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Feminism: Sex and gender discussions

Blackadder star Tony Robinson vents anger over ‘heightism’

90 replies

Valeriekat · 08/08/2025 07:07

In the Guardian
Another man who doesn't seem to think that women get to choose!
I don't suppose he has similar scruples about "uglyism" or even ageism.

OP posts:
JustFish · 08/08/2025 09:05

Of course, the character he became famous for, Baldric in black adder was very dependent on the physical comedy of his size as a proxy for his class and roles in the series. It wouldn't have been as funny/believable with a 6ft plus chap, or someone kneeling to play a short character. And this, as his best known role after rep theatre (where many of his characters would be cast at least partly due to his physicality) was the springboard to presentation and other interesting roles. So he probably shouldn't complain too much about 'shortism' when he was willing to accept a career and fame based on playing up to it.

BlueEyedBogWitch · 08/08/2025 09:06

TeenageRooster · 08/08/2025 09:03

Without having to defend him as a person, he makes a reasonable point here. I know teenage boys who look at insane advice on YouTube about how to increase your height because they are so worried about this. It's often presented as a reasonable 'requirement' in a way that would be called out as wrong if it were about women's weight, height, or similar.

Women are judged almost entirely on their looks. We literally have surgery to rectify the perceived flaws in our bodies. It’s not ‘called out’, it’s so normal as to go largely uncommented on. Entire industries are based on it.

I can’t get worked up about males feeling sad about their height while young girls are routinely getting lip fillers and boob jobs.

DCC2025 · 08/08/2025 09:06

I think height wouldn’t be an issue if it weren’t for the fact that people can be so bloody mean about it! A male friend of mine is short and has the piss taken out of him even by people who are supposed to be his friends.

RayonSunrise · 08/08/2025 09:07

JeremiahBullfrog · 08/08/2025 08:50

Certain women seem to feel very strongly about height. If it was men putting as much attention on a single female attribute (e.g. "I won't date women with small breasts in any circumstances") we'd be calling it out. Doubtless a fair number of men do think like this (e.g. "I won't date fat women"), but only the arseholes are open about it.

That said it's not at all obvious to me that short men are vastly less likely to end up in stable relationships at the end of the day, or that society spends a lot of time making fun of short men or (metaphorically) looking down on them. I would guess in general it's worse being fat or balding. It's difficult to tell where the border between valid complaint and overstating things lies.

Men do insist on dating women shorter than them, though! It’s a preference that goes both ways.

CaptainMyCaptain · 08/08/2025 09:12

PulchritudinousLycanthrope · 08/08/2025 09:03

This 100%.

Look at Rod Stewart. He's a shortarse but gorgeous and is not afraid to date and marry a string of tall Amazonian gorgeous women and he deserved every one I'm sure. It's what you do with it really.

Mick Jagger is tiny. It hasn't hurt him.

TeenageRooster · 08/08/2025 09:13

BlueEyedBogWitch · 08/08/2025 09:06

Women are judged almost entirely on their looks. We literally have surgery to rectify the perceived flaws in our bodies. It’s not ‘called out’, it’s so normal as to go largely uncommented on. Entire industries are based on it.

I can’t get worked up about males feeling sad about their height while young girls are routinely getting lip fillers and boob jobs.

I don't think it's an either or. I agree that women have it worse. Height is an issue for men though.

OldCrone · 08/08/2025 09:14

PulchritudinousLycanthrope · 08/08/2025 09:03

This 100%.

Look at Rod Stewart. He's a shortarse but gorgeous and is not afraid to date and marry a string of tall Amazonian gorgeous women and he deserved every one I'm sure. It's what you do with it really.

Apparently Rod Stewart is 5'10" which I don't think many people would class as 'short'. He only looks short next to his wife because she's over 6'.

1abovethead · 08/08/2025 09:16

PulchritudinousLycanthrope · 08/08/2025 09:03

This 100%.

Look at Rod Stewart. He's a shortarse but gorgeous and is not afraid to date and marry a string of tall Amazonian gorgeous women and he deserved every one I'm sure. It's what you do with it really.

You don't think the fact he was incredibly rich and famous helped?

You maybe haven't noticed this, but rich and famous or powerful men don't need to rely on their looks or personalities to attract a mate.

