i have been lurking around feminism/women's rights for the past few days and have decided to make a change in my life.
although my OH says all the right things when we discuss housework/ division of chores/ childcare issues it doesn't last and i inevitably end up doing the lion's share of it all, he will when asked. now we have an unusual sort of set up in that he is forces and away 90% of the time so naturally everything falls to me. this, i have no problem with. my problem is that when he is here it is still me that does it all. we have talked about it before and OH says that no1, he wants me to stop nagging about him doing things and no2 because he isn't here he doesn't know what needs done and when. which leaves me with the issue of telling him what needs done without him seeing it as nagging. but i also think that his reasons are a bit of a cop out. e.g; he knows that i put a wash on every night, he knows i make the bed every morning, he knows that the washing comes in each night, gets folded and put away, and he knows that dinner needs cooked each evening so really i shouldn't need to be reminding him about this stuff.
so, to my point, following on from me printing off the inspirational quotes from the other thread and putting them up in my house i would like to put up an inspirational quote/phrase for him that would make him feel like he should be doing all thses things. something that will dig at his male pride. not something that slags him of for not doing it but something that will make him feel proud to do it. as in "a real man does x,y and z" or " you are an adult when you can do x, y and z for yourself"
does anybody have anything i could use or could you help me with putting something together? i would also like it to be inspirational for my dcs when they are older.
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booyhoo · 30/06/2010 22:27
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