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The Bluestocking Inn, cocktails and cocoa and all

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DeanElderberry · 22/02/2026 17:10

Opening soon in a salubrious location.

And thanks to the miraculous qualities, although we will indeed have

One-steps and two-steps and the divil knows what new steps
We know that we never would be dull again, bedad
We'll have wine, porter and lemonade.
We'll have cocktails and cocoa and all
We'll have champagnes tonight
But NO real pains next morning
Tonight when we dance at the Bluestocking Ball

slight apologies to Frank Harte

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fanOfBen · 08/03/2026 10:33

WearyAuldWumman · 07/03/2026 22:58

In 1983, the SQA issued a set of exemplar folio pieces in order to give teachers an idea of what was expected for each grade for the new Standard Grade English exam. The previous exam - "O" Grade - had only been aimed at "academic" pupils. For the new exam, the highest grade was a "1"; lowest was a "6". A fail (at that time) was "7".

I was a student teacher at the time and attended an in-service day with my placement school, a west of Scotland boys' Catholic school.

The course leader was not amused when the teachers at my school awarded a Grade 1 to a piece which was clearly a 6.

At that time, the board issued a booklet with prompts including photographs to support the weaker candidates. In order to get a 1, the suggested length was 600-800 words. A 6 had to have at least 100 words. I recall that you were given an hour and 15 minutes. (The 15 minutes was planning time.)

The prompt for the piece in question had a picture of the actor Richard Beckinsale sitting on steps. The accompanying written prompt was along the lines of: "This young man looks really sad. Think about what might have made him sad..."

The exemplar just had 100 words of content and no more. The tale of woe explained that the young man had lost his job, had only 6 months to live and - on top of everything else, his football team (Rangers) had just been beaten 6 nil by Hibs.

The piece ended as follows.

"I know," said the young man. "I'll go down the job centre tomorrow." Then he says "Why bother. I mean who's going to employ a Rangers supporter with only 6 months to live?"

That's brilliant! I was expecting an explanation that you'd got the grading scale the wrong way round, but no. I'm with your school on this.

fanOfBen · 08/03/2026 10:38

Needspaceforlego · 06/03/2026 17:22

I hope you don't mind me chiming in. But I need to get this small moment out my head.
Two guys in the street (ok at first I thought why were JW) one rattles the door, SNP canvasers.

Who are you voting for ? - Don't know but it won't be SNP

Why not ? - Because of the woman issue

What do you mean ? - Women & girls deserve privacy and dignity, its not our clothes that make us female, just as your clothes don't make you male.

He didn't know what to say. Mumbled something and walked off. 😂
Can I possibly have made someone actually think?

Congrats! I did similar with our local Labour candidate the other day - talked about how when I was young we were pushing for, and getting to, the understanding that anyone could wear any clothes and love anyone and have any interests, regardless of their sex, and how backwards today's "you like wearing dresses and not sports, maybe you're a girl" seems. "That's actually quite thoughtful," he said, in apparent surprise... Seemed like quite a good bloke otherwise, first time standing to be an MSP, decent background. I'd like to be able to vote Labour again, so fingers crossed.

MarieDeGournay · 08/03/2026 11:08

fanOfBen · 08/03/2026 10:38

Congrats! I did similar with our local Labour candidate the other day - talked about how when I was young we were pushing for, and getting to, the understanding that anyone could wear any clothes and love anyone and have any interests, regardless of their sex, and how backwards today's "you like wearing dresses and not sports, maybe you're a girl" seems. "That's actually quite thoughtful," he said, in apparent surprise... Seemed like quite a good bloke otherwise, first time standing to be an MSP, decent background. I'd like to be able to vote Labour again, so fingers crossed.

