This Usborn
book is called,
Growing Up
Adolescence, body changes and sex.
Gender vs sex
You might have heard of gender before. Many people think its the same thing as your sex - but it isn't. Your sex describes the body parts you were born with, but your gender is about how you think and feel.
[speech bubble] YOU'RE A GIRL? BUT YOU DON'T LOOK LIKE A GIRL.
I DON'T HAVE TO.
I FEEL LIKE A GIRL.
Gender is a feeling
Maybe you feel like a girl, or a boy, or both, or neither. This feeling is your gender, and it may have nothing to do with your genitals. Your gender is personal, which means only you can say what it is. You might know what your gender is, or find that it changes as you grow. It's up to you who you tell about it, and when.
Gender and sex
It's common for males to feel like boys and females to feel like girls, but this isn't true for everyone. If it feels right for you, that means you're cisgender (cis).
If you feel differently, you might be transgender (trans). For example, you might be male and feel like a girl, or female and feel like a boy.
All combinations of sex and gender are normal.
[speech bubble] “WE MAY BE TWINS, BUT I'M A CIS GIRL...”
“..AND I'M A TRANS BOY.”
Many genders
like neither, or like a mix of the two. This is called being Your gender isn't limited to being a girl or boy. You could feel non-binary (enby). If you feel as if your gender changes regularly, even daily, then you could be gender fluid. Both of these are normal.
[speech bubble] THAT'S FUNNY, I ACTUALLY FEEL LIKE A BOY TODAY
WHO'S HE? IS HE NEW?
^NOW YOU LOOK LIKE
A GIRL.^
THAT'S JAY. THEY'RE ENBY AND PREFER BEING CALLED THEY INSTEAD OF HE.
AH, COOL!
I JUST FEEL LIKE ME. AND I'M HAPPY THAT WAY!
..^AND I'MA
TRANS BOY.^
Many sexes
Just as there are more than two genders, there are more than two sexes, too. Some people are born with a mix of male and female parts, known as intersex:
If you're intersex, it might be because of the mixture of hormones in your body. Or it might be that you have one kind of sex organ on the outside but another on the inside. Or maybe your genitals are a mix of male and female, or not clearly one or the other. And if any of this describes you, it's still up to YOU to decide on what your gender is.