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Feminism: Sex and gender discussions

Prime Minister refused to ban 1st cousin marriage

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happydappy2 · 04/10/2025 10:10

Even though there is clear evidence of serious birth defects to babies born from 1st cousin marriages. It is deeply worrying that the bride and groom will have the same Grand Parents.....this is unsafe for women in a patriarchal family system.

Who takes on the bulk of the work caring for the disabled child-the woman...

Why is the British gov't promoting incest?

https://x.com/Basil_TGMD/status/1974371215629578344

I hope this is not true...but does anyone know any more about it?

Basil the Great (@Basil_TGMD) on X

Keir Starmer blocked a ban on 'cousin marriage' That's right, the UK Government is actively promoting incest

https://x.com/Basil_TGMD/status/1974371215629578344

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NeverDropYourMooncup · 04/10/2025 13:37

lcakethereforeIam · 04/10/2025 11:28

Once in a while, unless you're very unlucky, seems relatively (no pun intended) without risk but happening generation after generation will see birth defects increase. A short term alternative might be to screen parents for recessive traits and have a treatment plan if they are found. I think this is a thing done in some Jewish communities? Doesn't help though for birth defects that can't yet be screened for, or new ones that might show up, or people who won't, for whatever reason, don't cooperate.

Aside from some Muslims are there other communities where this may be a problem? Orthodox Jews? Travellers? Plymouth brethren? The Royal family?

Ever heard the so-called joke 'normal for Norfolk'? Applies to multiple communities across the UK particularly where the dating pool was smaller and DNA testing wasn't a thing; you just need a few large families in the 1930s and 40s and there's a good chance that there is a genetic connection or three between those of a similar age a couple of generations down. All ethnicities, all faiths, many towns, areas of cities and counties.

CraftyNavySeal · 04/10/2025 13:38

Imnobody4 · 04/10/2025 12:07

It would be illegal. Sharia does not trump British law.

No it wouldn’t because banning the legal recognition of a relationship does not ban the relationship itself. For example homosexuality was decriminalised decades before gay marriage was recognised.

It would not be enough to ban cousin marriage you would have to redefine the laws surrounding incest.

Sharia law doesn’t trump civil law but equally civil law does not trump people from having agreements between themselves. I can “marry” 3 men in a pagan ceremony if I want to.

LidlAmaretto · 04/10/2025 13:44

Imnobody4 · 04/10/2025 12:07

It would be illegal. Sharia does not trump British law.

If you ban cousin marriages then that doesn't stop Sharia non legal marriages and babies being conceived into them with birth defects. It just means that as well as women having to see their children die over and over again from congenital abnormalities and having to care for disabled children they can be Sharia divorced at the drop of a hat with no legal redress. I think cousin marriages should be banned, for societal reasons as well as to stop girls being sent to Pakistan to be married to their cousins ( no marriage, no visa) and to state that the practice is illegal and detrimental but there are problems caused by it.

MaturingCheeseball · 04/10/2025 13:44

There used to be a term “village idiot” - because every village had them. When you only married within a very small geographical area (you never met anyone else!) inbreeding was inevitable.

As posters have repeatedly said, one off cousin marriage is unlikely to be problematic. Repeated cousin marriage increases the likelihood of birth defects.

I don’t understand why some posters are in denial; my dog’s line is carefully managed to avoid in-breeding. Humans are just the same. They’re not magically exempt.

mumofoneAloneandwell · 04/10/2025 13:46

Is there a news article please op?

Definitely should be banned, its a ridiculous practice that needs to go to protect women and children.

MaturingCheeseball · 04/10/2025 13:48

Basically Labour are afraid of losing a good whack of voters if this policy were to be enacted. They will be bending over backwards, forwards and inside out to keep a good many constituencies come the next election.

EasternStandard · 04/10/2025 13:54

BundleBoogie · 04/10/2025 13:35

I hate to point it out to you but that was in 1840 - in the days where they had only just realised that public sanitation needed to be a thing and believed in illnesses cause by ‘miasma’ - foul smelling air.

In more recent times, as it was realised that repeated cousiin marriage caused birth defects as infamously experienced by the House of Hapsburg, we as a society deemed cousin marriage as unacceptable.