Well done you! That was a good response to get out of the candidate, and I like the idea of a politician who listens and acknowledges that he may have to re-think things...
Retrospective award of the coveted rosette to you😄

The Bluestocking Inn, cocktails and cocoa and all
MarieDeGournay · 08/03/2026 11:10

Actually, on 'the day that's in it' as we say in Hiberno-English, I think anyone here who wants one gets a Terf of the Day rosette to wear today💜💚

Needspaceforlego · 08/03/2026 11:58

fanOfBen · 08/03/2026 10:38

Congrats! I did similar with our local Labour candidate the other day - talked about how when I was young we were pushing for, and getting to, the understanding that anyone could wear any clothes and love anyone and have any interests, regardless of their sex, and how backwards today's "you like wearing dresses and not sports, maybe you're a girl" seems. "That's actually quite thoughtful," he said, in apparent surprise... Seemed like quite a good bloke otherwise, first time standing to be an MSP, decent background. I'd like to be able to vote Labour again, so fingers crossed.

It just makes it impossible to find someone to actually vote for.
I mean how ridiculous political parties not accepting men and women are different.

Congratulations 🎊 on TERF of the Day award

SionnachRuadh · 08/03/2026 12:00

I still haven't seen a canvasser, but flipping through the travel pages I found a nice piece today on Fredericksburg, TX, where the German heritage runs deep and older locals still speak the Texasdeutsch dialect.
I found a slice of Germany in the heart of deepest Texas

I've heard Texasdeutsch on YouTube and I can understand it pretty well, while Pennsilfaanisch stumps me a bit. I suppose it depends what part of Germany the ancestors came from, a bit like the Italian Americans who think they know Italian from the language their grandparents spoke, then visit Venice or Florence and find that they can't get very far with antiquated Sicilian.

These quirks of diaspora language interest me, like Cape Breton Gaelic in Canada, or that village in Alaska where they still speak 19th century Russian.

MarieDeGournay · 08/03/2026 12:26

SionnachRuadh · 08/03/2026 12:00

I still haven't seen a canvasser, but flipping through the travel pages I found a nice piece today on Fredericksburg, TX, where the German heritage runs deep and older locals still speak the Texasdeutsch dialect.
I found a slice of Germany in the heart of deepest Texas

I've heard Texasdeutsch on YouTube and I can understand it pretty well, while Pennsilfaanisch stumps me a bit. I suppose it depends what part of Germany the ancestors came from, a bit like the Italian Americans who think they know Italian from the language their grandparents spoke, then visit Venice or Florence and find that they can't get very far with antiquated Sicilian.

These quirks of diaspora language interest me, like Cape Breton Gaelic in Canada, or that village in Alaska where they still speak 19th century Russian.

In Pennsylvania I got talking to a woman ['I got talking to...' could be a summary of my life story, I love talking to new people] about the cultural heritage of the area - which had a very English name like 'Suffolk County' or something like that, but she said that the community was mostly German - but, she hastened to add, 'We're not Amish, we're the Gay Dutch' [Deutsch]Smile
I've also seen them referred to as 'The Fancy Dutch'. 'Fancy' because they are Lutherans - it's all relative, isn't it?😄

What about the Welsh that has survived in Patagonia, I wonder is it also an antique version?

Igneococcus · 08/03/2026 12:36

The only Heinrich Boell book I would ever recommend reading is his Irische Tagebuch but it might be out of print. I have a very tattered paperback of it.

SionnachRuadh · 08/03/2026 12:48

MarieDeGournay · 08/03/2026 12:26

In Pennsylvania I got talking to a woman ['I got talking to...' could be a summary of my life story, I love talking to new people] about the cultural heritage of the area - which had a very English name like 'Suffolk County' or something like that, but she said that the community was mostly German - but, she hastened to add, 'We're not Amish, we're the Gay Dutch' [Deutsch]Smile
I've also seen them referred to as 'The Fancy Dutch'. 'Fancy' because they are Lutherans - it's all relative, isn't it?😄

What about the Welsh that has survived in Patagonia, I wonder is it also an antique version?

Wiki tells me, and this is really interesting, that Welsh traditionally has a vigesimal (base 20) counting system, which is unusual in modern European languages but not unique - I think you get it in Danish and maybe Basque.

