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The Bluestocking women's Pub- spring is sprunging and MN's name generator can do one!

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lcakethereforeIam · 20/03/2026 12:24

Welcome to the Bluestocking women's pub. Men are directed to the Staunch Ally just down the road. Otherwise all are welcome. Pull up a chair, give your order to the Wait Gerbil or the Gerbil behind the bar.

Don't forget to name change if you wish to.

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SionnachRuadh · 01/04/2026 00:36

WearyAuldWumman · 31/03/2026 18:24

They're mutually intelligible. There are some lexical and grammatical differences but I'm told that - for example - when young folk from those countries go on holiday and meet people from those areas they'll say something like "Let's speak 'in ours'" and they'll understand one another.

There can be problems with false friends, however. I hope that I'm getting this right...

In Serbian, a suitcase is 'kofer'; in Croatian it can be kofer or 'kovčeg'. However, the latter in Serbian is the word for a coffin. (It can also mean 'chest' in both languages.)

You see online jokes about how people from former Yugoslavia are so clever that they now speak 4 languages where they used to know one...

The Slovenes have their own language, where the grammar is, IMO, more complicated - they have (I recall) a dual verb. Macedonian is also different, but you'll get Bulgarians claiming that it's 'only bad Macedonian'. All the languages are related.

Before Yugoslavia broke up, kids would be required to learn Serbo-Croatian at school in addition to their native language, so - for example - Melania Trump would be fluent in both Slovene and Serbo-Croatian. The same for Macedonian kids.

As I understand it, the other kids just learned their own variant but were made aware of other variants through literature. Kids in Serbia, Montenegro and Macedonia were expected to learn both the Latin and Cyrillic alphabets. I'm not sure about the other countries

I saw some young folk discussing this online yesterday and some of the Croats were saying that they'd learned Cyrillic out of interest, but that it's not taught in schools now. I think they said that their parents had to learn it in school.

If you look at posters and whatnot from the Communist era, Tito had two signatures - one in Cyrillic and one in Latin. (Tito was a Croat, though I've seen rumours that he was a Russian doppelganger...)

Lots of it is really minor adjustments, like whether you order kava s mlijekom or kafa s mlekom. My teacher was from Slavonija, so fairly central in accent and vocab. Some of the Croatian dialects down on the coast get quite funky.

I have a couple of books somewhere on language policy in the USSR, and that gets really interesting. I've heard, though I don't know if it's true, that because Tajikistan was such a backwater in Soviet times - and still is today to be honest - Tajik Persian is not only written in Cyrillic but has a bunch of archaic forms that have long fallen out of use in Iranian Persian.

ErrolTheDragon · 01/04/2026 00:39

Ah Weary, if only you’d been able to visit Insouciance rather than Nice you’d have been able to let ‘em go and carry on commando.

WearyAuldWumman · 01/04/2026 01:09

SionnachRuadh · 01/04/2026 00:36

Lots of it is really minor adjustments, like whether you order kava s mlijekom or kafa s mlekom. My teacher was from Slavonija, so fairly central in accent and vocab. Some of the Croatian dialects down on the coast get quite funky.

I have a couple of books somewhere on language policy in the USSR, and that gets really interesting. I've heard, though I don't know if it's true, that because Tajikistan was such a backwater in Soviet times - and still is today to be honest - Tajik Persian is not only written in Cyrillic but has a bunch of archaic forms that have long fallen out of use in Iranian Persian.

Yes, I remember trying to remember to use Jekavian as opposed to Ekavian when travelling through Croatia some years back. The last time I was on holiday in Montenegro, I remember seeing both forms on official signs.

When I was in Leningrad, one of my room-mates was half-Azeri. I recall her scorn when she heard that a Russian lecturer had told the Brits that the Soviet Union had gifted the Azeri the Cyrillic alphabet because there was no written form of their language...She explained that they had previously used a form of the Arabic alphabet and that she had been taught it by her grandmother.

I'm unclear as to what the official Azeri alphabet is now. I don't know about what happened in Tajikistan, but I wonder whether it was a case of the Russians imposing their alphabet on the other nationalities as a whole.

