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Feminism: Sex and gender discussions

Maternity outcomes vs gender affirming surgery outcomes

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Coatsoff42 · 18/12/2025 09:52

Just rambling my thoughts along and I can’t understand why women are generally refused/discouraged from cesareans on the grounds that the health outcomes are worse than natural childbirth, but people with healthy bodies are given gender affirming surgery which commonly has complications.

And it can’t be on the grounds of mental health implications when traumatic birth experiences leave huge numbers of women with life long PTSD and post natal depression sometimes leading to suicide.

It seems like such a double standard.

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TwoLoonsAndASprout · 18/12/2025 10:06

Coatsoff42 · 18/12/2025 09:52

Just rambling my thoughts along and I can’t understand why women are generally refused/discouraged from cesareans on the grounds that the health outcomes are worse than natural childbirth, but people with healthy bodies are given gender affirming surgery which commonly has complications.

And it can’t be on the grounds of mental health implications when traumatic birth experiences leave huge numbers of women with life long PTSD and post natal depression sometimes leading to suicide.

It seems like such a double standard.

How about the fact that young women with debilitating endometriosis are refused hysterectomies because “they might find a man and he might want to have children some day,” but young women who say they they are not women are fast-tracked into such surgeries?

You only have to scratch the surface before you see how little of it makes sense.

Coatsoff42 · 18/12/2025 10:12

@TwoLoonsAndASprout none of it makes any sense. It’s like being trapped in a funfair hall of mirrors where every mirror just shows women getting screwed over and stoically going along with it.

The cesareans really annoys me because I was refused and had massive birth damage which messed me up psychologically for years.

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Orangejews · 18/12/2025 10:13

It's whataboutism at its best. You can ask for better women's treatment without having to resort to trans bashing

whatwouldafeministdo · 18/12/2025 10:16

It makes sense if you view it through the lens of misogyny. Women aren't allowed to self-identify or have control over their own bodies unless they're self-identifying into regressive sexist stereotypes (that benefit men who see women as props) and their own harm / oppression.

Scratch below the surface and there are a lot of people who don't think women are as deserving of human rights as men. Viewing it through that lens makes it all quite clear, really, I find.

Coatsoff42 · 18/12/2025 10:19

Orangejews · 18/12/2025 10:13

It's whataboutism at its best. You can ask for better women's treatment without having to resort to trans bashing

Expecting equal standards of treatment is not trans bashing.

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MaryPaul · 18/12/2025 12:27

Coatsoff42 · 18/12/2025 09:52

Just rambling my thoughts along and I can’t understand why women are generally refused/discouraged from cesareans on the grounds that the health outcomes are worse than natural childbirth, but people with healthy bodies are given gender affirming surgery which commonly has complications.

And it can’t be on the grounds of mental health implications when traumatic birth experiences leave huge numbers of women with life long PTSD and post natal depression sometimes leading to suicide.

It seems like such a double standard.

Apples to oranges.

Seethlaw · 18/12/2025 12:53

MaryPaul · 18/12/2025 12:27

Apples to oranges.

How so? Where's the difference in your eyes?

MaryPaul · 18/12/2025 13:08

Seethlaw · 18/12/2025 12:53

How so? Where's the difference in your eyes?

Unrelated cases. Should we not treat healthy people injuring themselves at the gym either? Or do we just seeth about the trans?

Seethlaw · 18/12/2025 13:19

MaryPaul · 18/12/2025 13:08

Unrelated cases. Should we not treat healthy people injuring themselves at the gym either? Or do we just seeth about the trans?

I'm lost. Healthy people who are injured are not healthy anymore by definition, and that's why we treat them. And anyway, who are you comparing to them: women giving birth, or trans people?

MaryPaul · 18/12/2025 13:28

Seethlaw · 18/12/2025 13:19

I'm lost. Healthy people who are injured are not healthy anymore by definition, and that's why we treat them. And anyway, who are you comparing to them: women giving birth, or trans people?

If you're confused, then maybe get off the internet for the day.

TwoLoonsAndASprout · 18/12/2025 13:33

@Seethlaw, is it bad that I really want to make popcorn right about now?

nicepotoftea · 18/12/2025 13:40

Coatsoff42 · 18/12/2025 09:52

Just rambling my thoughts along and I can’t understand why women are generally refused/discouraged from cesareans on the grounds that the health outcomes are worse than natural childbirth, but people with healthy bodies are given gender affirming surgery which commonly has complications.