Apparently Welsh decimal counting originated in Argentina and was then imported back to Wales.
Welsh numerals - Wikipedia

Welsh numerals - Wikipedia

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Welsh_numerals

Chersfrozenface · 08/03/2026 13:08

There are traces in other languages of vigesimal counting. In English the traditional life expectancy of three score years and ten, for instance. And in the French of France from 70 to 99 (the French of Belgium and Switzerland are a bit different). Also Danish from 60 to 90. It's not just Celtic and Germanic languages, or those influenced by Celtic or Germanic, and Basque either - apparently Yoruba uses base 20.

The theory is that the decimal system relies in the (usual) number of fingers, and the vigesimal system on fingers and toes. Makes sense really - humans haven't been wearing shoes for that long, certainly not as long as language has existed.

SionnachRuadh · 08/03/2026 13:38

It's interesting the number of languages that have a special word for twenty that's not just "two tens". Just off the top of my head, fiche in Irish or besh in Romani (which might, though I'm not sure, be a loan from Persian).

Slavic and Baltic, which are pretty archaic by European standards, are firmly in the "two tens" camp.

Britinme · 08/03/2026 13:44

That made me go and look up the etymology of “twenty” :
twenty(num.)
"1 more than nineteen, twice ten; the number which is one more than nineteen; a symbol representing this number;" Middle English twenti, from Old English twentig"group of twenty," from twegen "two" (from PIE root *dwo- "two") + -tig "group of ten" (see -ty (1)).

SionnachRuadh · 08/03/2026 14:01

In Albanian you get njëzet for twenty and dyzet (two twenties) for forty.

In the standard language that's it, but in the dialect of the Albanian minority in southern Italy you also get trezet (60), katërzet (80) and pesëzet (100), which is a good example of how isolated dialects can preserve archaic forms.

MarieDeGournay · 08/03/2026 14:17

SionnachRuadh · 08/03/2026 14:01

In Albanian you get njëzet for twenty and dyzet (two twenties) for forty.

In the standard language that's it, but in the dialect of the Albanian minority in southern Italy you also get trezet (60), katërzet (80) and pesëzet (100), which is a good example of how isolated dialects can preserve archaic forms.

Well fancy that - Dyzet in Albanian is daichead in Irish, which also means two twenties, dá fhichead ! what an unexpected connection.

SionnachRuadh · 08/03/2026 14:31

MarieDeGournay · 08/03/2026 14:17

Well fancy that - Dyzet in Albanian is daichead in Irish, which also means two twenties, dá fhichead ! what an unexpected connection.

And it's daeed in Manx, which is the same thing in different spelling!

I know Romani uses the Greek saranda, which is one of the features of Romani I like - there's the Indian base, then there are layers of Persian and Armenian and Greek tracing the journey to Europe, then a topping of whatever the surrounding European language is. It's a bit like a linguistic cheesecake.

ErrolTheDragon · 08/03/2026 15:34

And then there’s sheep counting which is in twenties though with an underlying 10 and 15 in most of them.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Yan_tan_tethera

good for counting, not so much for mathematics. Grin

EdithStourton · 08/03/2026 17:26

MarieDeGournay · 08/03/2026 12:26

In Pennsylvania I got talking to a woman ['I got talking to...' could be a summary of my life story, I love talking to new people] about the cultural heritage of the area - which had a very English name like 'Suffolk County' or something like that, but she said that the community was mostly German - but, she hastened to add, 'We're not Amish, we're the Gay Dutch' [Deutsch]Smile
I've also seen them referred to as 'The Fancy Dutch'. 'Fancy' because they are Lutherans - it's all relative, isn't it?😄

What about the Welsh that has survived in Patagonia, I wonder is it also an antique version?

I wonder about the German-minority German in New Zealand. I'm not sure if it's even spoken any longer.

As for 'I got talking to...', I also tend in this direction. As an adolescent, I discovered the existence of French Canadians by talking to some poor unsuspecting women on a bus.
'Where are you from, then?'
'Canada.'
'You sound French.'
'Yes, I am French-Canadian. I am from Quebec.'
'Wot?'
'There are many French speakers in Quebec.'
'There are?'