For PPs that say cousin marriage is happening in the UK, therefore it’s socially acceptable, please remember that lots of things are socially unacceptable but that doesn’t stop them happening.

Yes I’m not sure why people are looking to history for this. Society changes and the laws should reflect that.

NeverDropYourMooncup · 04/10/2025 13:55

MaturingCheeseball · 04/10/2025 13:44

There used to be a term “village idiot” - because every village had them. When you only married within a very small geographical area (you never met anyone else!) inbreeding was inevitable.

As posters have repeatedly said, one off cousin marriage is unlikely to be problematic. Repeated cousin marriage increases the likelihood of birth defects.

I don’t understand why some posters are in denial; my dog’s line is carefully managed to avoid in-breeding. Humans are just the same. They’re not magically exempt.

I don’t understand why some posters are in denial; my dog’s line is carefully managed to avoid in-breeding. Humans are just the same.

Well, yes. Trouble is that when applied to humans, it becomes Eugenics.

wisbech · 04/10/2025 14:09

Abhannmor · 04/10/2025 12:51

I never knew this. But was it actually ever illegal in Common Law? The Church going with the science in the 6th century , counterintuitive.

Back to Starmer. As I recall ID cards were acceptable to a majority, or at least a plurality , of British people recently. Then Starmer announced their introduction. Suddenly they are a monstrous assault on civil liberties and he is a raving Marxist working for the secret world government etc. Now opinion polls seem to be showing opposition to them. Personally I used to be very opposed , now I'm more agnostic. Since my movements can be tracked on this phone.

The point is Starmer is obviously the Jonah of politics and anything he says or does is poison to the media and subsequently to the voters. You must get him to voice support for anything you wish to abolish. Get Morgan McSweeny to back first cousin marriages. In 6 months Steer Calmer will be forced into a U turn . Job done.

Marriage was never governed by common law, but by ecclesiastic (church) law and by acts of Parliament (statute law) So it was illegal while England was part of Catholicism, then, as part of the reforms that broke us from the Catholic Church, was made legal. Technically the Catholic Church didn't have a hard ban though, but you needed dispensation (permission) from them to marry a cousin.

PastaAllaNorma · 04/10/2025 14:18

Let's not pretend this is something the British didn't do. The upper classes married cousins for centuries.

Just think of Pride and Prejudice - Lady Catherine was determined Darcy marry her daughter, his cousin, as had been planned by their mother's in infancy. Or Fanny and Edward in Mansfield Park.

It's definitely a problem when repeated through generations, as the NHS Trusts in Bradford and Leicester are aware. However, making it illegal isn't necessarily the most helpful way to end it and can have harmful consequences for the women concerned.

TheCountessofLocksley · 04/10/2025 14:19

happydappy2 · 04/10/2025 11:10

I don't mean to be inflammatory-I'm amazed that this situation is currently legal, due to the ethical reasons of harms to the child produced from that relationship. It's not fair on the child or the Mother who no doubt will be doing the bulk of child care. It's also not sensible due to the cost to the tax payer of caring for these children. Combined with the fact that young girls might not have a choice in whom they are marrying this just seems so very backwards.

Blame Henry VIII - before 1540 it was illegal, he changed the law to marry Kat Howard. So it’s been been happening for centuries now, mostly upper class marriages, that’s how they kept their wealth! Victoria and Albert were cousins and Darwin also married his cousin (you’d have thought he might have thought that through before having 10 children).

Things may change as we find out more about the health implications for children of these marriages or the impact in their children’s health. At present, I’m sure the Bill will fail as first cousin marriages are a relatively small % of all UK marriages though I appreciate if you break it down by race/religion the proportion of first cousin marriages can be much higher (Born in Bradford study)

Any changes would likely fail an equality pact assessment (or at least raise some interesting challenges for the Gov lawyers) it could be argued that prohibiting first cousin marriage has a disproportionately negative impact on certain protected groups, eg Irish travellers, people with African or Asian heritage. Prohibiting it in the UK wouldn’t stop it happening in other parts of the world, where it is legal and women, there would need to be safeguards like there are for girls sent abroad for FGM. Also there could be a knock on effect on maternal deaths if women who have married a first cousin abroad ate then reluctant to seek ante-natal care for fear of stigmatisation.

it could be a case of doing less harm by leaving it as it is. not an easy decision for anyone to make. If you’re interested, follow the Bills progress on the Parliament website and in Hansard so you can see what is being asked/discussed.

happydappy2 · 04/10/2025 14:32

mumofoneAloneandwell · 04/10/2025 13:46

Is there a news article please op?

