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Touchdown at the Newest Bluestocking Inn. Pudding, cups of tea, the vegetable garden coming into its own, and gerbils beautiful gerbils all furry.

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DeanElderberry · 12/04/2026 18:36

All females welcome for intelligent discourse and non-harmful comestibles.

Touchdown at the Newest Bluestocking Inn. Pudding, cups of tea, the vegetable garden coming into its own, and gerbils beautiful gerbils all furry.
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Hedgehogforshort · 21/04/2026 21:37

Dont forget to look after yourself pasta.

MarieDeGournay · 21/04/2026 21:51

PastaAllaNorma · 21/04/2026 21:36

Thank you so much!
Dad has messaged and is feeling well. After so many near death experiences in the last 9 days, I'm so wrung out.

I'm still doing my best but in a few days I will have to head home so I'm trying to work out ways of checking on him or visiting via public transport.

That's great news!
You've been through a lot, surfing a wave of adrenaline, so you're bound to feel wiped out for a while - take the best care of yourself that you canFlowers

MyrtleLion · 21/04/2026 21:55

Gosie is visiting friends at Mount Stuart. It isn’t a target—it’s a waypoint. A place where she can step in, be known, exchange exactly the right amount of information, and move on without disturbance. People there would recognise her without fuss. Doors open quietly for her. Tea appears. Nothing is asked that shouldn’t be asked.

The house curator is there—sharp-eyed, quietly formidable, the sort who knows exactly where everything is and why it matters. They speak the same language as Gosie: provenance, placement, what belongs where and what subtly doesn’t.

The head housekeeper too. Absolute authority in a cardigan. Nothing escapes her, but she chooses very carefully what to notice. She’d have ensured the right room was ready without being asked, and that the wine was exactly right.

And then there’s one more—less obvious. Someone who isn’t on any public list. Archives, perhaps. Or conservation. The kind of person who deals with items that aren’t on display, or not yet catalogued, or deliberately under-described.

Dinner would have been excellent, unshowy, perfectly judged. The wine—older than it needed to be, opened without comment. Conversation tight, intelligent, with long stretches of comfortable silence.

At some point, something small would have been placed on the table. Looked at. Understood. No fuss.

She’ll stay the night because leaving would create more attention than staying. In the morning, she’ll be gone before the house properly wakes.

Touchdown at the Newest Bluestocking Inn. Pudding, cups of tea, the vegetable garden coming into its own, and gerbils beautiful gerbils all furry.
MyrtleLion · 21/04/2026 21:57

Love to you, Pasta. Take care of yourself as you come down from the adrenaline wave. 💙

MarieDeGournay · 21/04/2026 22:01

' Absolute authority in a cardigan. '😂
Gosie's stories are very thrilling, as in a thriller - what is she seeking? what has she found? what will she share? what will she hide?

EdithStourton · 21/04/2026 22:31

Wonderful news, Pasta. Onwards and upwards.

Boiledbeetle · 21/04/2026 22:43

I come bearing news...

Plan to expand Tunnock's Scottish factory for 'worldwide demand' | The Herald https://share.google/v4fSNKOV4Ak5Pyq6W

MyrtleLion · 21/04/2026 22:51

Boiledbeetle · 21/04/2026 22:43

I come bearing news...

Plan to expand Tunnock's Scottish factory for 'worldwide demand' | The Herald https://share.google/v4fSNKOV4Ak5Pyq6W

Deep Joy 💙💙💙

Boiledbeetle · 21/04/2026 22:53

PastaAllaNorma · 21/04/2026 18:27

If anyone wants a laugh, here's the out of date food stash.

Bear in mind I emptied the pantry part of the kitchen last summer.

I was a very responsible recycler.
All the food emptied into the council food bin bags
All the cartons, tubs, containers and bottles washed and sorted into paper, glass, plastic.

But I am NOT opening the tin of tuna out of date in November just to recycle the can, because there are limits.

November. Of last year? It will be fine. I opened a tin for my lunch the other day that was bbe January 2021. Tasted like tinned tuna.