SionnachRuadh · 08/03/2026 17:36

I sometimes do a bit of that myself. I remember bumping into a couple of lads in Lübeck who looked vaguely Middle Eastern, but I couldn't figure out what language they were speaking. I could tell it wasn't Turkish or Arabic or Persian - I don't speak any of them but I know what they sound like and this sounded like nothing on earth. It turned out they were Chechen. For all I knew they could have been Trekkies speaking Klingon.

MarieDeGournay · 08/03/2026 18:18

It's a bit dodgy asking people 'Where are you from?' these days 😬
but I think a friendly face and a 'D'you mind me asking, because I'm interested in places and languages....' makes it OK.

I did make an eejit of myself once by asking a hairdresser if she was speaking Moldovan to her colleagues... there's no such thing, they speak Romanian!

We live and learn, and the next Moldovan I got talking to was very impressed that I knew thatSmile

Needspaceforlego · 08/03/2026 18:25

SionnachRuadh · 08/03/2026 12:48

Wiki tells me, and this is really interesting, that Welsh traditionally has a vigesimal (base 20) counting system, which is unusual in modern European languages but not unique - I think you get it in Danish and maybe Basque.

Apparently Welsh decimal counting originated in Argentina and was then imported back to Wales.
Welsh numerals - Wikipedia

Scottish gaelic also had a base 20 counting system. They decimalised it for Gaelic medium education.

AsWithGlad · 08/03/2026 19:02

I did not know about Scotland and Wales having used base 20 number systems. Very interesting.

When I first started teaching different numbers bases were on the syllabus for middle school students, but that was a long time ago. The people who wrote the curriculum can’t have known about the Scots and the Welsh, but it was much more GB (or the UK) = England then, anyway.

MarieDeGournay · 08/03/2026 19:49

I think it's a bit misleading to say the modern Celtic languages use a base-20 number system, as it really only makes a difference in the words we use for numbers. It's not like it's hexadecimal or binary or something like that.

So although we call 'forty' daichead in Irish, which comes from dá fhichead , 'two twenties', it's only the etymology that refers back to counting in 20s, centuries ago.

When Ireland was a centre of learning, 'The Island of Saints and Scholars' around the 5th-9th centuries [the alleged 'Dark Ages'!] mathematics was one of the areas of scholarship, and it was the same maths as used by scholars across Britain and continental Europe.

I'm not sure, but I think you'd have to go back to Roman times to find the vigesimal system being used by the Celts in calculations, rather than in the words used for numbers.

ChristmasStars · 08/03/2026 20:40

EdithStourton · 08/03/2026 17:26

I wonder about the German-minority German in New Zealand. I'm not sure if it's even spoken any longer.

As for 'I got talking to...', I also tend in this direction. As an adolescent, I discovered the existence of French Canadians by talking to some poor unsuspecting women on a bus.
'Where are you from, then?'
'Canada.'
'You sound French.'
'Yes, I am French-Canadian. I am from Quebec.'
'Wot?'
'There are many French speakers in Quebec.'
'There are?'

Interesting about Canadian French. I was once interpreting into English at a bilingual church meeting when a French Canadian was preaching. My very French friend said that she understood my translation better than the original French because she considered Canadian French to be so different. Personally I found it easier!

ChristmasStars · 08/03/2026 20:44

MarieDeGournay · 08/03/2026 12:26

In Pennsylvania I got talking to a woman ['I got talking to...' could be a summary of my life story, I love talking to new people] about the cultural heritage of the area - which had a very English name like 'Suffolk County' or something like that, but she said that the community was mostly German - but, she hastened to add, 'We're not Amish, we're the Gay Dutch' [Deutsch]Smile
I've also seen them referred to as 'The Fancy Dutch'. 'Fancy' because they are Lutherans - it's all relative, isn't it?😄

What about the Welsh that has survived in Patagonia, I wonder is it also an antique version?

That's interesting. The German speakers I met in Pennsylvania were Mennonites and Amish (not that many Amish spoke to us) with their Pennsylvanian Dutch/Deutsch.

FuzzyPuffling · 08/03/2026 20:46

I can't even join in with edges of this erudite conversation.
Yesterday wrecked me...and I wasn't drinking. Boo to chronic conditions.

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