Definitely should be banned, its a ridiculous practice that needs to go to protect women and children.

afraid I don't have a news article yet. To the above poster who implied it would be eugenics-I really don't think it's comparable! Drs advise against alcohol and smoking whilst pregnant-they should also advocate against 1st cousin marriage-especially when it is repeated generation after generation.

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Missey85 · 04/10/2025 14:33

You can marry your cousin over there? I didn't know that it's always been illegal in Australia you have to get a blood test before you get married

PandoraSocks · 04/10/2025 14:37

MaturingCheeseball · 04/10/2025 13:48

Basically Labour are afraid of losing a good whack of voters if this policy were to be enacted. They will be bending over backwards, forwards and inside out to keep a good many constituencies come the next election.

Why didn't the Tories address it during their 14 year reign?

Thedevilhasfinallycaughtupwithhim · 04/10/2025 14:39

It should be illegal.
There is absolutely no reason why we shouldn’t change the law to be to date with modern scientific knowledge.
Not to mention the coercion of very young women often involved.

Abhannmor · 04/10/2025 14:44

PandoraSocks · 04/10/2025 14:37

Why didn't the Tories address it during their 14 year reign?

Shush . Remember that all England's woes and discontents date from July 4th 2024.

EasternStandard · 04/10/2025 14:44

Missey85 · 04/10/2025 14:33

You can marry your cousin over there? I didn't know that it's always been illegal in Australia you have to get a blood test before you get married

Really? About the blood test, how long has that been in place

EasternStandard · 04/10/2025 14:44

Abhannmor · 04/10/2025 14:44

Shush . Remember that all England's woes and discontents date from July 4th 2024.

Oh no it’s all great now as people said it would be.

WeAreNumpties · 04/10/2025 14:46

For hundreds of years it was very, very common for British people to marry cousins, often first cousins, particularly in rural areas, so let's stop with all the superiority and pearl clutching. It only becomes a problem when there is repeated intermarrying of cousins.

BundleBoogie · 04/10/2025 14:50

WallLight · 04/10/2025 13:26

There you go again with the inflammatory language. It’s hardly a ‘perilous public health issue’. Cousin marriage is declining in Bradford, as follow-up studies are showing, and the genetic risks can be mitigated by genetic counselling and tests to check whether potential cousin spouses carry the same faulty gene.

The doubled risk of genetic anomalies being the same as for a white British woman having a baby over the age of 34 (I was wrong, it’s 34, not 35) is here, but you would need to read the full study to get more detail.

https://borninbradford.nhs.uk/wp-content/uploads/2023/04/HG2954-BIHR-BiB-Evidence-Briefing-Genes-and-Health-4.pdf

Incest is a legal category, specific to certain legal jurisdictions, yes. Cousin marriage is legal (ie it does not constitute incest) in far more of the world than it is illegal.

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That was auto correct - it was meant to be ‘serious’.

I read the study and it came across as being very defensive. Almost as if it had some preconceived agenda…

I presume this is the section you are referring to. I couldn’t see any citations for the comparison in turn but the thing that jumped out at me was that while they admitted that risk doubled after cousin marriage, they then didn’t give a baseline or any contextual info about the claim that the risks for white British women were also ‘double’. Double what? They are talking about 2 entirely different cohorts. Their figures also contradict other studies that found 12% infant mortality in repeated cousin marriages through the generations.

The figure that I found was that the additional risk to white women over 35 was 0.89 so it appears that the baseline risk factor is 0.445. It’s comparing completely different things and utterly dishonest.