And it can’t be on the grounds of mental health implications when traumatic birth experiences leave huge numbers of women with life long PTSD and post natal depression sometimes leading to suicide.

It seems like such a double standard.

I thought that following scandals where women had suffered bad outcomes because because of emphasis on 'natural birth' they weren't discouraged any more?

Seethlaw · 18/12/2025 13:43

MaryPaul · 18/12/2025 13:28

If you're confused, then maybe get off the internet for the day.

Be kind, please. I'm just trying to understand your point of view. Isn't that why you're bothering to post here?

BundleBoogie · 18/12/2025 13:44

Orangejews · 18/12/2025 10:13

It's whataboutism at its best. You can ask for better women's treatment without having to resort to trans bashing

Can you explain how it is ‘trans bashing’ to want similar standards of care and caution to avoid harm to be applied consistently?

Why do you think it is ok for people who claim a trans identity to be able to have procedures that will ruin their health but others are protected far more rigorously? Isn’t that a bit transphobic?

BundleBoogie · 18/12/2025 13:47

MaryPaul · 18/12/2025 13:08

Unrelated cases. Should we not treat healthy people injuring themselves at the gym either? Or do we just seeth about the trans?

Eh?

Treating an injury to a healthy body SHOULD be done.

Creating an injury to a healthy body SHOULD NOT be done. Even if the person really thinks they want it.

HTH.

MaryPaul · 18/12/2025 13:49

Seethlaw · 18/12/2025 13:43

Be kind, please. I'm just trying to understand your point of view. Isn't that why you're bothering to post here?

My point was made clearly. Why are you getting so fixated with me?

MaryPaul · 18/12/2025 13:56

BundleBoogie · 18/12/2025 13:47

Eh?

Treating an injury to a healthy body SHOULD be done.

Creating an injury to a healthy body SHOULD NOT be done. Even if the person really thinks they want it.

HTH.

Do we ban tattoos, flying on airplanes, xrays, smoking, alcohool consumption and calorific surplus? Ever heard of body autonomy?

EtLuxPerpetuaLuceatEis · 18/12/2025 14:07

MaryPaul · 18/12/2025 13:56

Do we ban tattoos, flying on airplanes, xrays, smoking, alcohool consumption and calorific surplus? Ever heard of body autonomy?

Good grief.

FondOfOwls · 18/12/2025 14:09

MaryPaul · 18/12/2025 13:56

Do we ban tattoos, flying on airplanes, xrays, smoking, alcohool consumption and calorific surplus? Ever heard of body autonomy?

Alcohol, cigarettes, overeating- all heavily discouraged afaik? But perfectly fine to cut off perfectly healthy body parents because of... what exactly? Feelings in your head? Don't be ridiculous.

Seethlaw · 18/12/2025 14:10

TwoLoonsAndASprout · 18/12/2025 13:33

@Seethlaw, is it bad that I really want to make popcorn right about now?

Apparently, they are just here to scold, not to discuss. Ah well.

FondOfOwls · 18/12/2025 14:10

Sorry, meant to say *body parts of course

MaryPaul · 18/12/2025 14:11

FondOfOwls · 18/12/2025 14:09

Alcohol, cigarettes, overeating- all heavily discouraged afaik? But perfectly fine to cut off perfectly healthy body parents because of... what exactly? Feelings in your head? Don't be ridiculous.

Didn't take long for the transphobic rhetoric to emerge.

FondOfOwls · 18/12/2025 14:11

MaryPaul · 18/12/2025 14:11

Didn't take long for the transphobic rhetoric to emerge.

What is transphobic?

nicepotoftea · 18/12/2025 14:13

MaryPaul · 18/12/2025 13:56

Do we ban tattoos, flying on airplanes, xrays, smoking, alcohool consumption and calorific surplus? Ever heard of body autonomy?

I'm not sure what your argument is here. It's illegal to sell tattoos and alcohol to under eighteens, and smoking is gradually being banned. There are strict safety restrictions on both air travel and X-rays.

High sugar foods are taxed to discourage consumption.

In the UK there are strict controls on the kind of medical treatment that can be given, and doctors can refuse treatment that they think will do harm.

MaryPaul · 18/12/2025 14:19

Didn't expect to see all the terfs come out of the woods on this, sad lives you must lead chasing ghosts

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