Glad your dad got through his op.

Now I'm just off to do some shopping.

Touchdown at the Newest Bluestocking Inn. Pudding, cups of tea, the vegetable garden coming into its own, and gerbils beautiful gerbils all furry.
ChristmasStars · 21/04/2026 22:58

I think a hall of fame would be so lovely. I was thinking recently what I would really love is a potted history lesson on the origins and ongoings of the Blue Stocking.

Chickadeeinme · 22/04/2026 01:41

Good to hear about your dad @PastaAllaNorma

DeanElderberry · 22/04/2026 08:16

Very good news about your dad, Norma, I so pleased.

How are you going to explain throwing out all his Perfectly Good Food?

The cheese washing thread is a joy/disaster depending on how much you enjoy people writing the same thing over and over and over because they haven't rtft.

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ErrolTheDragon · 22/04/2026 08:25

DeanElderberry · 22/04/2026 08:16

Very good news about your dad, Norma, I so pleased.

How are you going to explain throwing out all his Perfectly Good Food?

The cheese washing thread is a joy/disaster depending on how much you enjoy people writing the same thing over and over and over because they haven't rtft.

She’s going to have to restock with the same items with new dates.Grin

DH has a tendency to go the shelves binning things past their BBF dates. He has a point about some things - while many tinned foods last well beyond their date, acidic ones may degrade the protective layer on the inside of the can and thence the metal, and plastic packaging isn’t always as impermeable as we might suppose. (He does actually know about packaging). However I did have to point out that the dates on spice jars for which he had bought refill packs were irrelevant.Confused

EdithStourton · 22/04/2026 09:09

I found some ginger in syrup when tidying up during Covid which was... um... 20 years out of date.

I looked at the perfectly sound jar and lid. I thought about archaeologists tasting honey that dated from Ancient Greece. I opened the jar, cut a bit off the ginger and tried it. It tasted fine. When I was still alive a few days later, I did some baking with it.

We're all still here.

DeanElderberry · 22/04/2026 09:24

I mostly keep using stuff as long as the packaging hasn't been compromised either by inhabitants or vermin (dry goods), or by acids working through (cans).

Or if it smells 'off' or in the case of spices doesn't smell of anything.

I'm not dead yet.

I must buy a few cans of spam-a-like for the stores cupboard.

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MyrtleLion · 22/04/2026 09:26

DeanElderberry · 22/04/2026 08:16

Very good news about your dad, Norma, I so pleased.

How are you going to explain throwing out all his Perfectly Good Food?

The cheese washing thread is a joy/disaster depending on how much you enjoy people writing the same thing over and over and over because they haven't rtft.

It's one of my open tabs!

MyrtleLion · 22/04/2026 09:28

DeanElderberry · 22/04/2026 09:24

I mostly keep using stuff as long as the packaging hasn't been compromised either by inhabitants or vermin (dry goods), or by acids working through (cans).

Or if it smells 'off' or in the case of spices doesn't smell of anything.

I'm not dead yet.

I must buy a few cans of spam-a-like for the stores cupboard.

The only thing we've ever had spoil in a plastic container was weevils in the flour. But I understand the egss are laid in the grain and then survive milling to hatch in the flour. The Walrus asked what the black specks were. So I showed him.

It shows how little we use flour...

MarieDeGournay · 22/04/2026 09:48

I found a jar of honey from 2001, and like Edith I thought of archaeologists, tasted it, and have it every morning for brekkie - I'm still here😉

Like Deano et al. [short for Alison not Albert, so it's fine for Al to be in the Bluey😁] I have a case-by-case/sniff-test approach to most things, but I err on the side of caution if something seems dodgy, I have enough health problems without making myself sick!

