm and don't rise to it, so do what you're doing. Don't let her get to you. She clearly has issues, happy, sorted people don't need to behave like this.

Plus not reacting will piss her off, big time and don't you so want that?

GirlySquare · 13/12/2006 13:45

Good for you crappywappy, and well done to your colleagues for standing by you. www is right you just need to keep calm and professional and enjoy watching the little madam dig herself even further into a hole.

Thanks mistletoemania

smittenkitten · 13/12/2006 20:40

hmmm. tricky one. You can either confront her (most people are really poor at being tackled head on and i suspect she'll deny any intent and it will stop), or speak to your manager? If she cries, my top tip is to say "i can see you're upset and I'm going to leave you for a few minutes to calm yourself". it's amazing how quickly criers stop when their audience is taken away.

MerryPiffmas · 13/12/2006 20:44

Now all that remains is to go, look better, be more spraklier in coversation, captivate your co workers and affirm your place at the top of the pecking order

NutterlyUts · 20/12/2006 19:13

Any update?

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