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BeeHive909 · 24/02/2026 13:05

I love the fact that the women on these threads waffling rubbish about buying children are always the ones with children and clearly never had an issue conceiving or being told their infertile. This transplant is bloody amazing and grace and her baby are doing so well. It also wasn’t a live donor or paid for on the nhs so people don’t need to worry unless they specially opt for this organ donation when they die. Can’t wait to see more and more done it’s about time things evolved.

ArabellaScott · 24/02/2026 13:06

Cheese55 · 24/02/2026 13:02

Where is the shame or coercion when you are dead?

Do you think they are asking people after they are dead?! Some would say this was a bit late.

whoTFismadelaine · 24/02/2026 13:07

ArabellaScott · 24/02/2026 13:06

Do you think they are asking people after they are dead?! Some would say this was a bit late.

That is why you have the opt out option. I'd sign up for that now if I were you.

SleepingStandingUp · 24/02/2026 13:10

RogueFemale · 24/02/2026 00:49

I think it's horrible. Nobody ever seems to think how the child will feel about it. I'd hate to discover I had Frankenstein-esque origins like this, just awful.

What if your Mom had needed a kidney before she got pregnant with you, or if as a baby you needed an organ transplant?

nicepotoftea · 24/02/2026 13:11

whoTFismadelaine · 24/02/2026 12:57

Bit different if it literally causes the end of a genetic lineage though. As I say if she has a daughter and they can't have kids or her son has girls who have no womb, how can she know how it will affect them?

Just trying to understand your argument - is your concern that the human race loses the ability to reproduce with out assistance?

Would you therefore oppose any infertility treatment?

Shadyborder · 24/02/2026 13:12

BeeHive909 · 24/02/2026 13:05

I love the fact that the women on these threads waffling rubbish about buying children are always the ones with children and clearly never had an issue conceiving or being told their infertile. This transplant is bloody amazing and grace and her baby are doing so well. It also wasn’t a live donor or paid for on the nhs so people don’t need to worry unless they specially opt for this organ donation when they die. Can’t wait to see more and more done it’s about time things evolved.

What a load of rubbish. How could you possibly know the background of each person here?

ArabellaScott · 24/02/2026 13:16

whoTFismadelaine · 24/02/2026 13:07

That is why you have the opt out option. I'd sign up for that now if I were you.

Jibes like this are exactly what I was talking about. Why the need to be personal?

ArabellaScott · 24/02/2026 13:17

Did someone say ' manufacture of consent'?

AuntieAgnesPoodle · 24/02/2026 13:20

ArabellaScott · 24/02/2026 07:27

Well, if the donor had consented its one thing.

Of course the UK now assumes consent.

The womb is not on the list of organs a person can agree to donate. In the article it says that permission was sought from the family, after the woman died. She had already agreed to donate other organs.

Cheese55 · 24/02/2026 13:24

ArabellaScott · 24/02/2026 13:16

Jibes like this are exactly what I was talking about. Why the need to be personal?

I took that as them offering helpful advice as you seem worried about it.

Shortshriftandlethal · 24/02/2026 13:25

I've noticed a few threads, such as this one, seem to have been moved onto this board, and I'm wondering why? Is the 'feminist general chat' thread no longer a thing?

Bagsintheboot · 24/02/2026 13:33

ArabellaScott · 24/02/2026 12:28

Consent should never be assumed.

Consent should absolutely be assumed in certain situations. If someone is wheeled into A&E, unconscious and bleeding out, you assume their consent to treatment, for example.

The organ donation point is very simple - if you don't consent, you can opt out. Just like if you don't consent to be resuscitated you can put a DNACPR in place.

Random321 · 24/02/2026 13:34

JoeSikoraTommysStory · 24/02/2026 02:42

For all the pps saying it’s no different to other transplants it actually is; other transplants are to save lives.
This is not a life saving operation it’s fucking ridiculous.

That's incorrect.

Eye/cornea transplants for one. Rarely life saving but definetely life changing.

TheOchreJoker · 24/02/2026 13:36

dragonfruit8 · 24/02/2026 02:46

The involuntarily childless would probably disagree with you.

My inability to have children is NOT a disability, What a bizarre thing for you to say..

ArabellaScott · 24/02/2026 13:47

Bagsintheboot · 24/02/2026 13:33

Consent should absolutely be assumed in certain situations. If someone is wheeled into A&E, unconscious and bleeding out, you assume their consent to treatment, for example.

The organ donation point is very simple - if you don't consent, you can opt out. Just like if you don't consent to be resuscitated you can put a DNACPR in place.

