It happened in the USA. For those who don’t want to click a YouTube link, here is an NBC link
www.nbcnews.com/news/amp/rcna224562
”Gerika Mudra, 18, went to dinner in April with a friend in Owatonna, about an hour south of Minneapolis. When she went to the restroom, a server followed her inside and banged on the stall door while saying: “This is a women’s restroom. The man needs to get out of here,” according to Gender Justice, a Minnesota gender-equality organization that filed the charge on Mudra’s behalf.“
The Buffalo Wild Wings staff member likely didn’t handle it well initially. Particularly as this could have been a child still. The article goes on to say.
”Mudra said she felt she had to prove to the server that she is a woman, so she unzipped her hoodie to show she has breasts. The server didn’t say anything in response but left the restroom, Mudra said.”
I would suggest that the server did not want this person to be showing body parts, but some kind of ID.
All this ludicrous hyperbolic ‘genital inspection’ discussion has likely influenced young people to think when asked that they should do this. That is where the overly dramatic and catastrophised sound bite being repeated over and over gets society.
Certainly, the staff at that outlet need training on appropriate ways to deal with this.
Throughout history when female people have had sex segregated toilets, we have had some female people being asked if they were in the correct toilet for them. I have been. And others have been. It rarely happened though.
But it did happen, and to some it happened more than once. When we answered questions, our voices gave assurance when needed and I don’t believe there were more than a few very rare instances where we were removed from the single sex space.
However, imagine if no male person ever sought to access any female single sex space. That male people all respected the needs of female single sex provisions and simply used or found another alternative.
Tell us BeeS Again. What is it exactly that you think this incident proves?
Because to me, it proves that a movement that supports male people using female single sex spaces and using overly dramatic phrases such as ‘genital inspections’ has had a significant negative impact on female people. The ‘patriarchy’ = male people who won’t agree that they should all now stay out knowing that it may likely cause female people distress.
I do not think this incident shows quite what you think it does. So crack on posting them. The collection of incidents of the significant negative impacts on female people of your own demands needs to be done and I thank you for publicising it widely.