Support thread 3 - further blanketeering

[tribpot]

Oh no! The previous thread has become full and suddenly we need a new one, with no way of linking old to new. I hope people will find this one. :)

This is a continuation of our thread supporting MNers creating blanket squares for Woolly Hugs. All are welcome.

Ophelia, you're on - I've put you above the line where 'here be dragons' as otherwise it's only DAISY and me representing the North of England, with Formerly technically on the right latitude but in another country If you live just south of the line, I'm moving the line down!

I'm surprised to hear Chester is short on wool shops, I would have thought it'd have a few naice places.

I'm off today to my 'knitting with colour' workshop so I am insanely excited to learn how I've been doing it wrong all this time.

Trib that is indeed, as you so astutely put it, bollocks.

FWIW I work in what is theoretically a no-blame culture too. But ultimately it's about not punishing people for their mistakes. You still need to identify who fucked up the root cause of the problem etc and ensure necessary retraining etc. You come across as super grounded and articulate and I'm sure you will manage it perfectly. Having the boss' boss' boss' (too many bosses?) ear definitely helps too . Go sock it to 'em!

No blame culture lies in the same dustbin category as paperless offices < wry laugh>

Don't you dare apologise, unless it's along the lines of "I'm sorry you are a stupid twat who thinks they know my job better than me, perhaps next time the is a a massive presentation that my career hinges on you would like, go on holiday somewhere far far away, with no Internet access so you can't, even remotely, f**k it up" apology and solution to the problem never happening again all in one!

I've let my boss and my director (all v confusing, am on secondment) know that I am concerned enough to be thinking about resigning. I can't bounce back from the secondment as I only went on it to avoid resigning from the job I already had :)

Not sure where this leaves me, other than expecting a resounding 'meh' from both. When I first mentioned going on secondment, my then-boss said "why are you telling me? I don't give a shit". Lovely.

I do agree with the no-blame culture up to a point, Barbara. I have no interest in ascertaining who within the admin team is actually responsible for the f**k-up, I want a collective commitment not to do it again. That doesn't seem to be very forthcoming in the light of their manager's comment today that "there's things we all could have done differently". I managed to bite my tongue to avoid saying "no, you could just have done your jobs properly" - admirable restraint, I feel.

I can't think what I might do next, though. (Other than knitting support). The reason why virtually everyone who is still working there is there is because there's no other work of that type locally. Ho hum.

Come and live down here, s'lovely :)

As has been said, all the evidence on here is that you are fully articulate and assertive enough to deal with the numpties the "no-blame" manager.

You could go in passive-aggressively totally reasonably suggesting that of course you want to get to the bottom of how very clear instructions were not followed, which makes you wonder if his numpties underlings are capable of being involved in helping future presentations/activities as obviously you he wouldn't want this to happen again.

In the nicest possible way, Pidj, I'm not sure that will help! The city is fine and I can't justify moving ds from his school unless absolutely necessary.

Oh I should say, no-blame manager has the backing of his own director. This is why I haven't attempted my super-magnanimous "let me just reiterate what my expectations are" approach. Deaf ears.

'Helping' with these presentations is these people's full-time job.

Yeah but it'd be fun :o

Chin up, Trib. It's possibly not very useful or professional to tell your colleagues that all the woolly people on the interweb agree with you and include in their ranks, a bird, a pidjin, a donkey, a woodlouse, glaikit and a Vogon poet laureate (TM., patent pending) plus Knotty and Pitsey Pistey - but hopefully the thought will secretly cheer you up

And if all else fails, you can team up with that feckless breeder Pidge and pass the time attempting ever increasingly difficult challenges from Minniebar*

*I haven't quite worked out how you'll make this bit pay. But it does sound fun!

People chuck money in hats for people playing musical instruments. Why should they not do the same for people making woolly graffitti...

at knitting busking

not wanting to restart the whole farcebook quiche thing, but after much profound brain things inside of my head, I have created a FB page for my mumsnet friends that is separate from my personal fb page - it will no doubt be more fun and involve my mother less which is always good. I'm very excited. Please friend me - I'm, wait for it, Dances Withwool Enpointe. See what I did there?

Trib, I have a photo of the beaded heart square. If you, or anyone else who think they can recreate it, email me at admin @ woollyhugs . com , I'll send the pic to you. Thanks

If you have tasked it to trib I am imagining it is beyond by capabilities. I'll smile and wave and do moss stitch

I might use it as an 'audition piece' for a job in my local yarn shop! My director has already responded with the expected 'meh' so just my boss to go ...

No great advice Trib, but just adding my (hopefully supportive) 'FFS, how unprofessional' voice to the pot.

Good luck, Trib

My boss replies to emails very infrequently but took time today ... to reply to one someone sent with a picture of her pet tortoise in.

That's that, then.

Oh ffs. Time for Plan B then

A jeffing TORTOISE?!?

Sod em Trib. [hobnob]

Yeah. I'm just so tired. There's another problem at work that I can't talk about, not an HR type issue, something else. The combination of pressures and frustration is just too much to deal with.

Can you grab a week off with stress while you have a think?

You must be so frustrated. Hope things resolve themselves soon - in a way that is good for you :)