Perimenopause and work

[emmelinelucas]

I have a problem - I will be as concise as possible.
I am peri-menopausal, age 50 and having hot flushes that are not nice, but pass. I have had one day off sick when it all started. It hit me like a bomb, and fainted at home whilst getting ready for work.
I wouldnt say that I am gnerally ill as such. I can live with it, knowing that it will pass eventually.
When I had a meeting with my line manager (a one 2 one we call it ) I had a flush in the meeting.
My manager said (this is what i remember - i was flustered) "you cant do this job if you cant behave professionally. Hot flushes in meetings with clients and whilst training are not acceptable"
I work in local governement, on the social welfare side.
I didnt know what to say - just blethered on that I would go to my GP. I dont think I am THAT bad, but the message I got was that I cannot stay in my job (it is precarious with the cuts looming) in case i might have a flush. I would rather not try HRT-health issues.
I am worried and upset.
Is there any advice anyone could give me ?
I think (and am not paranoid here) that I am basically being told I cannot do my job.
Am shattered !

Hi emmeline, how did you get on?

For how many years (approx) do you get hot flushes and night sweats during peri/menopuse?

I think it varies massively, holly. Mine started in 2007 and I still get the occasional bout now, although it's been a lot better the last year or so. It's not constant - I can be fine for months and then get a week or so of several a day.

Emmeline hope it went well for you.

How are you emmelinelucas?
Been thinking of your this week.

Hello, peeps. I am back. Had a HORRIBLE time at work, stressed beyond belief.
DH has insisted that I leave.
We will be ok financially, and I can work for myself if needs be.
The relief at knowing I am going is overwhelming
The support on here has been amazing Thankyou so much

I'm sorry that you have felt the need to do that, but I totally understand why. I hope your notice period is quick and without further incident

Would you consider claiming for constructive dismissal? This monstrous woman has most certainly hounded you out of there.

So sorry to hear that but I don't blame you at all. Have a good rest and then make some exciting plans for the future x

I really do just want to leave. My DH is happy about this- he retired last year (is a lot older than me) and wants to spend some time with me, do things together whilst he can as his health is not too good.
Money will be tighter, but we can live cheaply, my money went on treats, mainly for me ! I have enough wages saved for a year so should be able to eke it out for a good while.
The mortgage is paid off.
So I am counting my blessings.
I could work for myself later on, in the same field or go back to freelance writing.
I want a rest first, though !