My reaction to weevils in flour is [a] yuk and [b] yeah! way to go weevils! because I think it's amazing that the little critters can survive even the most modern, stringent food treatment processes.
I don't know how many fingers weevils have, but I'm sure they are sticking at least one of them up in the face of Big Food🖕

I admit that it's easy for me to be way to go weevils! because I don't bake and never buy flour, I might be less sanguine about them if I did😬

Magpiecomplex · 22/04/2026 10:12

My grandmother was firmly of the opinion that some things never go off. Pasta and rice among them. I never look at the date on the honey jar - it was used as a preservative in days of yore!

lcakethereforeIam · 22/04/2026 10:40

Regarding tinned food unless the can is dented, blown, rusty or doesn't have a bar code on it I'll tend to give it the benefit of the doubt. Although I once opened a tin of evaporated or condensed milk that was well past its BB and had gone a very odd colour. So I binned it and got a new one. I've even used meat that's gone very slightly past its use by. The reasoning being that supermarkets probably have a buffer built into the dates they give. Only if it's unopened though. If it's frozen, it's immortal as far as I'm concerned. Unless it's badly freezer burned or a UFO (unidentified frozen object). Never given myself, or anyone else, food poisoning afaik.

If I had something that was actually infested I'd bin it. Those tiny dark things you occasionally find in flour are called psocids or book lice. Funnily enough they don't like older flour because it's too dry for them. I think they are often bought in with already infested flour. Older, damp houses might have them in their libraries. They'd graze on the starchy paper and glue in the books. There's at least one species that communicates by tapping its head on the substrate it lives in, like the deathwatch beetle does.

I had weevils in the house once that I quickly traced to a bag of wild bird seed. Obviously not human food grade. The birds hadn't liked it so it had been sitting long enough for the weevil grubs, that would have been in it when I bought it, to metamorphose. They disappeared once I binned the seed. They were actually quite cute with long thing 'noses'.

FranticFrankie · 22/04/2026 10:49

Best wishes to dad @PastaAllaNorma - good news. Will you be dropping him off at the Staunch Ally as part of his convalescence?

Didn't make it to the Bluey yesterday; busy day. Spent some happy time at a little zoo where we happened upon some Sun Beetles. Very cute, very busy little creatures. I gave them your best regards Boily

Found little moving specks in a bag of flour once; it was explained to me that they were 'only weevils'
Chucked it out though

DeanElderberry · 22/04/2026 10:55

I just have to concentrate when talking to other people (as opposed to myself) that they are weevils not weasels.

The sort of whimsy best kept to oneself.

Touchdown at the Newest Bluestocking Inn. Pudding, cups of tea, the vegetable garden coming into its own, and gerbils beautiful gerbils all furry.
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AngleofRepose · 22/04/2026 11:38

Magpiecomplex · 22/04/2026 10:12

My grandmother was firmly of the opinion that some things never go off. Pasta and rice among them. I never look at the date on the honey jar - it was used as a preservative in days of yore!

You don't get a lot of "days of yore" anymore, do you? When exactly was yore (à la Phoebe)?

AngleofRepose · 22/04/2026 11:39

DeanElderberry · 22/04/2026 10:55

I just have to concentrate when talking to other people (as opposed to myself) that they are weevils not weasels.

The sort of whimsy best kept to oneself.

These must be the cutest weevils I've ever seen!

AngleofRepose · 22/04/2026 11:49

Woke up in a grumpy mood this morning. Found standing water in my dishwasher late last night, so spent an hour cleaning it, checking it, and running two "clean " cycles. Then checked the outside drain (11pm), then used various methods to clear the kitchen drain. Then rereading the manual to see what else it might be. Filter is now clean, no pools of water on the floor, the pump impeller is moving freely, dishwasher regularly cleaned, and the last load I did came out clean. The water drains perfectly at the beginning of the next cycle.

So I'm stumped. I just did a huge load this morning, washed perfectly clean, and... dishes look clean, but standing water in the bottom again. Apparently, some brands do require water to be left at the bottom to protect the moving parts and seals, but this just doesn't look right.

(this is NOT what I wanted to be doing on this beautiful day)

Arrrghh! Next stop is removing the kitchen sink trap to see what's what. I'm going in! I may be some time.

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