They also claim that white women having babies over 35 is a ‘cultural practice’. No it isn’t. The demands of careers and government may be pushing women to have children later but it is not a ‘cultural practice’. In any case, if it had an equal risk to cousin marriage I’m sure words would be had and older mothers would be shamed for putting their kids health at risk.

You point out that cousin marriage in Bradford is declining - why? If it’s so risk free and desirable, why is it happening less? It would be even lower if we made it illegal. Then it would be classed as incest.

I am very worried that medical care and society are moving backwards. We seem to be encouraging people to continue with a practice that we KNOW creates health issues. These people might get screening but that doesn’t necessarily pick up all possibilities so then what? Are we deliberately creating a situation where there will be more abortion required ?

In each pregnancy there will be a 25% chance that this mutation is co-inherited by their offspring, resulting in the expression of the disorder. There also is a wider risk of an adverse impact on biological fitness through generational effects (so-called inbreeding depression).
Born in Bradford provides the most definitive UK evidence of risk of congenital anomalies.
After allowing for risk factors such as age, obesity and smoking, the risk of congenital anomalies was doubled (3% to 6%) in first cousin marriages and explained 30% of genetic disorders.
However the risk to the child they give birth to also doubled in White British women over the age of 34 years.
At this point, it is important to mention that just like a cousin marriage is a cultural practice in Asian/British Pakistanis heritage, resulting in increasing risk factors for congenital anomalies, so too is choosing to give birth at or after the age 34 in White British women/couples.

EasternStandard · 04/10/2025 14:56

WeAreNumpties · 04/10/2025 14:46

For hundreds of years it was very, very common for British people to marry cousins, often first cousins, particularly in rural areas, so let's stop with all the superiority and pearl clutching. It only becomes a problem when there is repeated intermarrying of cousins.

Times change, laws reflect that. Or should.

MainframeMalfunction · 04/10/2025 14:58

Newsenmum · 04/10/2025 11:58

I think the issue is that the only communities who do it will do it anyway but be not protected as will use sharia law marriages. I do think it’s a tricky one though.

Pseudo legal systems or courts should also be banned.

KitWyn · 04/10/2025 15:01

WeAreNumpties · 04/10/2025 14:46

For hundreds of years it was very, very common for British people to marry cousins, often first cousins, particularly in rural areas, so let's stop with all the superiority and pearl clutching. It only becomes a problem when there is repeated intermarrying of cousins.

But it is not common any more in virtually all communities in the UK, for very good reasons!

And the only effective way of addressing it is to ban it in all circumstances. And requiring all religious marriages within mainstream religions, including Islam and Orthodox Judaism, must be accompanied with a civil service shortly after.

One of the most upsetting programmes I have ever watched was 'When Cousins Marry' from Channel 4 Dispatches (2010).

It has been removed from the Channel 4 app, but is still on YouTube. It is truly heartbreaking.

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Imnobody4 · 04/10/2025 15:07

CraftyNavySeal · 04/10/2025 13:38

No it wouldn’t because banning the legal recognition of a relationship does not ban the relationship itself. For example homosexuality was decriminalised decades before gay marriage was recognised.

It would not be enough to ban cousin marriage you would have to redefine the laws surrounding incest.

Sharia law doesn’t trump civil law but equally civil law does not trump people from having agreements between themselves. I can “marry” 3 men in a pagan ceremony if I want to.

You're misunderstanding Sharia. It requires proper ceremonies etc and as such is limited by the law of the land. ie it's not just a bit of cos play.

Imam appears in court charged with allowing illegal marriage of 16-year-olds at Northampton mosque | ITV News Anglia https://share.google/2mNvvvGccUBeVXyGX
Ashraf Osmani, 52, of Abington Avenue, Northampton, spoke only to confirm his name, address and date of birth when he appeared at Northampton Magistrates' Court on Thursday.He was charged under forced marriage legislation, according to Northamptonshire Police.It is alleged that Osmani conducted a Nikah marriage ceremony in November 2023, involving two 16-year-old children at the Northampton Central Mosque, where he is the serving imam, the mosque’s most senior Muslim cleric.

Thedevilhasfinallycaughtupwithhim · 04/10/2025 15:11

MainframeMalfunction · 04/10/2025 14:58

Pseudo legal systems or courts should also be banned.

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