I seem to recall that Mongolian is written in Cyrilic - or at least it was in Soviet times (even though it was just a satellite state).

When I lived in the Moris Torez Hostel in Moscow, previous students had put a sign with "Mongolia" written in Cyrillic on our room door. The result of that was that an irate Russian hostel manager brought a couple of new Mongolian students to our room and demanded to know why we'd put that sign.

Certainly, my impression was that for all the speech about equality etc, Russians could be quite patronising towards other nationalities. [Also see: "Ukrainian is just a dialect of Russian"...]

Britinme · 01/04/2026 03:18

MyrtleLion · 31/03/2026 17:22

Gosie is relaxing by the pool with her book.

No-one would suspect she's an international art thief. And she likes it that way.

She'll probably head back in a day or so...

Perhaps she’ll saunter through Insouciance on the way?

ChristmasStars · 01/04/2026 04:50

MarieDeGournay · 01/04/2026 00:03

It was speculation, Stars, because of the similarity in spelling.
But coffee is from an Arabic word, and coffin/coffers from Old French into Middle English, ultimately from a Greek word.

That's the kind of amiable ramble through etymology that we enjoy so much over in Pedantry Corner😄

Thank you. Pedantry corner sounds like a cool place to visit.

ErrolTheDragon · 01/04/2026 10:13

ChristmasStars · 01/04/2026 04:50

Thank you. Pedantry corner sounds like a cool place to visit.

Pleasantly warm. Unlike the main MN Pedants’ Corner which is liable to swing between frosty and overheated.

MarieDeGournay · 01/04/2026 10:21

ChristmasStars · 01/04/2026 04:50

Thank you. Pedantry corner sounds like a cool place to visit.

It is! It's not all about apostrophes and grammar, it's mostly about 'Hey isn't this interesting?' and 'Have you ever wondered about...?'

Apostrophes did crop up in the past, prompted by a sign that said NURSES STATION and was NURSE'S STATION just as bad because there was more than one nurse? so it should be NURSES' STATION, but I made the case that as the nurses were not in possession of the station, 'nurses' was being used adjectivally and not as a possessive, so NURSES STATION was OK by me.
You can imagine the murmurs of horrified dissent that caused in Pedantry Corner😄

Maybe we should re-name it Curiosity Corner. Or Kuriosity Korner.😁

Currently I'm curious about those taps that they advertise on telly, the ones that - no seriously, they really do this: DISPENSE BOILING WATER!
Forcing water heated to 100deg at 29psi out of a narrow pipe in a domestic setting - hey, what could possibly go wrong?😬

These things occupy part of my mind, like the etymology of coffee; It's nice to have somewhere in the Bluey to discuss them.
Pedantry Corner is that place 💙

ChristmasStars · 01/04/2026 10:58

It sounds right up my street. I can't find it though.

ErrolTheDragon · 01/04/2026 11:05

ChristmasStars · 01/04/2026 10:58

It sounds right up my street. I can't find it though.

Like a church, it is wherever two or three of us are gathered together to discuss language. Not to be confused with Pedants’ Corner
https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/pedants_corner

Pedants' Corner - Pedantry Forum | Mumsnet

Join our pedants forum and fight the good fight against bad spelling, poor grammar and other mortal enemies of the pedant with like-minded people.

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/pedants_corner

MarieDeGournay · 01/04/2026 11:10

ErrolTheDragon · 01/04/2026 11:05

Like a church, it is wherever two or three of us are gathered together to discuss language. Not to be confused with Pedants’ Corner
https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/pedants_corner

Yes, it's a virtual, pop-up Pedantry Corner, Stars, and only comes into existence when somebody thinks 'Hey this is so abstruse it would be good in Pedantry Corner!', lots of musing and reflecting and curiosity goes on in the main area of the Bluestocking as wellSmile

Bowednotbroken · 01/04/2026 12:14

Pops head in while passing to say while talking about language, there’s a book called ‘Why Q Needs a U’ by Danny Bate. A fast track through the alphabet looking at history and derivations. Just occasionally it’s a bit too formal linguistics for my brain but mostly fascinating stuff. Just don’t ask me to remember any of it just now…
And we have one of them there boiling water taps - I try not to think about how it works and what might go wrong.