A reasonable first point, thank you.

So some situations assume consent.

I dont think this de facto broadens out to assumed consent being a 'simple' matter.

I dont think everyone is aware of the need to opt out. If someone is not aware, its not reasonable to assume consent.

Shortshriftandlethal · 24/02/2026 13:47

TheOchreJoker · 24/02/2026 13:36

My inability to have children is NOT a disability, What a bizarre thing for you to say..

You can only speak for yourself. Others may feel differently.

whatsgoingoninmybrain · 24/02/2026 13:56

ArabellaScott · 24/02/2026 13:17

Did someone say ' manufacture of consent'?

Still not applicable here.

It is well signposted on every hospital notice board. It was very well publicised.

ArabellaScott · 24/02/2026 13:59

whatsgoingoninmybrain · 24/02/2026 13:56

Still not applicable here.

It is well signposted on every hospital notice board. It was very well publicised.

'Hospital noticeboards' are not sufficient to inform a population. If its so important, the NHS could ask everyone for consent directly.

ArabellaScott · 24/02/2026 14:04

There used to be campaigns and stands, and you filled in your details and carried a card. That was a good system.

What next? Seeking blood donors is too much of a faff? Kidney donors hard to find? Pass a bill, assume consent, problem solved!

PachacutisBadAuntie · 24/02/2026 14:05

It was David Lammy's 'transwoman's cervix' that prompted me to opt out of the organ donor register. I realised that it would only take one ambitious surgeon to decide that a set of female reproductive organs would be just the thing to implant in their male patient who 'feels like a woman' for it to be tried eventually. Functionality wouldn't necessarily be required. Given the horrors the NHS has already happily visited on trans people, and their general attitude to women, I can't see anyone stopping it.

Bagsintheboot · 24/02/2026 14:06

ArabellaScott · 24/02/2026 13:47

A reasonable first point, thank you.

So some situations assume consent.

I dont think this de facto broadens out to assumed consent being a 'simple' matter.

I dont think everyone is aware of the need to opt out. If someone is not aware, its not reasonable to assume consent.

Consent is not a simple matter when it comes to medical ethics.

In many cases, active consent is dismissed in favour of presumed consent where it is considered to be in the best medical interests of the patient, or in this case, patients multiple.

It's a debate that could be had endlessly and never come to a true resolution - is it better to assume consent and save another life or lives, or does the principle of individual consent override all? Which is more ethical?

I don't wish to derail the thread, because we could get into numerous detailed "what if" scenarios, but suffice to say that there is no one "right" answer, we have to have some kind of system (which is always going to be considered unethical by some, regardless of what it is), and presently it seems to be felt that the majority would consent to organ donation and so here we are.

ArabellaScott · 24/02/2026 14:11

Bagsintheboot · 24/02/2026 14:06

Consent is not a simple matter when it comes to medical ethics.

In many cases, active consent is dismissed in favour of presumed consent where it is considered to be in the best medical interests of the patient, or in this case, patients multiple.

It's a debate that could be had endlessly and never come to a true resolution - is it better to assume consent and save another life or lives, or does the principle of individual consent override all? Which is more ethical?

I don't wish to derail the thread, because we could get into numerous detailed "what if" scenarios, but suffice to say that there is no one "right" answer, we have to have some kind of system (which is always going to be considered unethical by some, regardless of what it is), and presently it seems to be felt that the majority would consent to organ donation and so here we are.

Thank you for directly engaging with my points. I dont see it as a derail, tbh, as the consent issue seems fundamental.

ArabellaScott · 24/02/2026 14:12

' it seems to be felt that the majority would consent to organ donation'

What is this feeling based on, I wonder?

MsGreying · 24/02/2026 14:14

A womb is not a hip, or a lung or a kidney.

You will live without a womb.
It's hard to live with one not working right.

Endometriosis affects approximately 10% (around 190 million) of women and girls of reproductive age globally.

I think we should concentrate research on to improving their lives.

And if this Womb charity don't currently plan to put them in men, rest assured someone else is planning to do just that.

Mithral · 24/02/2026 14:22

ArabellaScott · 24/02/2026 14:12

' it seems to be felt that the majority would consent to organ donation'

What is this feeling based on, I wonder?

It will definitely have been the subject of surveys - have a google.

One of the reasons for the opt out was that when asked a much larger % of people saying they want to donate than have registered to do so. This suggests a lot of lost donations due to inertia which is a shame. The argument was that people who feel strongly will opt out people who don't care either way will be happy to donate.

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