TeenageRooster · 08/08/2025 09:16

PulchritudinousLycanthrope · 08/08/2025 09:03

This 100%.

Look at Rod Stewart. He's a shortarse but gorgeous and is not afraid to date and marry a string of tall Amazonian gorgeous women and he deserved every one I'm sure. It's what you do with it really.

Just looked it up and Rod Stewart is 5 ft 10! This is what I mean.

ErrolTheDragon · 08/08/2025 09:17

CaptainMyCaptain · 08/08/2025 09:12

Mick Jagger is tiny. It hasn't hurt him.

I actually had no idea Mick and Rod were short! (Ah…just seen post perhaps that’s misinformation… I’m 5’1 so very few men are short imo!😂)

Theres plenty of short actors who are good looking or have some sort of charisma, from Tom Cruise through Dustin Hoffmann to Danny de Vito, for example.

I’ve no idea about dating apps and their filters. It has to be asked - is there one to exclude blokes whose thingies look like turnips?

PrettyDamnCosmic · 08/08/2025 09:23

ErrolTheDragon · 08/08/2025 09:17

I actually had no idea Mick and Rod were short! (Ah…just seen post perhaps that’s misinformation… I’m 5’1 so very few men are short imo!😂)

Theres plenty of short actors who are good looking or have some sort of charisma, from Tom Cruise through Dustin Hoffmann to Danny de Vito, for example.

I’ve no idea about dating apps and their filters. It has to be asked - is there one to exclude blokes whose thingies look like turnips?

Edited

According to Google both Rod & Mick are 5'10" which is taller than the UK male average of 5'9". If you want a short arse lead singer of that generation I give you Roger Daltrey at 5'7".

CaptainMyCaptain · 08/08/2025 09:28

PrettyDamnCosmic · 08/08/2025 09:23

According to Google both Rod & Mick are 5'10" which is taller than the UK male average of 5'9". If you want a short arse lead singer of that generation I give you Roger Daltrey at 5'7".

I'm surprised if that's true. I hadn't regarded Rod Stewart as short but Mick Jagger looks very small.

Thetigerdrankmywine · 08/08/2025 09:30

I'm 5'9. I don't know whether I just live in a place full of short men, or what, but I've always been taller than most men and it definitely made it harder to pull. Men might like to look at tall women, but they don't necessarily want to go out with one. Especially if she's 6ft in heels. Most of the men over my life have been between 5'11-6ft. I'd consider 5'10 short for a man, so sadly, there are few celebrity men i can accept.

What I don't think is fair, is tiny women getting very tall men. If you're short, you've got loads of choice. There should be a rule- no more than 3 inches taller than your base height, so everyone gets one of an appropriate height difference. 😁

ShesTheAlbatross · 08/08/2025 09:36

Google tells me Tom Holland is 5’6. 4 inches shorter than his fiancé Zendaya.

I wonder if he’s the shortest Hollywood superhero. Movies feel like places where they’d aim for tall superheroes, and to have any female love interest be shorter.

WhatterySquash · 08/08/2025 09:37

TR’s performance as Baldrick was a thing of genius so I will always admire him for that. (Though the writing helped obviously!)

He’s right in a way that short men are sidelined and written off. However I’m tall and while I do like a taller man, I would consider shorter but most men aren’t interested in a woman taller than them IME. Meanwhile, lots of women only want a tall/over 6 ft man even when they themselves are below average height which seems daft to me. If you’re 5’2, most men are taller than you so why restrict it to the really tall ones?

But he is being very blinkered in his whining and forgetting all the other physical things that are considered undesirable that people have to put up with and get on with it.

One thing that makes shorter men really attractive is when they style it out and have confidence (real confidence not aggression or bluster). Prince, Bruno Mars, Peter Dinklage, Tom Holland. Be more Prince, Tony!

PrettyDamnCosmic · 08/08/2025 09:37

Thetigerdrankmywine · 08/08/2025 09:30

I'm 5'9. I don't know whether I just live in a place full of short men, or what, but I've always been taller than most men and it definitely made it harder to pull. Men might like to look at tall women, but they don't necessarily want to go out with one. Especially if she's 6ft in heels. Most of the men over my life have been between 5'11-6ft. I'd consider 5'10 short for a man, so sadly, there are few celebrity men i can accept.