MyrtleLion · 01/04/2026 12:31

It is the Walrus' birthday. We had a lovely full on cooked breakfast followed by pancakes with bacon and maple syrup at a local restaurant. I then bought flowers at the flower shop. They were for someone else but the florist just said they'd make up another bouquet for that order.

A pleasant walk home by the river where we will eat at our favourite local restaurant this evening (after presents) which reopens today!

My DSD's birthday was last week and her present arrived yesterday (she didn't let us know what she wanted until it was too late, and of course it had a 10 day delivery lag). When the Walrus opens his presents this evening, hers will be among them and he will say, oh this one has your name on it. So she will have a lovely surprise too.

We bought a sofa yesterday which will arrive in June. And Virgin Media finally sorted out a reasonably priced deal.

SionnachRuadh · 01/04/2026 13:11

There is a legend in Belfast - I wish I could find a photo of it - of barricades that went up in a loyalist area in the 70s, with a sign saying These one's stay up til the one's on the Fall's come down.

I'll just assume that sign was written by a greengrocer.

SionnachRuadh · 01/04/2026 13:12

Also, I once had a line manager who would send around emails to the team addressing us as you's.

WearyAuldWumman · 01/04/2026 13:14

I had complaints from parents that one of my teachers couldn't spell...because she'd taught Violet Jacob's "Hallowe'en".

"That's not how you spell it!"

I had to give the parents a mini-lesson on the evolution of spelling.

WearyAuldWumman · 01/04/2026 13:15

SionnachRuadh · 01/04/2026 13:12

Also, I once had a line manager who would send around emails to the team addressing us as you's.

Terrible! Everyone knows that it has to be youse.

WearyAuldWumman · 01/04/2026 13:19

I recall that our Latin teacher used to differentiate between singular and plural you in translation by resorting to Fife English. This was done with a knowing grin.

He was then dismayed when a member of the class used the Fife form in a prelim. When I pointed out that the said pupil had English as a second language and had merely written exactly what he'd heard in class, the teacher's response was "Don't be daft!"

He stopped doing it, however.

Britinme · 01/04/2026 14:00

In the southern USA the term is youall.

Britinme · 01/04/2026 14:01

Usually spelled y’all.

lcakethereforeIam · 01/04/2026 14:06

Unreasonably bugs me when I see that written without an apostrophe.

Unreasonable, because apostrophes aren't my strongest point. I feel I'm also a bit too liberal with commas.

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SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 01/04/2026 14:08

Happy birthday to the Walrus, @MyrtleLion.

MarieDeGournay · 01/04/2026 14:32

'Youse' is 'Ye' in rural Ireland and 'Yiz' in Dublinese.

And I've even heard 'ye' having a possessive form:
'Have ye had yeer tea?'

Happy birthday to Mr Walrus, and it's lovely to know that our Myrtle is enjoying the day too, including taming Virgin Media🍾

lcakethereforeIam · 01/04/2026 14:32

Telyn, the female osprey, arrived back at her nest on the Dyfi River the other day. Her usual mate, Idris, hasn't shown up yet. She's been carrying on with another male. 🍿

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NotAtMyAge · 01/04/2026 15:03

WearyAuldWumman · 31/03/2026 22:44

@MarieDeGournay You're very kind.

The bloke who taught Slavonic Philology at Glasgow (comparative or otherwise) was one John Dunn. He was not a poet.

In Honours, I had to see him once a week for a tutorial. He had a habit of sliding down in his chair.

One day, he slid all the way down and under his desk. He then climbed back up and behaved as if nothing had happened.

A man claiming his place in a long tradition of eccentric academics. 😁There were a fair few of those about when I was a student at Oxford in the mid-60s. Not at my women-only college I hasten to add. Women had had to fight so hard to be admitted and granted degrees and were still only 20%of the student and teaching bodies in my time. We all felt we had to prove we deserved our place. All changed nowadays thankfully.

DeanElderberry · 01/04/2026 15:23

WearyAuldWumman · 01/04/2026 13:15

Terrible! Everyone knows that it has to be youse.

Edited

Round these parts it's 'ye'.

Sorry Marie, I didn't notice you'd already made that point!

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