What I don't think is fair, is tiny women getting very tall men. If you're short, you've got loads of choice. There should be a rule- no more than 3 inches taller than your base height, so everyone gets one of an appropriate height difference. 😁

What I don't think is fair, is tiny women getting very tall men. If you're short, you've got loads of choice. There should be a rule- no more than 3 inches taller than your base height, so everyone gets one of an appropriate height difference. 😁

The average man in the UK is 5'9" while the average woman is 5'3". Mandating a height difference of no more than 3" would lead to unfairness particularly for tall women.😀

AMurderofMurderingCrows · 08/08/2025 09:39

BlueEyedBogWitch · 08/08/2025 08:59

“It’s because I’m short, isn’t it?”

No, Tony, it’s because you’re a tiresome, creepy, bloviating twat.

Edited

What a brilliant description 😂👏

TheStateofRoads · 08/08/2025 09:39

My eldest sister is taller than her husband. When she's annoyed with him she wears her tallest heels. Not entirely sure she's aware she does it.

WhatterySquash · 08/08/2025 09:39

Thetigerdrankmywine · 08/08/2025 09:30

I'm 5'9. I don't know whether I just live in a place full of short men, or what, but I've always been taller than most men and it definitely made it harder to pull. Men might like to look at tall women, but they don't necessarily want to go out with one. Especially if she's 6ft in heels. Most of the men over my life have been between 5'11-6ft. I'd consider 5'10 short for a man, so sadly, there are few celebrity men i can accept.

What I don't think is fair, is tiny women getting very tall men. If you're short, you've got loads of choice. There should be a rule- no more than 3 inches taller than your base height, so everyone gets one of an appropriate height difference. 😁

X-posted! Yes I like your rule. Couples out on the street with a 5 ft woman and a 6ft man - arrest them!

WhatterySquash · 08/08/2025 09:41

AMurderofMurderingCrows · 08/08/2025 09:39

What a brilliant description 😂👏

I love the word “bloviating”. So perfect for so many men…

BellaAmorosa · 08/08/2025 09:46

RayonSunrise · 08/08/2025 08:37

Speaking as a tall woman, I’ve never found that men shorter than I am have particularly wanted to date me. Quite the opposite - they look for women shorter than them.

Should I have complained about “heightism?”

Interestingly, I have had exactly the opposite experience. Every man bar one was shorter - I am slightly above average height for a man, and all the men were average or below average height - in one case, well below. I found that tall men were interested in short or very short women and the one time I went out with a bloke who was taller than I am it felt so, so wrong!😁

EastCoastDweller · 08/08/2025 09:50

Completely off the point of the thread: I am so upset to hear that TR is an ar***le. He was a personal friend of Terry Pratchett and as a huge Terry Pratchett fan I am trying not to think about his choice of close personal friends, which included Neil Gaiman.

Sorry, just had to get that off my chest. I have been working very hard to detach my appreciation of the art from the individual. This makes it harder. Bit like the Wagner dilemma.

Thetigerdrankmywine · 08/08/2025 09:51

WhatterySquash · 08/08/2025 09:39

X-posted! Yes I like your rule. Couples out on the street with a 5 ft woman and a 6ft man - arrest them!

Or just redistribute people, like in year group photos!

WhatterySquash · 08/08/2025 09:52

BellaAmorosa · 08/08/2025 09:46

Interestingly, I have had exactly the opposite experience. Every man bar one was shorter - I am slightly above average height for a man, and all the men were average or below average height - in one case, well below. I found that tall men were interested in short or very short women and the one time I went out with a bloke who was taller than I am it felt so, so wrong!😁

I had a boyfriend who was 6’3” to my 5’10” and he still felt I was too tall, the twat.

YanTanTetheraPetheraBumfitt · 08/08/2025 09:57

Women are absolutely entitled to date who they want....but he's not wrong that a lot of women will pass a short man over just because of his height. And he's entitled to a grumble about that. It's not wrong to wish that people wouldn't make snap judgements.

If I was 6ft4" and men wouldn't date me for being too tall I'd probably be a bit sad.

One of my friends - her adult son is 5'3" and he very much thinks he gets friend zoned by a lot of women. Yes he would never think that women aren't allowed preferences, but he can still wish it wasn't happening.

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